October 20, 2009

Kate Gosselin: My kids are struggling

Posted: 08:14 AM ET

As their parents continue to make tabloid headlines - Jon faces contempt charges for taking money out of a joint account, while Kate has just lost the reality show franchise that made her famous - the eight children of Jon and Kate Gosselin are starting to feel the effects of all the stress.

In a new article posted on, Kate reveals her brood has been "acting out" lately - but she is hopeful it's a phase that will pass as the kids adjust to their life with divorced parents.

"I'm trying to give them the grace to see, if they're acting out of line, I'm trying to look deeper into why that is," she says in the article. "Why the kids are acting out. Cause it's all inter-related. I mean, they don't see it, but it's all interconnected."

Referring to Jon, she says, "They miss him. They say they miss him. I imagine they say the same thing when I'm away."

Not only are the kids hurting without both their parents together, Kate recently said that the demise of their hit show "Jon & Kate Plus 8" - which came after Jon objected to his children being filmed once TLC announced plans to relaunch the show as simply "Kate Plus 8" - has caused plenty of heartache at home.

Last week on the "Today" show, Kate said, "Over the weekend I told [the kids] that we're not filming at this point. And actually, times eight, there was wailing and sobbing. They love our crew, they love the interaction, they love the events. There is nothing harmful about it. They are angry."

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Gerald Jolly   October 20th, 2009 9:16 am ET

Enough with the bleeding heart B.S.

Kate, you and the Moron Jon put them in the state they're in because of both of your own self serving selfishness.

Niether one of you have the right to do what you have done to these children.

I just wish I was the one making the decision on their behalf, because if I was, you both would never be allowed to see them or exploit them again



Teresa   October 20th, 2009 9:32 am ET

Enough with the sniveling pity pity me, Kate! You should be ashamed of yourself about your financial problems out in the open world. The rest of America is suffering financially and they aren't making the kind of money you and Jon were making! They don't live in a beautiful home like you guys do.

About the kids wailing about not doing the show is a lie..they are too young to care. At this young age, they are more concerned about school and their friends! Kate is more concerned about losing the show and the big money she was hoping to make. Kate is about "Cold Hard Cash" and this is her trait!

Michelle D. Fonthill,Ont   October 20th, 2009 10:00 am ET

Give me a break , These poor kids are only suffering beacause of two parents can't get along and are fighting thier dirty laundry in public .Shake some reality into Kate Gosslein and Jon Gosselin !

ckelly   October 20th, 2009 10:29 am ET

Kate, Kate, Kate..

Your children are reacting to the loss of the "show" for two reasons:

The first is because, you and Jon have set the tone. Its sad for you -so its sad for them. The two of you have turned their lives into media seeking, and attention grabbing circus. The children's reaction is a form of withdrawl. What are the family's values? Have you asked their children what they think their values are?
The second reason is because these kids have determined that "The show" IS THEIR LIFE. Literally!!!!!! Being on display and living in a fish bowl is all these kids have known-It is effecting their understanding of reality. BUT Its not real Kate, its a show-directed by the very film crew and producers and directors that these kids supposedly "love".

Where are the kid's relatives? That says a lot Kate-YOU have a problem with "real" people and "real" relationships because you can't control them and because emotions get complicated. But numerous nannies and film crew members substitute for real relationships-because these people get a pay check and ultimately for them, this is a job. No sticky emotions.

You are delusional if you think the show is a substitute for their lives and you were foolish to put all your financial and emotional eggs into this one basket. If the show ran for one or two seasons-you could have put enough money away for college funds and taken a nice vacation, got a new van etc. But these kids, who by virtue of being so many multiples, will struggle with a sense of normalcy and identity their entire lives. They have been placed in a developmentally compromised position. Their earliest experiences are not about their personal development or a cohesive family. Its about being part of a freak show- circus; paparrazi and film crews that control their experiences; selfish parents and an angry public divorce and lawsuit by TLC.

Did I mention that you are delusional?

vallary   October 20th, 2009 10:35 am ET

the kids are struggling because the parents don't know how to act. Please people get a life. You need to focus on your kids get out of the lime light. and be done with this

Tessa   October 20th, 2009 10:40 am ET

Kate broke off her relationship with her parents because she wanted the cold hard cash instead of what church members where her father was a pastor donated baby items before the sextuplets were born! Instead of expressing her deep appreciation for their thoughtfulness, Kate rudely blew up and rejected the gifts! She stated she wanted money instead of the baby items the churchgoers have given her for the babies! Just for her own financial greediness and meanness, perhaps it's a great idea for Kate to go broke and learn to go back to work as a nurse to earn an honest living just like the rest of us folks!

Cris   October 20th, 2009 10:44 am ET

If I were married to her I'd have left a long time ago. I have no pity for either of them, but a lot of pity for the kids. They don't have a chance.

JGB   October 20th, 2009 12:19 pm ET

Well then maybe she should quit putting them on TV and start raising them and let them live normal lives. Gosselins need to go away already.

terry   October 20th, 2009 12:36 pm ET

Those kids were pimped out for profit their entire lives-no wonder they are struggling! It's all they know. Get them some much needed therapy and go away!!!

Sheryl   October 20th, 2009 1:00 pm ET

I've very tired of seeing Kate in the news. I feel like she never got out of the junior high stage of life.

TJ   October 20th, 2009 1:55 pm ET

Yes! I agree that American viewers have gotten so tired of seeing Kate regarding her and the children being poor paupers! If that is the case, Kate needs to stop putting the kids on tv and find herself her a real job such as even flipping hamburgers at McDonalds or at a food court near her house or even better yet, go back being a nurse!!! Perhaps, she'll meet a rich doctor who won the PowerBall lottery at the hospital!!! If Kate is a money hungry fiend...there are jobs out there even if it includes janitorial or maintenance job at a church or even working at a church pantry ! She may hate the job but at least it's money that food on the table everynight for her and her kids!

I really seriously doubt that she is that poor monetary wise!!!! She truly wants to do the show even if it means using the children because it means BIG MONEY in her bank account!

MsNomerN Az   October 20th, 2009 2:06 pm ET

I hate this story and the show and the pubilicity these two disfunctional greedy and incapable freeloaders are getting in the news and on all the news talk shows.

Terrie   October 20th, 2009 4:50 pm ET

No, Kate! Kate you got it all wrong about the kids...I betcha they are so relieved and very happy they aren't doing the reality show anymore! Halleluiah!!!! It is you who is upset and crying all the way to the bank for having lost a new show "Kate Plus Eight" and the opportunity to rake in millions of dollars in doing the show. It is not about the children you're crying's you and the big money you dreamed of with the celebrity status it brings!

Gerald Jolly   October 20th, 2009 5:15 pm ET

"EIGHT" beautiful kids and two very "UGLY

When I refer to UGLY, I am not speaking of their outward appearance.

I'm talking about the "UGLINESS" within their "GREEDY FILTHY HEARTS"

When will the child protective agency step in and bring this travesty to an end??

The time should be "RIGHT NOW"

Susan   October 20th, 2009 8:41 pm ET

You're all jealous! – if anyone offered you a chance to make big money on reality TV, I believe 9 out of 10 of you would jump at it.

What a bunch of phonies....UGLY is you!!!

Leave that family alone and go fix yours!!!

LMB   October 20th, 2009 9:08 pm ET

First of all, and because of the actions of her husband, I may as well have a "Go, Kate!" tee shirt. There was nothing wrong at all with the program "Jon and Kate Plus Eight." Jon and Kate was family programming.

It was only when the kids' father got busted in the tabloids, screwing around, then making an idiot out of himself in the press, seeing himself on magazine covers, falling in love with his own 15 minutes of fame, then holding TLC hostage. Let me film my own reality series filming the children, or stop the program, by then, his family's only means of support.

To me, this never would have happened if Kate had chosen a different man. Being married a long time myself, there are sometimes things you can't see about the person you're marrying until it's too late. To me, just imagine a father of eight that had his own career, a strong sense of himself, that even if TLC money was coming in, he would want to keep working because he had important things that he needed to do. A strong sense of right and wrong, and a strong presence in his own household. That was never Jon.

To me, and I saw on the program that Kate had become a harpy, bitter and angry. My husband and I had one child, and even though it is not in my nature, there were times when my husband was dropping the ball when it came to our son, that I did that. 'Your son is out of line. Be his father, not his friend, right now.'

To me, filming Jon and Kate was not hurting the kids. It was like watching a family movie. What has made it sleazy and what has and will hurt the kids are the actions of their father. To me, and only if the kids agree, let Kate and the kids keep filming with the protection of TLC. No Job Jon is off making out with his 22 year old girlfriend in New York. He's not thinking about tuition for eight kids, and he's not thinking about that his kids are going to see all of this eventually.

Of course the kids are acting out. They've never had a strong father figure when they needed one. What father figure they did have moved away.

I am still and will always be pro Kate. Go, Kate!


ckelly   October 20th, 2009 9:43 pm ET

Sorry LMB-I couldn't disagree more!

Did you watch the show? Kate was controlling, demeaning and insulting to Jon-in front of millions of viewers on a weekly basis for three years. It was painful to watch.

Before he went on his childish, publicly funded rebellion (worthy of a teenager), Kate was running around the country with her body guard -doing book signings and leaving Jon alone. Her main focus was the show and the nicer things in life that the show was buying. She alienated every relative, friend and family member. She was the machine behind this "psycho-drama". I watched her change and become caught up in the fame, while she humiliated her husband and at times, her children on national television.

I agree that Jon has taken the whole show to a new low, however I see the cause and its effect too. The amount of stress raising two sets of multiples in the limelight-making their lives a show for public consumption in front of stalking paparazzi would make anyone lose it!

The fact is this: Kate is the decision maker-the money woman and the person most bent on celebrity. A short series would have been helpful to the family and their financial well being. BUT it could never go on forever!! It should not be going on this long. The lack of REALITY and Normalcy in the children's lives is detrimental. This public spectacle has grown into a beast, and the beast needs to be put out of its misery for the sake of everyone involved.

Gerald Jolly   October 20th, 2009 10:01 pm ET

Actually her kids are struggling.

They're struggling to get the heck away from her.

Susan   October 20th, 2009 10:07 pm ET

@ckelly – how would you like your bank account to be levelled by people who think they know better than you do? I am not sure what beast needs to die here but I don't think it should be this family's welfare at the expense of public opinion.

Angelgirl   October 20th, 2009 11:13 pm ET


Do you have proof of what you are saying with her dad's congregations donating clothes to them & Kate's behavior?

Just curious?

John H   October 20th, 2009 11:14 pm ET

I have to admit that I never watched the show and have had literally no interest in the saga being played out in the news media. The only feeling I have is for the children who are watching what was their world fall apart. They are probably no different than any other children whose parents are going through a divorce. Neither of these parents impress me and I cannot imagine wearing a T-Shirt taking sides with either one of these dysfunctional people. I don't know where the solution is here but someone needs to take the children into their care and protect them from both of these people.

LMB   October 20th, 2009 11:37 pm ET


I know that you disagree with me, and I can see what you're saying.

That Kate yelled at Jon. What woman, in the face of dealing an incompetent man for years, a man with no purpose, no job, no backbone, and living with eight kids. It pained me, too, to see how Kate was talking to Jon, but when it came right down to it, she had to. Jon had no direction. He was sitting around, waiting for his wife to tell him what to do. I dated someone like that, but didn't marry him. Not exactly big man material.

If Jon had been a strong working man worthy of respect from a company that appreciates the work that he does, having a career, going out and and slaying dragons, being some kind of strong father figure that his kids and his wife could appreciate and admire, none of this would have happened. Instead, Jon didn't get a job, decided to wait for his wife to go out of town and party and sleep with a 22 year old girl. Again, not exactly great big man material. Sorry.

Bash Kate all you like. The damage was never about Kate. It was Jon.


Carol   October 21st, 2009 1:00 am ET

Can anyone say narcissist?

ckelly   October 21st, 2009 1:13 am ET

LB Disagree!

Jon was working and DUE TO THE NEEDS OF THE SHOW-he left his job and from what I observed was not just "occasionally yelled at"-he was verbally and emotionally abused!!

Kate wanted the fertility treatments after the twins-Jon did not want anymore children. They both had jobs and were employed. After having sextuplets and half of a season into the show-he left his job for the kids and the show-Why didn't Kate complain in her usually demonstrative manner???Why Because she wanted him too!!

Yelling at your spouse is not acceptable. If he had been yelling at Kate or bullying and humiliating Kate, America would never have tolerated it for a minute. Yet, you feel that's acceptable? She showed no respect or maturity. Yes, they were both tired-but Kate was controlling and disagreeing and being nasty all the time. A great role model.

Sorry-this is about reporting what I observed and being truthful.

Narcissist is a an appropriate description for Kate and immaturity describes Jon's recent behavior.

Tessa   October 21st, 2009 9:55 am ET

Angelgirl–Kate has her own website and there was an article written of why she decided to estrange herself from her own family.

Terrie   October 21st, 2009 10:00 am ET

Kate and Jon should just go away and return to their private lives..why air the dirty laundry in public. Why does Kate think that her problems are so very special and unique when American families have their own personal problems to deal with. Some have more painful personal problems to deal with than losing this reality show with TLC Kate is lamenting about!

Dodie ~ California   October 21st, 2009 1:27 pm ET

To Kate:

You think your brood is acting out now? You just wait until they are around 12 – 20. You have no idea what you are in for. They don't care about the show. You are projecting that on to them because you will no longer be famous.

Now comes the "REAL" life of being a mother of 8. Now you will have to be fully responsible for those 8 children. No more care takers, babysitters....etc...etc...etc. Now you will know what it really is like being a mother.

And for those children. I really wish them well. I suspect due to all the trauma from birth, not living a normal life, will affect them in ways you have no idea , like getting pregnant at age of 10, doing drugs at age 12, stealing, infractions with the law. You are creating this right now! The future of your family is predictable because of your current and past behavior. You have MORE children than you can take care of! Very bad judgment on your part!!!

Forget about welfare and free medical paid for by us tax payers, you have made too much money. Where are all your savings? You made hundreds of thousands of dollars each year from TLC. Where is all of that besides on all your plastic surgeries, etc.

I am in the process of setting up a forum whereby Reality shows cannot involve children under the age of 18. Too many stupid parents are now trying to make millions and become famous by birthing hoards of children. The children are now used as a means to an end... to be rich and famous. Its all very outrageous!

Gerald Jolly   October 21st, 2009 1:48 pm ET



Whatever becomes of these children will be what Kate and Jon has done to them.

Unfortunately, "YOU ARE RIGHT" I predict that they will become wards of the state, because the two misfits that brought them into the world are unable to face the reality of their stupidity.

By the way, I would support your effort in putting an end to the exploitation of these and all children under the age of 18 that cannot speak for themselves.

I also think that the time for the "CHILD PROTECTION SERVICE" is long overdue.

What I would like to see.

Our legal system freeze all their assets, and hold them in a trust for the children, and the reason is that the two misfits were never the reason for the TLC program, it was all about the children, so they ought to be protected as to the money "THEY EARNED AND MADE"

carebear   October 21st, 2009 4:59 pm ET

I really feel badly for these children and hope they will be fine. They need a normal childhood and no more television show.

TJ   October 21st, 2009 6:46 pm ET

The Gosselin children should just be kids and not be cheated out of their childhood! They only have their childhood once and be given the chance to enjoy these years so they can end up as future well adjusted and productive adults! They have plenty of years to decide if they want to pursue the entertainment world without being forced by their pushy stage mother Kate!

LMB   October 21st, 2009 10:02 pm ET


I see what you're saying, and I agree. If a woman had been abused, of course all of America would support her. But to me, Jon Gosselin was never abused. Did she yell at him, yes. Was Kate bossy, yes. To me, and after being married almost 30 years and parenting a successful adult son with a boyish father, I know as a mother that there just comes a time when you have to put your foot down when it comes to your child and their well being, what they're doing, that they are they safe, and as a mother, be vocal and yell if their father was dropping the ball like I saw. And I was so entirely vocal.

No to my husband that thought sex, stealing, lying were just phases. Oh, did I get vocal, and oh did I yell to the high heavens. If I hadn't, if I hadn't been the vocal, stand up Mom that I was, if I hadn't had a fit, I don't know what would have happened to our son. I really don't.

I remember the day that my husband and I were standing in line at the Barnes and Noble. There were tabloids there, the headlines, and I read one, that Jon Gosselin was caught screwing around on his wife while she was out of town, in a car, leaving drunk from a bar with no wedding ring on, leaving with a young girl. "Babe, throw me me my jacket." trying to hide from the press. I didn't want it to be true, but it was, and it made sense.

No job for years, not the kind of guy that works for a company and has their deep respect, or has his own company, Not the kind of guy that, even though TLC money was coming in, find something to do. Slay dragons someplace. Being home for the kids while Kate was away is not an excuse. To me, men don't feel like men unless they see their own impact, that they feel that they are the king at what they do. When Jon stopped working, he lost that. He quit so quickly, seeing the easy money.

I feel bad for Kate, and feel bad for the kids. I don't know what should happen next. I'm not about watching the kids in television, considering their father's actions, it's now sleazy, but I am all over making sure they are all right. We're on the verge of paying off the college loans for one successful kid, and it was choking. I can't imagine trying to do this for eight. There is literally no way.

I am hoping that TLC can find the right balance, privacy, and support. And for God's sake, ditch Jon.

carol kesling   October 21st, 2009 11:52 pm ET

all i have to say-- right on dodie !!!!!! enough is enough !!!!!

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