October 4, 2010

Rutgers holds vigil for student who committed suicide

Posted: 12:26 PM ET

Tonight on Larry King Live:
In the wake of a gay male student at Rutgers University who took his own life and other recent teen suicides, Larry King Live discusses bullying.

(CNN) - Rutgers University held an emotional vigil Sunday evening as the campus grapples with the suicide of a student whose sexual encounter with another man was broadcast online.

The body of Tyler Clementi, 18, was recovered from the Hudson River on Thursday, more than a week after he jumped from the George Washington Bridge, which spans the river between New York and New Jersey.

Two other Rutgers students - Clementi's roommate, Dharun Ravi, 18, and Molly Wei, 18 - have been charged with invasion of privacy. The pair allegedly placed a camera in Clementi's dorm room without his knowledge and then streamed his sexual encounter online, according to the Middlesex County, New Jersey, prosecutor's office.

"Our entire campus is very upset about what happened," said Greg Blimling, Rutgers' Vice President of Student Affairs. "The entire campus is in mourning. And we feel very deeply for what happened to the family. This is a terrible tragedy."

Students and other members of the university community, some wearing pins that read "Pride," stood silently as they lit and held white candles.


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jason---san antonio   October 4th, 2010 12:30 pm ET

This is such a tragedy. Why are we NOT hearing about the other young man in the video????????????

remy730   October 4th, 2010 1:45 pm ET

How ironic that they wear pins that say pride when one of their own was so ashamed to be one of them that he killed himself.

Billie   October 4th, 2010 1:54 pm ET

The two teens arrested for filming and then posting the sexual encounter of the gay guy who then committed suicide should, at the absolute least, be charged with invasion of privacy but, more appropriately, be charged with involuntary manslaughter.

Michael Muhari   October 4th, 2010 2:35 pm ET

Hi, My name is Muhari from Nairobi, Kenya.
I'm so sorry for the parents of this guy and fellow students!!!

Propapedia   October 4th, 2010 3:35 pm ET

This is a terrible story, so sad.

May he rest in peace

Ferial   October 4th, 2010 9:18 pm ET

I am very sorry for Tyler Clementi, who committed suicide – because he probably felt he had no one to turn towards. I feel equally sorry for the two kids who videoed him. Knowing young teeagers, I believe they took it as a 'college prank'. I am just wonderimg that society collectively will end up ' bullying' the two kids and may drive them to commit suicide. Two wrongs do not make a 'right'. Peolpe should have compassion. I hope someone can give these two kids a kind & patient hearing.

Ferial   October 4th, 2010 9:22 pm ET

The lesson i learn from Tyler Clementi story is that we should show tolerance for all people living in this world. We should support humanity, we should not try to compartmentalize people on basis of their color, religion, sexual orientation, nationality etc etc. Being gay is not wrong, it is natural. Be proud of yourself.

Sam   October 4th, 2010 9:26 pm ET

We live in an era when nobody is responsible for themselves. Tyler Clementi killed himself. Nobody else is responsible because the key decision that changed Tyler's life for the ultimate worse was initiated by Tyler and only Tyler. To cite societal pressure or other exterior factors is baloney. Citizens of third world countries live with much greater stresses day in and day out, yet they don't succumb to suicide at such a high rate. They have a life focused on the tasks at hand. Conversely, it could be something as intrinsic and innate as a biological time bomb that makes some homosexuals prone to suicide when they finally realize they have no real, substantive future; they can't procreate, they can't cultivate life from their own blood, and they can't have a normal nuclear family and all of the perks and joys that naturally come from that. They can't even live beyond the stereotype their own radical leftist culture has imposed on them.

Elizabeth   October 4th, 2010 9:42 pm ET

I started a comment a few minutes ago but the page shut down on its own.
My statement was: It is true that the Bible say man shall not lie with men.
More importantly is states: Judge not lest ye be judged,
Who are we to take God's place? I am a Christian. Not that it matters I am not gay. I do not know if being gay is by choice or genetic. I do know that I will fight for the right for others to live their life as they feel best fits their heart.
It hurts my heart to hear of anyone killing themselves, much less to hear of children, mere babies in some cases being bullied to death. Personally I feel like those responsible should face more than ridicule or "possible charges" ie: the young man from Rutgers. Because of a lack of human kindness this young man was cheated out of his life. Moreover the world as a whole has been cheated out of his life. The very possiblilities that this young man had to offer us as a people will never be known.
Why is is ever wrong for one human being to love another? It a world when neighbor no longer helps neighbor out of fear, self centeredness, or the age old "i just don't have time" , why are we kicking love in the teeth?
It is never wrong to love. It is not our place to tell our neighbor how to live their life and to kill them by our own hand or by our words if they do not comply with our opinion of right and wrong. By our continued silence we are justifing intolerance.
God loves all His children. He gave us free will knowing we would mess it up in one way or another. But He loves us any way. I will step down if only temperarily from my soap box by saying: do unto others, love your neighbor, and judge not. Thank you

tim bishop   October 4th, 2010 11:16 pm ET

this is not a tragedy, this is BULLYING. if i was the prosecutor i would be charging them for manslaughter.

these 2 bullys were the cause of this young mans death.

Smith in Oregon   October 5th, 2010 12:41 am ET

It is sad that Rutger's appears to be seen as the villains and yet the story reads it was only two classmates which acted with utter disregard for the young classmate.

Suicides are not that uncommon in colleges around the entire world. Parental expectations coupled with the sudden freedom's of youngster's that were utterly closed-in and locked up by dictator parents often turns out very badly when they encounter true-life situations which mature adults and older adults would simply shrug off as yet another foobar.

Crisis management resources in all college campus's are often the first to be gutted by Republican forced educational cut-backs and yet for far to many college students, crisis management staffing is really critical in helping far more students that are lacking maturity and crisis skills themselves and end up placing a great deal of work on often beleaguered college campus crisis management staffers.

As a college student, I've spoken (counselled) to dozens of fellow classmates facing crisis's in their lives that entirely lacked the internal skills to deal with them. Far to many (high-school and college students in that perceived position) seek to end their lives. That was years ago for me in working in such a position but I do not see parents teaching crisis management skills to their children (today) and often the parents of college students have no idea what if any crisis management staff exists in the college their children are attending.

tony   October 5th, 2010 12:47 am ET

Thank You for this show on bullying, I tried several times to commit suicide after being tortured in school and got no relief at home, i lefrt home at 17 and left the hell but i still have many scars that i will never be ablr to alleve.

Jonathan Lee   October 5th, 2010 1:05 pm ET

i agree with Elizabeth. God loves everyone. No matter what backgrounds we all come from and the experiences we all have gathered through our years, God loves all no matter what choices we have made. This is truly a tragedy and the young man will never know love in its truest form. I just hope that the parents of the young man will find peace one day. I will be praying.

robert gorham   October 5th, 2010 1:15 pm ET

It is sad and a shame that he took his own life for this. It is bad that his privacy was invaded but i don't think it is enough to kill yourself if you are comfortable with who and what you are. Maybe it was knowing that the world knew he was gay that took him over the edge. He probably was not ready for the world to know. It is not wrong to be gay but it is wrong to commit suicide and kill yourself. Life is so precious and you only get one....

BTW, bullying is the wrong term for what happened. Peer pressure is more correct because the pressure of knowing peer, family, friends, would know that he was gay probably took him of that bridge.....

Coco   October 5th, 2010 3:48 pm ET

Where is compassion from those " christian souls" who beleive that to be gay is a choice, that gays missed the procreation part and bla bla bla, those supposed Christians who beleive in the Bible who is full of dreadful stories that cannot be repeated, and blame anyone who does not agree with them. I have seen Gays with more compassion then any of those beleivers. I am proud to say: God protects me from his beleivers!!!!!

Nana Brown   October 5th, 2010 5:23 pm ET

Sadly society has it's sets of rules the weaker often takes the bashing this is called life. We learn to protect our self from an early age.Where were Taylor's parents then? Did the Church and his parents accept and protect Tyler Clementi? Was Tyler comfortable with his sexuality ? Dharun Ravi and Molly Wei are young kids who made the video are just innocent victims of the fear of homosexuality themselves. There are more reasons why young Tyler Clementi took his life that we don't know. One of them is depression that went unnoticed. There will be many theories no relay answers. Tragically a disturbed young man chooses to take his life adding two more victim created by society seeking for justice, truth and punishment, that's exactly what Dharun Ravi and Molly Wei were doing ....exposing the truth on tape.
Several things failed to detect Taylor emotional imbalance before Ravi and Wei's video taping him.Where were all the other mature adults before the video? This video was a silly prank by silly kids.

jloveee   October 7th, 2010 10:13 am ET

i think it's really sad that this happened, it just goes to show how cruel and hateful people in this world can really be. and those two kids were a prime example. so what if someone is gay? big friggen deal. it's not like they are any different from any other person. just different sexual likes is all. and all i know is that if i were that judge, i wouldnt just give them invasion of privacy, i would give them manslaughter, and life in prison.

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