February 1, 2009

Sunday's "Question of the Day!"

Posted: 06:52 AM ET

Disgraced former pastor Ted Haggard and his wife talk to Larry tonight!  He was the pastor of a MEGA church and admitted to "sexual immorality" with a male prostitute and to buying drugs! haggard3 Now, Ted Haggard gives his story to Larry King. 

WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU!  Our Question of the Day is: 

 "What Do YOU Want To Hear Ted Haggard Say?"  

Tell us HERE!   

Also, watch the HBO Documentary "The Trails of Ted Haggard" throughout the month of January and February.



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Larry A Potter   January 29th, 2009 1:44 pm ET

The issue I and millions of people have with Mr Haggard, I presume, is not that he is gay or bisexual, it's that he has been such a liar and hypocritical about it not to mention exposing his wife to sexual transmitted Diseases. If Mr, Haggard is really honest, he will begin the process of accepting himself and end the dual life of saying one thing and living another. Isn't it ironic that the male prostitute had more moral indignation about Haggard's stand against gay marriage when HE broke open the story about Mr Haggard's personal life. It's really sad that people just cannot seem to be honest and open about themselves to others.

Cecil Jones   January 29th, 2009 1:49 pm ET

Former disgraced Pastor...Please? President Bush tried to Enron social security a few years ago and Democrats stopped him. We elect our first Black President and Democrats get amnesia? You are talking to someone giving hand signals from the Pulpit?

Jeffrey Gay   January 29th, 2009 2:00 pm ET

I love the show Larry, always been a fan. Chris I don't know is a wrestler want to be a bully! I think mickey took the high road trying to promote a film. This Chris guy not a big fan of wrestling. When I was growing up only the guys that couldn't do anything else were wrestlers, but whatever. Great job in the movie Mickey and very grown up response to the bully on the play ground. I think in your day you could of taken him. To Chris after you are done bulling all the old men I will even give it a try! Jeff 43 year old man in KC looking out for us older guys!

Ethel   January 29th, 2009 3:37 pm ET

Ted Haggard,

There is only one person, who ever lived, on this earth, that can say they never sinned. And we can all get forgiveness. What I find it hard to swallow, is how could you, or any other preacher, have an ongoing sexual relationship, with anyone other than their spouse and continue to grace the pulpit, during that time? I say this, since the church of your choice, I believe, is against this.

If I understand this correctly, it wasn't a one time, giving in to temptation. And why not come on out and admit that you are apparently bi-sexual?

And to Mrs. Haggard, how do you live with this? Yes, I can see forgiving him, even staying with him, because of love, but not condoning it.

God warned the church, of the Laodiceans.....I know your works, that you are neither cold or hot, so then because you are neither cold or hot, I will spit you out of my mouth. Because you say, I am rich, and increased with goods, and have need of nothing, and do not know that you are wretched, miserable, poor and blind and naked. [my paraphrase] Revelation 3:14-17.


Vincent Nizzardi   January 29th, 2009 3:57 pm ET

Larry-Baby, I have been a god fearing believer for many-many years, but since all the immorality/ child abuse/ and two faced actions demenstrated by so called holy men, I find myself now doubting my beliefs. Where was god when all the children were , and still are being abused. Why does an all knowing, all loving, all powerfull God do nothing, while human suffering around the world continues everyday? These are the questions I have begun to ask myself, as a result of all the dishonest Priests, and Pastors. After attending church, and writing, and playing music for our church, I no longer attend any church. Frankly, I don't know if I will ever be able to find faith again, and something inside me knows thats a sad reality.

Mike   January 29th, 2009 4:03 pm ET

I am sick and tired of hearing about these people in positions of great power ( polititians) or respect ( relegion ) messing up and then we got to hear about what a sorry past he or she has had, or how something was misinterpreted. Then turn around with an apoligy and a book/movie deal of some sort and all of the sudden we are suppost to hold them up in high regaurd like they are some kinda hero. We are all the same. This country would be alot better if the government would just realize that they are no better than the worse criminal beheind bars. We are all the same, it's in our blood, it's human nature. So get down off your high horse and stop coming up with these asnine laws and views of society, then getting caught red handed abusing those laws. Paying for sex, paying for gay sex, buying drugs, driving under the influence, tax fraud, bribary, and adultry etc.. Just legalize drugs and guns and let God sort them out. At least "we the people" would have some kinda power. The only people that have power ( aside from polititians and billionares) are the street gangs. Do you honestly think that these cowardly gangmembers would be so braisen if they thought the person they were trying to hold up was also packing heat, and in turn could cause him serious harm? I think not. And these gangs can afford the arsonal they have because they are selling illegal drugs. Do you realize how much money this country would be making on tax dollars alone if they legalized marijuana. But I know grandpa, marijuana is illegal, so why don't you just polish of that bottle of whiskey, get in your car and mo down and bunch of innocent people. Then you can apolige and national T.V. and get a book deal out of it. By God that's the American way.

Carolyn   January 29th, 2009 4:12 pm ET

I dont know why Ted Haggard doesnt go somewhere and sit down. His story should not be sensationalized. He disgraced his church, and his family. He should start thinking of them and stop going on and on about himslef. Who cares, the bad thing is he is being pad for all his that is work the news donate the money to he poor now that would be news.

Joe G. (From Illinois)   January 29th, 2009 4:15 pm ET

Some very high ranking public figures of our country.. of our times have put their hands over the Holy Bible to make public sworn statements.. While at the very same time openly championing, supporting and leading the fight for abortion (the murder on innocent children still in the womb) head on. And so I think that even changing the subject to THE ECONOMY by now would still be pretty flat. But carry on!! Do your thing!

Rose   January 29th, 2009 4:22 pm ET

It's hypocritical to focus on Haggard's sexual impropriaties when other Televangelists live lavish non-Christian lifestyles, making millions of dollars while asking for donations, own mansions and fly in private jets. Why are they not chastised for their abuses? No one cares as long as they apparently "keep their pants on". Taking financial advantage of gullible believers is also a sin. Televangelists are running religious financial scams – we only speak up when sex is involved. Get real!

ali   January 29th, 2009 4:25 pm ET

It's a good thing we don't wiretap everyone in Chicago government, every congressman in D. C., or President Obama and his team -
we would be spending every minute of House and Senate time in
impeachment hearings and never get anything done!

Chip Toth   January 29th, 2009 4:29 pm ET


My family and I were members of New Life during your leadership. We enjoyed your teaching as well as the vibrant worship. I was in the church service the Sunday following your "fall" when thousands of us turned to God with tears and worshipped Him. Hearts were broken but hope prevailed. Since your removal I understand that you have been given over 300K to aid your family, career transition, and counseling. The New Life church has given you grace. My question to you is this: what "grace" have you given New Life in the past two years? Specifically, what words and actions have come from you Ted that have benefitted the church that has given so much to you? I have to wonder if in fact your whole ministry commitment was more about Ted Haggard than serving God and others?

New Life friend and servant

george wheeldon   January 29th, 2009 4:50 pm ET

I would like to have Ted Haggard disappear from the face of the earth along with the current administration of this church. "Reverend" Boyd and anyone with him who made a "hush payment" should be tried for something criminal along with getting out of the ministry> They are just as guilty as Ted Haggard of these crimes of lying.

Mike   January 29th, 2009 5:08 pm ET

Why is Ted Haggerd suddenly back on the scene? Hasn't he done enough damage already? Are we selling books now? Please!

Moncala   January 29th, 2009 5:31 pm ET

Please believe me I understand that the church has the reputation of killing the wounded. Though I am glad that you have found your relationship with the Lord and your family. To see you parade yourself is opening up a lot of wounds.

I can tell you from personal experience how devistating it is when one of our leaders fall into sin. It took a lot of prayer with many, many tears for me to pull through it. When you reported how everyone greeted you back with great joy. It was no wonder that one of your victims felt so violated. It was as if his "supporters" forgot all about his pain. They probably assumed he got over it. How do you think he feels, seeing you look so happy and doing well while he is still stuggling? How can he feel comfortable when his Christian family seemed to desert him in favor of his attacker? Sorry is not good enough. What are you going to do for your victims? What are you going to do with the groups that you attacked? Talk is cheap. What are you going to do?

DAVID   January 29th, 2009 5:53 pm ET


Tesh   January 29th, 2009 6:06 pm ET

Why is this man always smiling? He's been busted being with a male gay prostitute, humiliated his wife/kids and disgraced the church. So what could he possibly be smiling about? He's weird.

joanne from Sudbury ontario canada   January 29th, 2009 6:16 pm ET

The less that sinner says the better..

b bean   January 29th, 2009 6:19 pm ET

Larry's show has become a freak show. Who wants to watch that fruitcake!!!! Ted Haggard!!!

Dolly   January 29th, 2009 6:42 pm ET

I want to hear Pastor Ted let us know when and where our next "New Life" Church will be with him and Gayle in the same positions they were at the original "New Life" Church. Yes, I've forgiven MY Pastor, since day one, and pray that God uses him again soon.

Mike P   January 29th, 2009 6:59 pm ET

He's smiling because he came out on top. I think I need to become a pastor, then I will selfishly abandon God, my followers, and my family. If all goes well I will get a half a million dollar book deal, a movie deal and the world will know who Mike is. 🙂

And to add to somebody else's comments. We do care ( or lack therof) about all these other televangelist. I mean it absolutly out of line, but one thing at a time. We have so much corruption in the country it's impossible to recognize it all in a day. It's a joke really. My question is how many more religious leaders and polititians are corrupt, because most all of them don't feel the need to change or apoligize until they are caught red handed. It's a joke.

Jo Ann, Ohio   January 29th, 2009 7:10 pm ET

Haggard says that he is not gay or bi so how does he explain his attraction to men?

JJ   January 29th, 2009 7:11 pm ET

Ted, how could you minister to a flock, with these secrets in toll? And how could you read your bible, and not feel guilty? How do we know, that Ted has truly repented? And these feelings could be dormat.

Jo Ann, Ohio   January 29th, 2009 7:11 pm ET

Haggard has already lied to his family and congregation why should we believe anything he tells Larry tonight?

Jo Ann, Ohio   January 29th, 2009 7:13 pm ET

Haggard's biggest sin is that he preached intolerance of gays when he himself was living the same lifestyle. Hypocrite!

ken   January 29th, 2009 7:16 pm ET

Hopefully, Ted will be truthful. We keep expecting to see another foot drop. The guy seems arrogant and disrespectful of those leaders who were chosen to help him recover. Looking forward to your broadcast tonight.

hugh ~ california   January 29th, 2009 7:19 pm ET

I want Ted Haggard to admit what he is, and ask the gay-bashers–who claim to be religious or not–to stop the homophobia and hate in America; however, I doubt that he will.

Haggard will most likely say he is spiritually sick and the hatred toward gays will only increase; I hope I'm wrong on this point. I'm sick of the so-called religious folks in America who continue to use the bible as an excuse to further the hatred and discrimination against anyone who is not straight.

okathleen   January 29th, 2009 7:21 pm ET


Jay Baadsgaard   January 29th, 2009 7:25 pm ET

How long had you been taking an antidepressant before you had this homosexual fling? All of the SSRI's have been linked to behavioral changes. Even homosexuality.

Mark D. Hyde (Miami, FL)   January 29th, 2009 7:47 pm ET

I want to hear him say that for many years some remote part of him felt like such a fraud for preaching one thing and living another.

Lindy Smith MN   January 29th, 2009 7:51 pm ET

I do not care what he has to say. He is not much different than most of those celeb. evangelists out there. They are slime. It is a disgrace to the religious communities unnecessarily. Shame on you for representing yourself as a religious representative.

Dennis   January 29th, 2009 7:52 pm ET

I'd like to hear Mr. Haggard speak out against anti-homosexual teachings, such as he preached, and maybe help his fellow evangelicals accept their gay children. That's a good start.

Lindy Smith MN   January 29th, 2009 8:00 pm ET

I would like to say I am not homophobic. It does not sit well with me when someone is a hypocrite. If you are who you are, let it be known. You decide your fate by your actions.

Sandy   January 29th, 2009 8:09 pm ET

It shouldnt matter to anyone if another person is gay. Thats one of the problems with our world..its high time we just let people lives. Love is love..regardlessof gender or prefence and this worlds needs alot more of love and alot less others interfering where they have no right.

lisa   January 29th, 2009 8:10 pm ET

Why are you subjecting your wife to this humility? Isn't it enough that she had to deal privately with what you have done, why have you chosen to bring her into the limelight, is it to draw more attention to yourself at her expense?

Eric O. Jackson (San Juan, Puerto Rico)   January 29th, 2009 8:18 pm ET

I can't watch the show right now because I haven't signed up for cable as of yet, but this are briefly some thoughts about the issue of homosexuality and religious-based homophobia: I just watched the film "Prayers for Bobby", about the gay young man who killed himself. We know many hate crimes, suicides and a number of serious mental health problems arise when an LGBT person has to endure the homophobia of his/her religious community. We also know about the damage done to LGBT people by religiously-motivated reparative therapies to try to change you from gay to straight. Many LGBT organizations are doing important work to fix that. But faced with the damage that has and it's being done to LGBT people, maybe there are grounds for a class-action lawsuit. If the lawsuit reaches the U.S. Supreme Court and they weight the arguments that religious-based homophobia, in far too many cases, equals suicide, psychological distress and trauma, dysfunctions, hate crimes, and many other serious problems, maybe this will put a stop to religious-based homophobia and it will be something as illegal as racism.

Robert Wilfong   January 29th, 2009 8:44 pm ET

My question for Ted Haggard is: Had the truth about your homosexual relations, with the two men who've now come forward, not been exposed to your family and the general public; do you believe that you'd still be engaging in such activities?

Robert Wilfong   January 29th, 2009 8:47 pm ET

My question for Ted Haggard is: Had the truth about your homosexual relations, with the two men who’ve now come forward, not been exposed to your family and the general public; do you believe that you’d still be engaging in such activities? And Why?

Trish   January 29th, 2009 8:49 pm ET

I just want to hear him admit that he's gay. I don't understand the reasoning behind denying it, there is nothing wrong with denying it. I guess I just wish that he would come clean with himself so he could be he is and be happy. Because I don't think that he is.

Kelli from Tampa   January 29th, 2009 8:49 pm ET

Pastors turned me into a non believer. A church in Jacksonville, FL. had a pastor who molested untold amounts of CHILDREN, the CHURCH shipped this pastor to Germany instead of turning him in. FInally when the dirt bag came back to the states, the now grown victims turned him in (and he is in jail). I cannot imagine how these victims felt for all these yrs. The "Bible" does say when a church member commits these acts the church is supposed to kick them out. They ,most of the time' do not. In the Bible Belt ,pastor's are presented with cases of domestic violence and the pastors and church members simply put the blinders on and look away(and this is wide spread!) . It is a disgrace....

Mark D. Hyde (Author- One Gay Man's Journey to Self Acceptance & Spiritual Awakening   January 29th, 2009 8:53 pm ET

I've been there. I too was a minister, married, and stuggling with being gay. I've never been happier once I was honest with myself and accepted my truth. I think Ted H. needs to do the same.

Mark D. Hyde (Author- One Gay Man's Journey to Self Acceptance & Spiritual Awakening   January 29th, 2009 8:55 pm ET

I too was there. I was a minister, husband, and gay. It's time Ted H. accepted his truth and moved on from there. It's then that his true ministry will start.

William Bernstein jr.   January 29th, 2009 8:59 pm ET


do you feel that after you are restored back to New Life, that you are qualifiied to pastor again somewhere else? Or do you feel that one who is involved in sexual immorality as you were, disqualifies the person from preaching in the pulpit again?

William Bernstein jr.
Virginia Beach, Virginia

susan e gray   January 29th, 2009 8:59 pm ET

the Truth!!!!!!!!!!

Mike P   January 29th, 2009 9:00 pm ET

Sandy it's called practicing what you preach in the name of the Lord.

Brandt Lewis   January 29th, 2009 9:03 pm ET

What do you feel about gay Americans? And do you support gay rights and the right for gay Americans to marry?

Phillip Pylant   January 29th, 2009 9:04 pm ET

Please tell me how you feel about homosexuals now? Do you still feel it is a sin?

jen s.   January 29th, 2009 9:06 pm ET

Isn't Christianity about grace and forgiveness? Be careful when you point a finger at someone. Remember when teh Jews wanted to stone teh prostitute? Waht did Jesus say? 'iF U HAVEN'T SINNED BEFORE, GO AHEAD AND CAST THE FIRST STONE'[paraphrased]. We need to be careful in matters like this . I believe there are many believers out there struggling with this issue, and I see this case as a unique opportunity for God to work and deliver many of such people; set them on the road to recovery. Just pray for him and his family, ok? And stop condeming. U never know when it will get to ur turn!!!

Cathy F.   January 29th, 2009 9:06 pm ET

Larry I would want to know if Ted is aware of sex addiction as being a disease and he must have intervention by a sex addictionologist. Is he seeing an addictionologist or just a therapist? This is disease that nobody talks about. His heart is probably in the right place but his brain chemistry has been altered by him continually "fixing" on the addiction and releasing dopamine in the brain. With serious medical help he can recover from this addiciton but he must become educated on the disease and the effect on the brain. Until he gets the right kind of help from an addictionologist who specializes in sex addiction he will continually repeat the same behavior. Someone help this guy. HE IS NOT HIS DISEASE! Let his story help millions of people who are suffering from this addiction.

rob   January 29th, 2009 9:06 pm ET

you know it was interesting. in the opening of the segment ted more or less said that being gay was not a choice.

Deborah   January 29th, 2009 9:08 pm ET

Mrs. Haggard: Are you being paid or receiving any means of gain for remaining with your husband and supporting him?

mike mosher   January 29th, 2009 9:08 pm ET

I have only one request of him (TED), never to preach again. As a gay man i can forgive him but he needs to keep his opinions, thoughts to himself....... just listening.... and hes lieing now. He was very antigay.... and still is. what a hypocrite.


William Flinn   January 29th, 2009 9:10 pm ET

Ted, I think you are a hero for coming to grips with yourself and publiclly adressing this issue.
And, I know you are a faithful man, but don't you think that the bible and the church might just be a little bit short-sighted about what it really means to be a human being?

jen s.   January 29th, 2009 9:11 pm ET

To Ted: what do you say to believers out there struggling with issues like? How do u plan on using this experience to encourage believers struggling with such issues? God bless you and your family and know that God delivered you and brought you this far so that you can be a vessel He can use.

CaseyJ - Palm Springs, CA   January 29th, 2009 9:12 pm ET

Just a point of clarification. Being gay is NOT a lifestyle. A lifestyle is a choice. Being gay isn't. (No offense taken Jo Ann, I just need to clear the record.)

Mercedes   January 29th, 2009 9:12 pm ET

Hey Larry. I just saw a caption that says that when he was in 2nd grade he "had sex with a male adult" ??? is that a misprint? a 7 year old doesn't have sex. That's rape !!!

Kelli from Tampa   January 29th, 2009 9:15 pm ET

Christians- "sunshine is the best disinfectant"...stop denying that you have a huge problem with church pastors and leaders who molest children and allow domestic violence. We nurses, doctors and social workers KNOW the truth!

jen s.   January 29th, 2009 9:15 pm ET

Isn't Christianity about grace and forgiveness? Be careful when you point a finger at someone. Remember when theJews wanted to stone the prostitute? What did Jesus say? 'iF U HAVEN'T SINNED BEFORE, GO AHEAD AND CAST THE FIRST STONE'[paraphrased]. We need to be careful in matters like this . I believe there are many believers out there struggling with this issue, and I see this case as a unique opportunity for God to work and deliver many of such people; set them on the road to recovery. Just pray for him and his family, ok? And stop condeming. U never know when it will get to ur turn!!!

Rev. Harriet Bradley   January 29th, 2009 9:16 pm ET

Pastor Ted, I want you to know that Jesus Christ loves you and has forgiven you of your sins. He wants you to walk in the freedom to be a whole man. When you were molested as a child, that is what started the thoughts of perversion. I pray that you will allow the love of Jesus minister to you. I pray that you will know that you are a whole and complete man in Jesus Christ.

Dwayne   January 29th, 2009 9:18 pm ET

Ted Haggard says he contemplated suicide. Many young gay people not only contemplate but commit suicide because of the messages preached by people like Haggard.

You sir, have blood on your hands. How do you justify the hatred you espoused that hurt so many people, especially because you are gay despite what you say.

Rey   January 29th, 2009 9:18 pm ET

i know that he commited a terrible sin, but who we are to judge. we are not perfect in any way. we are humans and not perfect.

Wayne Nall   January 29th, 2009 9:19 pm ET

Has Mr. Haggard seen the lifetime movie "Prayers for Bobby"? If so, what were his thought on this movie based on a true story?

Thank you,

CaseyJ - Palm Springs, CA   January 29th, 2009 9:19 pm ET

The "wound" that churchgoers are experiencing are a result of the lying and deceit.

genevieve   January 29th, 2009 9:20 pm ET

I want to hear Ted say that he is unashamed to be a homosexual or bisexual, but that he is ashamed to be living a lie (and setting the example for others to do so also).
He seems very sorry for himself.

Tyler   January 29th, 2009 9:20 pm ET

Are Ted Haggard and Blagojavic the same people? They both make absolutely no sense. They both make insane attempts to justify their behaviors,and their explanations are off topic, and so far reaching tthat they only leave you bewildered. Shame on both of them. Ted Haggard is sitting here and talking about how amazing he is for going through his "crisis" and he is not amazing, he is not worthy of praise, he is a coward who is hiding behind being "sorry" so he can get back into the lime light to be relevant again.

Raj Bijayakumar   January 29th, 2009 9:20 pm ET

Do you still believe homosexuality to be a sin?

Grant Haas   January 29th, 2009 9:20 pm ET

Here are some questions I think King should ask Haggard:

1) In his view, was the money New Life Church paid Grant Haas "hush money"?
2) Were there any other young men that you were involved with in a similar way during your 20+ years at New Life Church.
3) Why did you help Christopher Beard cover-up an inappropriate sexual relationship with a student? Shouldn't someone like this be terminated?
4) Did other pastors at the church speak and act in a godly manner in the months following November 2006?
5) How often would you preach, be on New Life's time (and dime), while being high on crystal meth?
6) Did you ever buy gay pornography and place it inside a garbage can at a gas station next Grant apartment, telling him there was "a gift for you" inside the can?
7) Why did you allow students of the 24/7 internship skinny dip in your pool on a regular basis.
8) When you found out Christopher Beard struggled with homosexuality, what steps as a spiritual leader did you take to protect him and his students?
9)Describe what you meant when you told Grant you would travel and use the "Party Formula" and have a "Greek Holiday"?

Please let me know if you cannot get these questions to him.


Grant Haas

Rebecca Samson   January 29th, 2009 9:21 pm ET

Ted Haggard owes the gay community a sincere apology for misusing his religious position (no pun intended) and hiding behind the scriptures. His hypocrisy and denial only spread more hatred toward gay people.

Gene   January 29th, 2009 9:21 pm ET

I want to hear him say there is NOTHING wrong with having feelings that appear to be gay. There is nothing wrong being gay. Im not hearing this from him.

Bill   January 29th, 2009 9:21 pm ET

Will Ted Haggard be able to speak to New Life Church anytjime in the future?

Bob, Columbia Maryland   January 29th, 2009 9:21 pm ET

If Mr. Haggard says he struggles all his life with his sexual interests in men, in spite of his deep religious beliefs, would he be willing to no say it is not a choice for those of us that are gay?

Andy Kohler   January 29th, 2009 9:21 pm ET

I would like to hear Rev. Haggard apologize to the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender community for his former comments on sexual orientation and admit that he was wrong.

Lilarose   January 29th, 2009 9:21 pm ET

Why does Ted Haggard say he was forced by his church to leave Colorado and be exiled?

No one in the U.S. is forced to leave any state unless they are prisoners.

Kathryn W. Baker   January 29th, 2009 9:21 pm ET

How did Ted get involved in using the crystal-meth?

Robyn   January 29th, 2009 9:21 pm ET


Are you saying that you no longer hold the spiritual belief that homosexuality is an abomination?

Joe in Canada   January 29th, 2009 9:21 pm ET

I am impressed that Mr. Haggard is as frank as he is about the issues. It is rare for people to take full responsibility for their mistakes; and publicly accepting them is an impressive show of personal strength and belief. I sincerely hope that his life delivers him and his family healing.

I do not believe that homosexuality is a choice, but in some cases bisexuality is a result of abuse or other deep trauma. I don't subscribe to Mr. Haggard's type of evangelism, or type of protestantism. But that does not change his situation.

His mistakes were life-destroying. But the response by both him and his family to deal with them are admirable. I wish them the very best.

drew leonard   January 29th, 2009 9:21 pm ET

What is Mr Haggert plans for making a living in the future.

juan jaramillo   January 29th, 2009 9:21 pm ET

Does Ted's battle with homosexuality put to rest the faith based belief that homosexuality is a choice and not a deeper, possibly biological issue

Lynn   January 29th, 2009 9:21 pm ET

Does the church have plans to ever allow you to go back in to the ministry?

Adam   January 29th, 2009 9:21 pm ET

I appreciate your honesty. How do you know you are presently aware enough to state what you are sorry for

Neil   January 29th, 2009 9:21 pm ET

Do you think your sexual attraction to men is an innate quality or something that was psychologically developed overtime?

Mac   January 29th, 2009 9:21 pm ET

Obviously tyring to save as much $$ as he can from his "ministry" – let's face it he is a hypocrite, lier, and now he was caught.....but let's try to turn it into some $$$$

Philip   January 29th, 2009 9:21 pm ET

The premise of Haggart's statements seems to be a disturbing statement that homosexuality is a sin. Deception is wrong, not sexual orientation. If anything, his experiences seem to affirm that this is an issue of nature, not nurture. Please comment.

Dr. Wilbur Keith   January 29th, 2009 9:21 pm ET

I want him to say RESTORE ME to the pastorship of New Life. He has sinned, we all have fallen short of the Glory of God. Restore Him to be a Pastor.

Jessica Florez-Gomez   January 29th, 2009 9:21 pm ET

A truly troubled soul would not be this articulated. I really wish he would show one single sign of remorse. He is so mechanical!

Wanda   January 29th, 2009 9:21 pm ET

God Bless You and keep you, Ted! God is good...ALL the time!

Erik   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

I would like to hear Ted say that he is gay, but I know it is a journey to come to terms with it. It is just uncomfortable to see Ted's wife acting delusional to Ted's sexuality.

rex harrington   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

i am watching baffled why he won't just say I am a gay man and stop hiding behind the false pretense and hypocrisy of religion. he is gay

David   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

What advice does he have, for men going through the same feelings?

KEITH   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

I would like to know why Haggard always answers with "we", instead of "I"

James   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

Can you talking about the "healing" process you've under gone and what you've learned from it.

Robert Hutchison   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

Mr. Haggard,

In 1st Corinthians it speaks of building on the foundation of Christ. How do you feel you are building on that foundation now in your re-opening this issue?

Yolanda   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET


He is saying it. He's repented and is honestly trying to heal and make ammends.

I pray that God continues to be with him in his struggle....

Chris Kindle   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

Why did you say on Oprah that you did have homosexual sex in nigh school, but you just said earlier that you didn't?

Marty   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

I feel for Ted and his struggle. i appreciate how difficult his life has been and I'm sorry that his former church hasn't forgiven him.

As a former married man I had to come to terms with something I knew I couldn't change – being gay. It's the way God made me. People have misunderstood God's feelings about being gay. i would like Ted to acknowledge that being Gay is not sinful – that it's just who we are.


Leland Carter   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

Just answer the question that he seems to dance around. How do you feel God view homosexuality. It is not a choice !!!!!!!!

snowflakes   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

I want to hear Ted Haggard say "I am a gay man." He knows it, his wife knows it, we ALL know it.

Thomas   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

You still seem to be a strong believer. How is it that after all this there is not a shred of doubt about the church's teachings, and why shouldn't there be?

Aiki   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

Can he please wash off this double face he puts on again, just sad to see him being this double faced liar just to save his ass... using a name of God to save his image! If he really belives in God he would come in peace with being gay, bi, whatever... and not to try to lie to us again! Sad sad

Rey   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

i don't want sound to naive about it. if pope john paul II forgave his assasin. we all should do the same to ted.

jj   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

Mr. Haggard, you have been a minister and you know the prescripts: REPENT, ask for forgiveness, PRAY and SIN NO MORE. Shame on you for this interview___an HBO movie_____you are not following the ""spirit" but instead are like many ( possibly me)~~~~with a ""SPIRIT"" but not that of the LORD. GO AWAY~~~~~~~go into your closet and deal with GOD.

matthew birch   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

Im an atheist and my biggest issue with the church is its intolerance of homosexuality. In the 20 minutes I have been watching…I think he’s said enough.

Keith James   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

I want to hear Pastor Ted finally admit that he's gay and stop taking his family prisoner to his own bi-polar disorder. This man is sick...

Jake   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

"Im not gay, Im not straight, Im not bi....Im human.

Vi Wilkes   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

I would like to hear Ted say that he forgives and loves himself, as that is so necessary in the healing process.

Terry Stump   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

As a bisexual man who sympathizes with him, I would like to hear him say that we are ALL children of God, gay, straight or whatever. Labels do not matter.

Lori Hillis-Jerome   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

I would like to know if Ted Haggard will come out and say if he is gay? I have no problem with gay people, I just think those that lie to themselves about their sexuality are not who they think they are. If a person is gay, so be it. Embrace it. Acknowledge it, and move on with your life. Those that love you, will not stop loving you just because you were born with different things in your brain than a heterosexual person.

John Zak   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

Does Haggard still think that homosexuality is a sin against God?

Charlene   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

I would like to know why, if God created everyone in His own image, that does not include homosexuals? Will Ted Haggard ever come to accept that being gay is not a choice, just as being heterosexual is not a choice?

Noella Maehl   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

Larry, I watched Ted Haggard on Oprah and now tonight. This is a revelation for the gays. Personally, Ted Haggard should admit that he is a gay person. He would release all the inhibition that he has. There is nothing wrong in admitting that one is gay. You can still be married for the sake of love of your wife and children. This is very complicated.

A loving mother of a gay child.

Barbara   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

Mr. Haggard, I am very impressed with your honesty regarding the situation that you are in and I'm sure that it has helped heal you and help you let go of the guilt and shame you must feel, but I believe that a person is either "heterosexual or gay". We do not have a choice in this matter. We are born either "straight" or "gay".

Carol   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

I just want him to admit he's gay and quit trying to live a lie. There's nothing noble about him staying married. He's knows he's gay and the world knows he's gay! His wife is in denial too.

Brandy Spears, Los Angeles   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

How much money has Ted Haggard made off of the exploitation of his sexuality?

Michael Smith   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

Ted, God Bless you! I am reminded of Peter, God may have a bigger reason for you to reach out and help others.

Scott   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

Ted needs to realize that he is gay. There are no two ways around this fact. I am the first born son of a minister and I am gay. These issues are not easy to deal with. But it is necessary to realize that "the truth will set you free".

Rev. Thomas Wyatt   January 29th, 2009 9:22 pm ET

Mr. Haggard,

What response do you have for the ministerial community...How can people seperate your actions from the actions of legitamte minsters striving to maintain the integrity of minstry?

Rev. Thomas Wyatt Altus, Oklahoma

Kelli from Tampa   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

Sorry jen but I work with these victims covering up the truth does nothing for anyone, and if you think denying these issues will make them go away you are wrong. Do not think "Jesus" would walk buy a house and hear a woman being verbally or physically beaten and just keep on walking. I certainly do not think He would sit back and cover up a child being molested.
Save the dogma and walk the walk otherwise stop your fingerpointing.

Josephine Tittsworth   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

In my past I spent many hours evangelizing in Pasadena Texas. My best friend is a minister. When I transitioned from male to female, my walk with Christ remainded the same yet my Christian friends all abandoned me. How are you coping with the loss of important people in your life and those who proclaim Christ?

Matt Harris   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

I want Mr. Haggard to apologize to Richard Dawkins for the way he treated him after Dawkins interviewed him. Science and the theory of evolution can explain his "compulsions" better than anything you will find in the bible.

dredd   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

I want ted to say into the camera, "i am only human" and i made a mistake and christ understands.

Joe   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

Are there anymore instances that will come out? Did you have any encounters with minors?

Mike   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

I would like fo rTed to finally own up to his sexual orientation. He's a gay man that manipulated his wife and kids by threatening suicide. He is using all the media and HBO because he is broke and needs money. Being gay is not a choice. He wasn't and still isn't a victim. He is a disgrace to the gay community. As long as he lives in this denial (hetereosexual with issues, please), he will be having same sex – sex on the 'DL'. Your counselors are a joke!

Suzanne NJ   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

I commend you for coming clean. Stay strong and run the race! Jesus does forgive! And you can be new in Christ!

Michael Mitchell   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

What are your thoughts regarding gays and the struggle that they are going through within the religious community?

Lynne Weller   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

You came back from a commercial break a short while ago, and after less than two minutes on the air, you went to another commercial break. Is this a talk show, or is it a commercial show with short, talk breaks? Ridiculous!

Ulysses S   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

What have you ultimately learned about yourself as a person and as a leader (husband, parent, spiritual leader)? What has the experience/challenge taught you?

Keith James   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

G A Y. Period.

A heterosexual with complications?

A homosexual with a mental disorder.

Leo M. Davis   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

Is there any chance of Pastor Ted getting back into the Evangelical church with the new homosexual allegations?

Damion   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

I want to hear Ted Haggard take back all the things he has said about homosexuals! I want him to say that he understands that people do not have complete control over their sexual preferences.

Glen McDaniel   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

Does Ted haggard realize how much hurt he and his ilk cause by the angry critical condemnation of gays? Why do they always simply say "The devil made me do it" and then expect to be be accepted back into society and to benefit financially from their lapses??

Wil   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

Does he think that he is "cured" and if so will he now commit not to have sexual relations with other men?

Amy   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

I've been watching Ted Haggard over the past few days and I continue to hear him say God comes for the unrighteous. As a lesbian who lives in Canada due to current laws that make me a 2nd class citizen, I want to hear him say everyone should be equal under the law and I want to hear him say that his righteousness comments are not an insinuation that being gay alone makes one unrighteous.

Dave Klein   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

Did you ever take crystal meth, and if so, how many times and how often? Also, when was the last time that you took it?

Tom Johnson   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

Why can't you accept yourself for who you are? A proud gay man

Tomas Bryant   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

I'm cynical about why Ted Haggard participated in the documentary and is speaking out now. If there is any financial gain for him – either for being in the documentary, or for making media appearances now for it – his hypocrisy is shameful.

Natalie   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

Why is this man worried about his poor son being teased at football practice, yet he ruined the mind of the young man at his former church? He should not pollute the minds of others.

janet   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

Why doesn't he admit he is a big old queen and proud of it/

Tyler   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

How dare you say that being gay is a complication! You continue to not be sorry, and continue to be a stain on anyone who has ever asked for forgiveness.

Troy from Murrieta Ca   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

I want to hear him say he is just another one of this country's hypocrites that chastise the same that they are. Until he comes clean with that, he get no respect for this so-called confession he is trying to lay on the public. People make mistakes all the time..but the worst are those that put down those that openly admit what they, when they themselves hide in the shadows.

J G Price   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

I just don't think Ted Haggard is being truthful to himself.

Terry Stump   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

I would like to say that a church that rejects Mr. Haggard or anyone else is not a Christian church or a church that I would take part in.

Chanel Weathington   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

I would like to know more about Ted's meth addiction. How long did it last, is he in recovery or already clean and what pushed him to start using meth?


Robert   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

When will you finally begin to love yourself for being homosexual, and start teaching your children, your wife, all those in your church who are intolerant, and most importantly your therapist, that being gay was who you were meant to be on this earth? Otherwise, you continue to lie to yourself and perpetuate intolerance. Grow up!

howard   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

why do you think this is so rampant in the catholic church?

Lumpy   January 29th, 2009 9:23 pm ET

Explain your drug use. no one in would go looking to buy meth without a past history of drug use. When did you begin to use? As a teenager? when? how often?

Pam   January 29th, 2009 9:24 pm ET

Why did n't you keep all this before the church instead of bringing this before the world?

Holly   January 29th, 2009 9:24 pm ET

I have always respected your hauling the ‘dominion over the earth and its’ resources’ evangelicals to the environmental movement. You brought awareness to people who thought that environmentalism was a crunchy, secular-humanist plot against god’s will.

Can you imagine what the effect would have been if you had been honest about being gay? Can you imagine the conversations that would have started? Can you imagine trying to live your life with dignity as a gay Christian?

Sandra Hernandez   January 29th, 2009 9:24 pm ET

How can you (Ted) still believe in the church, when they have exiled and turned their backs on you?

Jane Hunter   January 29th, 2009 9:24 pm ET

Why does Ted need counselors to help him. Wouldn't his life be much clearer if he just accepted that he is gay and move on to live and lead a free and clear life?

Kurt   January 29th, 2009 9:24 pm ET

Thanks, Pastor Haggard, for sharing your truth. It is powerful! Though some will be wounded, I believe that many will be healed and seek mental health support, along with spiritual counsel. I see the love of Jesus in you.

dr kent j albrecht   January 29th, 2009 9:24 pm ET

You have one of the top Christian based therapists worldwide right there in Denver area, The LIFE SKILLS program by Dr. Paul Hegstrom (known for treating high profile Pastors, etc., such as Jim Baker) Why didn't you seek him out early on with your problems or have you now?
The "injury" as a child is definately contributing to your bad decisions as an adult, due to the core wounds of your emotional developement!

Jo Ann, Ohio   January 29th, 2009 9:24 pm ET

Haggard is a BS-er!!

Nichole   January 29th, 2009 9:24 pm ET

Pastor Haggard, I'm a bit confused about some of your statements. I hope that you can help me understand a bit better. How can you call yourself completely heterosexual given your pattern of sexuality? You had sex with Mike Jones, a male chuch member, and you had a relationship with a boy in 7th grade. Maybe you're bi with a preference for men.

What gave your wife the strength to stay with you give the fact that you were unfaithful to her on several occasions?

adam in Boston   January 29th, 2009 9:24 pm ET

You say that you "built up a life and then destroyed it all"

My question is – why is this considered destruction? Many people come out as gay and lead happy, fulfilling lives. Why is accepting being gay so anathema to you?

David   January 29th, 2009 9:24 pm ET

I want to hear Ted Haggard explain why he got involved with meth. The media focus on his sexuality, but I find the drugs to be a much more puzzling aspect of the story.

Vlad   January 29th, 2009 9:24 pm ET

Mr. Haggard, as a humanist and an atheist, I feel glad as I imagine you do, that you came clean and told the truth to the public. Not many Pastors or even average men in your position would have admitted to what you did. Even in this trying time, be proud and happy that you stayed true to the truth and yourself.

xerxesk   January 29th, 2009 9:25 pm ET

why come public and talk about you life, What good have you done? You are no different than a Muslim fanatic in Iran that say things in the name of god but is full of lie and hate behind close door.
WHY WHY are u back

eileen   January 29th, 2009 9:25 pm ET

Face your truth and own up to who you are, admit you are gay and spare the pain of yourself, wife and children not to mention your christian followers.

Jim   January 29th, 2009 9:25 pm ET

I've been listening to your "story" and I have to say that you seem so detached from yourself. The message that is clear is how concerned you are about yourself and how other may perceive you. I think your therapist could do you a favor by helping you get in touch with your narcissism a bit better. You are obviously conflicted and clearly display a disregard for your family, friends, and others who are watching this show.

kimberly   January 29th, 2009 9:25 pm ET

Isn't the Christian Doctrine is to FORGIVE? This could be a test of his congregation, of their true beliefs. We all make mistakes. Since He got God's forgiveness, are these unforgiving people putting themselves above God?

Diane McLaughlin   January 29th, 2009 9:25 pm ET

it's more than a disgrace! I feel he hasn't enough SHAME to be sincere. I don't believe a word he says...

Joseph   January 29th, 2009 9:25 pm ET

He should admit that he is Bisexual, I think he is still in denial. He needs to show love to the gay community because he is gay.

Jessica   January 29th, 2009 9:25 pm ET

Is it better to be a hetrosexual with complications or a homosexual without them?

Cherise   January 29th, 2009 9:25 pm ET

What would you say to my 17 year old son who has never been the same since the scandal? He wants to know what's real and is reluctant to walk inside of church doors. We had been under your teaching for eight years attending New Life and you baptized him.

Bruce Allen   January 29th, 2009 9:25 pm ET

I think Ted Haggard, and every minister of his type, have caused gay people throughtout the nation imeasurable pain. He is a complete fraud, and is just now seeing what a hypocritical life he is leading.

If he were indeed a man of character and regret, he would now openly and forever repudiate the anti-gay messages of the upside world of right wing Christianity and become an outspoken supporter of gay rights.

CaseyJ - Palm Springs, CA   January 29th, 2009 9:25 pm ET

He's GAY, Larry. Come on!!! A therapist doesn't know how any person feels inside. I love these "experts" giving him wrong information. Their lisences should be taken away–they're just making it more difficult. Sexual feelings and "relationships" are two different things, Ted. Are you talking about sex with your wife or the realtionship? You are totally lost....

Rey   January 29th, 2009 9:25 pm ET

people would say hypocrite, but again thompson twins said " we're only human born to make mistakes."

Janice m.   January 29th, 2009 9:25 pm ET

I'm having a difficult time with your conversation tonight. The words seem right, but your voice, your tone, you haven't even broken up one time. Showing the HBO clip and you are even laughing! Where are your current thought regarding the choices you have made and the Holy Scriptures. Do you still believe that those who continue in this lifestyle will go to Hell?

Prince Mill   January 29th, 2009 9:25 pm ET

Tedd, When you were a pastor? Why you didn't seek help after you got married? Why wait for so long?
Were you molested or abused in your childhood?

Emelda   January 29th, 2009 9:26 pm ET

I congratulate Haggard. He is brave enough to come out and appologize to his wife, family and church. I condemn his act, but I applaud his atonement.
A question for Haggard: do you think you would have made it without your wife and children standing by you?

Dee   January 29th, 2009 9:26 pm ET

Where do you stand with God?

Steven Abrams   January 29th, 2009 9:26 pm ET

I believe it is appauling that he has still not come to terms with his sexuality or has but will not say it. He is a spirtually bankrupt man.
I believe in a loving merciful god. In universal salvation of all humans. Ted Haggard is gay, he should own up to it.
Will he admit that the church should reach out to young gay males and females regarding suicide prevention?

Justin Jamali   January 29th, 2009 9:26 pm ET

Do you think its fair that this has happened to you? Do you think Mike Jones would have reported you if you were an assembly line worker?

rob   January 29th, 2009 9:26 pm ET

ah, but bob..if we can get a replay of the first segment–you can see him admit his feelings are not a choice. can draw from this comment that he realizes his feelings for men are not a choice, but a natural part of who he is? is he admitting that homosexuality is natural and not a lifestyle choice?

what is fascinating is that the states that the boxes do not work for him or that he does not fit in a 'box', yet he lumps all glbt persons together in the same 'box' for being vilified.

Jim Hines   January 29th, 2009 9:26 pm ET

In March of 2002 I attended a Spiritual conference in Toronto that Mr Haggard was a speaker at. In no way did I suspect anything as has happened and am disapointed as others are I'm sure. But I want to say that Mt Haggard is a living example that in spite of our human failings and sinful nature ... God can – does and will use us if given the chance. I can truly say that Mr Haggard has had a very positive impacr in his teaching and sermons that I have listened to and my closenes to God grew in part because of that. I would like to know if he intends to maybe deal with his issues and when he feels confident enough will he again or does he now still stand as a man in the service of God? I hope he does ... and I am not gay and definatley happily married!

Steve   January 29th, 2009 9:26 pm ET

Please ask Ted:

Ted, why don't you just go away? Why the public tour? How does that benefit you as opposed to your PR campaign.


Dennis Stewart   January 29th, 2009 9:26 pm ET

I'd like to hear Ted say that homosexuality is a sin, not use some other word for it.

Bob   January 29th, 2009 9:26 pm ET

Is your new insight into human sexuality the only issue with which you have departed from evangelical orthodoxy? If God created you with a "process" to develop sexually, are there other areas you have grown away from evangelical orthodoxy?

Brian   January 29th, 2009 9:26 pm ET

What do u tell other ministers that are now where u were 5 years ago, struggling and praying to no avail

rick wezner   January 29th, 2009 9:26 pm ET

What do think Jesus would say about your life style?

trina   January 29th, 2009 9:26 pm ET

Do you think many ministers feel trapped by living a lie? Do you think your story will help other leaders deal with immoral behavior?

Mike   January 29th, 2009 9:26 pm ET

Mr. Harrgard-

As a gay man, who struggled for years to come out of the closet, and who understands how difficult it is to finally admit that "i am gay," I wonder if you think you are doing yourself and your family more harm than good through continually denying that you are gay? It is true that it is hard to come to grips with it, and there is a natural tendency to hold on to that "middle ground" where "boxes" do not apply. But the most freeing thing in the world is to come to grips with who you really are. I hope that you will get there.

Keith   January 29th, 2009 9:26 pm ET

The religious hypocrites have it wrong yet again, being a devout christian is a lifestyle, you can choose it or you can give it up and do something useful with your life. It is clear that the overwhelming view of the medical and scientific community is that homosexuality is not a choice, it is possibly genetic.

Va Mom   January 29th, 2009 9:27 pm ET

I believe we can't throw stones at Ted becasue we all have sinned and can not....should not judge him. God is the judge..PERIOD. M prayers are with you Ted and your family as you process.

rex harrington   January 29th, 2009 9:27 pm ET

his wife is dillusional, he is a gay man clinging to the delusion that that is wrong hearing him saying he is scared and a mess is so wrong he is GAY and can't cope due to his religious background and the shame and hypocrosy that is the corruption of the church. Just watch the Tudors to understand the control and corruption that the church holds over people.

Eric   January 29th, 2009 9:27 pm ET

You keep referring to it as Ted Haggard's "sexual immorality" when discussing his sex scandal. As someone who was raised in the "Christian" church, I too was convinced that what I was doing was wrong. It was only until years later that I was able to realize that being gay is NOT immoral or wrong, but that I am made by God and that all of us are created equal!! Until people realize this, we will continue to have "ministers" of hate vs. ministers of love.
Please stop refering to gay relationships as immoral!
Thank you
ER from NC

Alex Ballou - Beaumont, TX   January 29th, 2009 9:27 pm ET

Did he exposed his wife to HIV or Aides through unsafe sex acts? Did he always use protection? Has he or his wife tested positive for any sexually transmitted diseases?

Jo Ann, Ohio   January 29th, 2009 9:27 pm ET

So I guess Ted is saying that the devil made him do it! Ha!

susan e gray   January 29th, 2009 9:27 pm ET

i am a christian woman and i think he is very brave to come on national t.v.. and speak about such a controversial subject. thank you and God bless you.

Jeremy   January 29th, 2009 9:27 pm ET

Is Ted going to a church to a church in Colorado Springs now?

veronica   January 29th, 2009 9:27 pm ET

My father was a pastor in Mega church in Mexico, after 15 years we found out he was having homosexual relationships.
I want Ted H. to say what is a father thinking when he betrays and hurts his children in such a way.
How can a father not consider the deep pain that they cause and the way they mark their children forever, from being the children of the great Minister to the children of the inmoral or homsexual?

james ropkis   January 29th, 2009 9:27 pm ET

anyone that sat in the church when haggard was preaching needs to reflect on how he might have changed their minds on what it means to be a person of god

Melissa M Cohen   January 29th, 2009 9:27 pm ET

I think it is very sad that this poor man cannot admit his homosexuality; of course he is confused, he is gay and because of his religion will not admit it. What a sad life. This is what his "God" has done to him, his wife, and his children. A true "God" loves everyone human soul he has created, regardless of their sexuality.

Raybird   January 29th, 2009 9:27 pm ET

I have such great sorrow in my heart for Mr Haggard after seeing him on Oprah yesterday,I am praying so much for him and I believe that God has forgiven him the moment that he asked for forgiveness.I am so glad that God forgives and he remembers our sins no more when we are sincere,God bless him and his family.I wish them well.

Tracy   January 29th, 2009 9:27 pm ET

I would like Ted to say that 1. his sin is no better or worse than any other human's sin (from little white lie or worse)- in God's eyes, 2. that God does not hate homosexuals, but He does hate their sexual sin, and 3. that it is only by the power of the Holy Spirit and his faith in Jesus Christ that he can come forward truthfully and with his head held high.

Brianna   January 29th, 2009 9:27 pm ET

Ted is saying what needs to be said. I believe he's remorsefull. There is no "degree" of sin. Sin is sin. He has done everything scripture says he's to do after his sin is exposed. May God continue to bless and heal Ted and his family.

Alan   January 29th, 2009 9:28 pm ET

Want to hear him say? No a lot. As a sociologist, I would congratulate him on admitting how complex and non-linear sexuality is and how gender plays a role in all of this. Now if he would only spread the word with others in the Evangelical community and stop their tirades against some Universal Gayness.

Roberta Maresca   January 29th, 2009 9:28 pm ET

Our war is not against flesh and blood...
Ted you are dealing with a perversion spirit . Keep it simple.
and run.

Wil   January 29th, 2009 9:28 pm ET

What would he say to a gay adolescent?

scott   January 29th, 2009 9:28 pm ET

What atheist book did Ted read?

Stephen Robards   January 29th, 2009 9:28 pm ET

I don't want him to say another word, as I don't believe him.
This 57 year old gay man in a 30 year marriage with another man, a relationship that is precious and blessed and, incidentally, monogamous, would like all of the preachers and their followers with bigoted and hateful comments about us to go read the Sermon on the Mount and practice what Jesus told us. We now live in Canada, a country that respects its citizens enough to allow them to chose who they love and honour all of our relationships. I don't find honour in this man.

Bryce Thompson   January 29th, 2009 9:28 pm ET


Tell us more about your drug use and addiction... When did you start using? What drugs did you use? Did you attend any drug rehab since this story came to light two years ago??

Bryce Thompson,
Jackson, TN

Kevin Green   January 29th, 2009 9:28 pm ET

Christians are commanded by Jesus to not sin; however, we all sin. Why can't Christians forgive Mr. Haggard more easily? Jesus said the same thing to the Pharisees. "He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her." What do you think about this Mr. Haggard?

travis   January 29th, 2009 9:28 pm ET

i like men and my wife

kim   January 29th, 2009 9:28 pm ET

you said that Jesus left the 99 and went after the one. Is that your confession that homosexuality and drug abuse is sinful or just the adultery?

THOMPSON- MARYLAND   January 29th, 2009 9:28 pm ET


Melissa W- Littleton, CO   January 29th, 2009 9:28 pm ET

I would like to know from Mr. Haggard, how is your life now that you have come back to Colorado Springs? Is it more difficult now that you have to face the people that exiled you? How are your children handling the scandal and return to the area?

Jo Ann, Ohio   January 29th, 2009 9:28 pm ET

Haggard didn't have any problem condemning gays in the past.

Mary Klues   January 29th, 2009 9:28 pm ET

I just said, last week, what a superb host Larry King is because he respects each guest. So many hosts have agendas, have pre conceived ideas, or use their guest as props for their own egos. Larry always seemed to listen with an open ear.

Tonight Larry can hardly contain his bias towards Ted Haggard.
My bubble has burst.

Thomas   January 29th, 2009 9:28 pm ET

You still seem to think your homo-sexual desires are a parasite within you. Have you ever thought maybe some men are created (maybe by your god) to have sexual desires for other men? If so, why is it a sin?

Bill   January 29th, 2009 9:28 pm ET

You told Larry King that the gay feelings you had initially started when you were in high school and that these feelings were not a choice that you made. Many evangelicals believe that homosexuals have chosen this lifestyle. Do you believe you can now help heterosexuals to better understand that homosexuals have not chosen their lifestyle, but that is is part of their make-up?

David Phillips   January 29th, 2009 9:28 pm ET

I want to hear Ted Haggard acknowledge that fundamentalist churches are a haven for men and women stuggling with and in denial about their sexuality, bargaining with a loving God to heal them of what is a perfectly natural gift of their creation. Further, acknowledge that fundamentalist doctrine does spiritual and psychological damage to Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgendered people. I know this from my own journey and taking refuge in a fundamentalist sect during college while also hustling and using drugs, despite having had a loving relationship with another boy from elementary school through high school.

I also want to hear what he is doing to make amends to LGBT people. Using the term 'homosexual" casts Gay men and Lesians in a clinical context and begs a fight, instead of dedicating one's self to sensitivity and healing.

Patti   January 29th, 2009 9:29 pm ET

I want Ted to know that I will be praying for him & his family. What he did is wrong but, everyone sins. What has made this such a big deal is his position. I just wanted to know that I will be praying for him.

Van   January 29th, 2009 9:29 pm ET

Nothing......He has sought forgiveness from his victims, his family, and his God, what more can you do......there is not much more that he can say.

kyle   January 29th, 2009 9:29 pm ET

it's not about throwing stones, it's about what God expects of US!

izabelle Doucet   January 29th, 2009 9:29 pm ET

What I want to hear Ted Haggard say is that he forgives himself for what he did and intends to live a good life from now on.

After all he is human, and who has not sinned? therefore nobody has a right to cast the first stone.

I admire you Ted for the courage to admit publicly to your faults. It is
humbling and an inspiration to many of us who understand the complexity and struggles of the human condition.

Jim   January 29th, 2009 9:29 pm ET

Do you see your experience and testimony as a bridge for the church to understand and be more accepting of the homosexuals .

Do you believe that church members should reveal their homosexual desires to the congregation.

Muhammad   January 29th, 2009 9:29 pm ET

With all the sex scandals in various churches and among Christian clergymen, don't you think that you should become Muslims where your spirituality is connected with all other aspects of your life and you get to have the "real Holy Spirit"?

Richard   January 29th, 2009 9:29 pm ET

I would like to know if Mr. Haggard finds men attractive in a sexual way...the same way he would notice an attractive woman walking down the street.

Phil   January 29th, 2009 9:29 pm ET

I'm a Buddhist, But I grew up as a Southern Baptist traveling with My granparents in a Gospel group called the Old Time Gospel Singers, so I do understand your tradition. From a Buddhist perspective what you are experiencing is exactly the results of your own actions, Do you agree? Please let him answer! This is something we call Karma, or simply translated as action, this is not a belief it is an observation of the natural world. With that, would you be open to teachings of other great masters based on pure truth?

Christina   January 29th, 2009 9:29 pm ET

I am really affected by your repentance. It means so much to a greater community that you are honest and forthright and unashamed of how God made you. None of us have any right to judge others. I think that was your greatest sin, not necessarily the deceit. However, you still treat homosexuality like its a phase, not like its a natural state of being. Being a man who is gay, can you not understand that homosexuality is not wrong because if it exists in our world, it has been created by God. And is not everything that he has created holy?

Whilma E. DeBique Whilma   January 29th, 2009 9:29 pm ET

Larry, I would like Ted to encourage other pastors and some of his conservative friends to show respect for all gay people because they are no less a sinner than any other human being here on this earth. The word of God says, "there is none righteous, no not one." He was a lead bigot toward the gays around the world, now he like Saul is bring healing.

I am happen for the example that God through Jesus Christ has made him. He is not the first nor will he be the last. There are many other high profile people who know they are gay, but still promulgate bigotry toward people with the same desire as they have.

George   January 29th, 2009 9:29 pm ET

Does he feel more in touch with God now then before.

marc   January 29th, 2009 9:29 pm ET

He is so lost in the closet. i feel as a gay man that he should own up to the fact that he is gay and move on with his life. there are so many young people that are watching the will feel like they have to hid in the closet. come and be proud of who you are. God will not love you any less. God will love the fact that you are not lying to him or to yourself or your family.

Terry Carpenter   January 29th, 2009 9:30 pm ET

Notice you said you have been in counseling and what they have advised you, My question is what do you think you are, if you have thoughts of being with guys that would not be straight.

Kareem   January 29th, 2009 9:30 pm ET

Mr. Haggard -

THere are parents of gays and lesbian youth who have committed suicide in part due to negative statements you have made over the years. What do you say to those families?; and do you consider yourself a symbol of hypocrisy.

ann   January 29th, 2009 9:30 pm ET

My father left our mother due to his love for another man. What other than a "Christian or biblical" message would you offer up for a family torn apart? How do we find forgiveness for a man who literally broke our moms heart?

Bridget   January 29th, 2009 9:30 pm ET

I want to hear Ted Haggard say that it's OK to love whomever one wants, I don't want to hear him say that he's sorry for loving or having desires, only sorry that he lied. There is no reason he can't adore his wife, his family, and also a gentleman in his life, along with the many individuals in his congregation that he has shared his ideas with.

In an age of over-population where too many human beings threaten the health of this planet and future generations of people, animals, and plants, any couples who do not want to bring more children into the world should be supported and encouraged. Any other point of view or political policy in my opinion is immoral.

Larry Marshall   January 29th, 2009 9:30 pm ET

I am wondering where is your income coming from? Are you still living from money you get from the church? Isn't that wrong?

CaseyJ - Palm Springs, CA   January 29th, 2009 9:30 pm ET

The only consistent thing that makes any person (gay or not) leave an unhappy life is being treated like a second-class citizen. Gay people are NOT unhappy...society (ignorant religion) asserts we're unhappy because of the relentless brainwashing that teaches to pick and choose passages in a book (bible) to support their myopic thinking.

FS   January 29th, 2009 9:30 pm ET

HI Larry,,,i just have 1 question for Mr Haggard,,,i want to hear him say that he is gay and that being gay is ok,,,,,,,he cannot seek help from christian therapist,,,,,,,,,,,, theres no such thing, a hetero w/ homo attachments,,, a very good friend of mine was well know in the christian contemporary music field , he too came out,, recently by his choice,,,, and is watching this,,,laughing at how Mr H,,says he s now cured,,,,,, jesus cant cure you

Cassandra   January 29th, 2009 9:30 pm ET

OK......I'll try a better comment......since the last one got pulled from the post..........I think Ted has always been bisexual. I think he is sorrowful, because he got caught. I believe if the male prostitute had not told on Ted, Ted would probably still be having a secret homosexual affair. I believe Ted misses his lavishing income he once received. I believe he never revealed his sexual orientations because generally in the eyes of the American public, homosexuality can be viewed as negative, and he would not have been able to acquire the income he received.

David   January 29th, 2009 9:30 pm ET

Ted – my father was a Southern Baptist Preacher. For over 20 years I was subjected to verbal abuse over my sexuality because my father could not understand that God loved me just as I was. I am now a proud open Gay man, who doesnt have to hide or lie about his sexuality after years of counseling and acceptance.

You should not talk about Homosexuality as if you were an expert on the subject since you still cannot accept who you are, and you should seek the Lord who accepts all, rather than the Hypocritical God that the Evangelical Church says is only for the select and the few.

I pray that God may convict you for all the years of your homophobic preaching that you did from the pulpit and may have destroyed the lives of innocent Gays and Lesbians seeking acceptance and love.

Kelli from Tampa   January 29th, 2009 9:30 pm ET

Agree with Rex.

NOAH   January 29th, 2009 9:30 pm ET

Do you think the Devil has a hold on you, and if so what will make him loosen his grip?

Vicky M. Tucker   January 29th, 2009 9:30 pm ET

I would like for Mr. Haggard to acknowledge the emotional and spiritual harm he inflicted on Grant Haas. He doesn't seem to grasp how much he hurt this young man.

Sandra Hernandez   January 29th, 2009 9:30 pm ET

What do you think you life would be like if the bible embraced homosexuality. If the bible changes their view on homosexuality, would you then participate in those tendencies?

THOMPSON- MARYLAND   January 29th, 2009 9:31 pm ET


bsalmon   January 29th, 2009 9:31 pm ET

God bless you Mr Haggard u say u have received counselling

ru getting help from a christian form?

May God bless u & r family always

William Adams   January 29th, 2009 9:31 pm ET

Good bye.

I dont want to see him get credit for doing the right thing having hurt people the way he has. No one should be credited for simply NOT being a pervert so why are you allowing him this opportunity to attempt to redeem himself?

It is good that he realizes he was wrong in abusing young boys, but wrong that he gets to portray himself as a good guy now while others like him sit in jail.

He should say goodbye and go home.

Bill Adams of Maryland.

Kelly   January 29th, 2009 9:31 pm ET

I am enjoying this interview a lot more than I expected. I appreciate the questions asked and the honesty with the answers as best Ted can answer them today.

My question for Larry King to ask is if there are people like Ted who struggle with the thoughts similar to an Alcoholic or Food Addict is there a support group and does he attend one?

Jonathan Williams   January 29th, 2009 9:31 pm ET

Why are you laughing? Have you had sexual relations with young girls or women in your church while you were "pastoring" them? Where do you feel the people that claimed salvation under your preaching while you were being sexually immoral stand spiritually?
If you wouldn't have been caught, would you have kept misleading people or would you have resigned?

CaseyJ - Palm Springs, CA   January 29th, 2009 9:31 pm ET

The wife is ALWAYS the first to know. Denial is not just a river...

Marisa Delgado   January 29th, 2009 9:31 pm ET

This is more than being gay. When you have a family that you had lied and betrayed, it is more than your sexuality. It is about devotion to your faith and God. You had violated your wife, family, religion and church. My husband too, leads a double life. He has sex with young men and forgets he even had a family that loved him. There should be no sympathy for such actions. The one that should be interviewed is the wife, family, and church congregation. It's better to be gay and honest, than to lie about your sexuality and marry. You hurt others in the process.

Basil Basil   January 29th, 2009 9:32 pm ET

Since the on set of the Scandal,I cried and felt bad and pity about brother Ted.Like David shouted,"how are the mighty fallen..'
People should not use this to get discouraged and redicule Christianity.As the book of Micah said "do not laugh at me oh my enemy when I fall I shall arise,when I sit in darkness the Lord shall be my light"
I am happy that the God of second chance has remained with Ted and the support of her wife and family showed true christian love and forgiveness.
May the Lord continue to uphold you as you are restored

Michael   January 29th, 2009 9:32 pm ET

This guy is a phooney! He's still dishonest and he's still gay; however hard he wants to slam the closet door!! In his defense, many gay men are in heterosexual relationships so it's his life.

Pam in Georgia   January 29th, 2009 9:32 pm ET

Finally, Catholic and Protestant denominations are admitting that "ministers" are human too! Are the "failing ministers" and their scandals a sign Christ's coming?

Wayne Nall   January 29th, 2009 9:32 pm ET

Will Mr. Haggard go on the View next?

Joel   January 29th, 2009 9:32 pm ET

I want to hear Ted Haggard say: "That my 'yes' is 'yes' and my 'no' is 'no' and that I will not sin according to Romans 6 and Psalm 51."

Don't be mealy-mouthed or wishy-washy.

Leslie   January 29th, 2009 9:32 pm ET

Is Ted Haggard and his wife going to go to Pastor Carlton Pearson from Oklahoma and ask for his forgiveness openly on TV for the remarks Ted made in the past about his fall from being a televangelist? Since Ted and his wife are asking for the public and the church to have mercy and forgiveness on them?

George   January 29th, 2009 9:32 pm ET

Does Ted feel that this experience will help him to be a better person that will help other.

helen colen   January 29th, 2009 9:33 pm ET

Why do you give so much time to Ted Haggard? He is a lying homosexual who deceived those that followed him and believed in him. He stole their faith and hope, not unlike Madoff who stole people's money, or a serial killer like Ted Bundy who stole people's lives. It is just different faces of same coin with different outcomes. I think he should admit to sexuality, stop hiding behind his wife's apron and let him start following religion that allows homosexuality. Saying I am sorry, is only so he would like to regain his standing in society and make money again. Do you think that him crying I am sorry is sincere? Do you really think he is no longer a homosexual? Of course not. That is impossible. So stop wasting the viewers time, and make this man something special and give him so much air time. Find a better role model. Enough of priests going astra, governors going astray, wall streeters going astray etc. Let us see people who are righteous, smart and great role models. Our society will never be great if all we see is loosers. thank you.

Michael G.   January 29th, 2009 9:33 pm ET

Do you feel that you now have new appreciation and understanding of homosexuals? What would you tell a spiritual mother who is struggling with a gay son/daughter?

Lacey Johns   January 29th, 2009 9:33 pm ET

Ted, I believe you are a good and honorable man and I have an immense amount of respect for you. I had never even heard of you until the big scandal broke. I grew up in the church and still am very active in my church. I felt I had to live a straight life because of what the Bible said in very black and white terms. I never considered homosexuality as an option. I understand where you are right now because i was there myself. Within the past couple of months, I have come to understand and believe things very differently. I am attracted to women, not men. I believe that it's okay to live my life this way. I am 35 years old.

These things are very hard for people to understand if they haven't grown up in the church as we did. But I understand. And I believe you. It's not the same choice I have made, but I respect your decision to make it. And you are right that Jesus came to save the unrighteous. And we are all unrighteous. None of us are any better or worse than anyone else. God loves us all, no matter what.

kvs   January 29th, 2009 9:33 pm ET

Has your streadfast beliefs become less a certainty and more a fatih, so that you can no longer speak of what is true but what you choose to believe? And if so, can you ever again stand on a stage and declare your certainty of your kind of christian convictions and preach that homosexuality is wrong for all? Or just for him, just as the truth of his faith is his perspective.

Euegne   January 29th, 2009 9:33 pm ET

As a gay man and an atheist, I hope Haggard admits that strict religious upbringning does not necessarily make someone immune to activity that is considered "immoral" to most. I have been brought up in a non religious, liberal household that did not focus on sinning, authority etc, but love and acceptance. I am currently an honor student, enrolled in the Peer Leadership program, and I also am disgusted with how perverted teens as a whole are currently today.

What differs with me and fundamentalist Christians however, is that a lack of religion and/or abundance of homosexual acceptance is not the problem, the problem is the methods we use to raise children. Focusing too much on "sin" just gets people more obsessed with it. Ted is a great example. In Europe, organized religion is not very popular yet topless beaches are an abundance, and Europeans often frown upon American children as immature and "perverted." I was never taught that porn, partying, etc is a "sin" thus, I am not obessed with them, and ignore them. My fellow religious peers on the other hand tend to be literally obsessed with these things.

The moral of the story is that we must rethink our methods of parenting. Knowledge is power; simply saying "don't do it" does very little.

Jason Gerring   January 29th, 2009 9:33 pm ET

John 3:16 to me clearly summarizes my christian faith, that whoever so believes in Jesus will be saved. I believe in him and feel the Holy Spirit in my life, yet I am a homosexual and always have been. had the bible stated that being heterosexual was the only way and that homosexuality was natural, I would have a hard time believing that people who like the opposite sex would be able to become homosexual. God creates us and loves us and we are all sinners, "Let those who are without sins cast the first stone". Since we are all sinners, then the only true sin is not believing in Jesus. Ted, do you believe that a gay man goes to Heaven, even while not being able to break this "sin" of homosexuality? I believe I am saved by believing.

Andrew Jones   January 29th, 2009 9:33 pm ET

I have great respect for your ability to tackle this struggle, and to do so publicly. That having been said, you refer to the fact that you are wounded. My honest opinion is that to say that you are "heterosexual with complications" is the cause of the wound not healing. We are all complicated. But having sex with men and thoughts of sex with men means that you are likely a homosexual. The only way the wound will truly heal will be when you can sincerely call it what it is. Your beautiful Christian faith is real. But, call your wound what it really is. If it quacks like a duck, it's a duck. God Bless!

Bob   January 29th, 2009 9:33 pm ET


Do you believe the Bible is wrong to condemn homosexuality,since you and millions of others have these inherent tendencies?

rex harrington   January 29th, 2009 9:33 pm ET

i am listening to the wife and feel so sorry for her that she can't see her husband is a gay man unable to come to terms with his attractions, he is a gay man only now coming to turns with his true feelings and inclanations, he has those feelings and will act on them forever he has not"messed up" he is gay and to say you had great sex is sad. He has been with men and that is not a sin if you are not brainwashed by the curch.

dana   January 29th, 2009 9:33 pm ET

Ted was my former youth pastor for approx. 5 years in Baker, LA @ BETHANY Baptist Church. He preached very strict morals to all of us in the youth group about not having intercourse outside of marriage about not doing drugs, etc. I'll always remember his answer to someone in our youth group about why it was wrong to smoke marijuana if God created everything...Ted's answer was....God made poison ivy too – do you want to smoke that? He truly tried to guide & teach us based on the bible. I am sorry that he & his family are having to walk down this road, I am sorry about the confusion, hurt & pain he has caused other people. ..I don't want to hear Ted say he forgives others...I want to hear him say , I am sorry for the deceit, the lies, the hypocrisy. I want to hear Ted say, "I will never blame others for choices I made. I want to hear Ted say, "God is real, God does heal. I want Ted to continue to get some help. God could use him more than ever now, especially since he can't put himself on a righteous pedestal.

Robert   January 29th, 2009 9:33 pm ET

I am in my 40s single hiv neg all my life... he is typical married gay man . Living in Your City USA I could have sex with two or more married men a day ..every day ... and a church official , any religion every day ....they are all over the internet looking for sex all day every day . This guy is doing what he has to do to re-start his carreer and not pay child support on 5 children. OH..."in the name of GOD" theese fake heteros make me so tired....I use them for sex because they are looking for it and I practice different tequnics on them and learn love-making skills....PLUS they are the most dangerous because they do not want ,nor do most of them practice safe sex.....

Bob   January 29th, 2009 9:33 pm ET

How could you come and speak at another church who had a pastor do the same thing to them but with women, knowing you were doing the same thing at home? You spoke at this church about a year before you were busted yourself !!!! Explain!!!!!!

Terry   January 29th, 2009 9:34 pm ET

I don't have a question so much as a statement. As a divorced gay father of three wonderful children I can say I feel for Mr. Haggard. I was married for 16 years and hid my thoughts and feelings as well. I think Mr. Haggard is confused and has really had a terrible experience. I must admit that previous to seeing the documentary on HBO tonight, I thought Mr. Haggard got everything he deserved. After viewing the show, I have gotten a new appreciation for his troubles. I can see myself in him. I was terribly scared and confused. Fortunately I didn't lose ALL my friends like he did. I did lose my parents (I haven't spoken with my father is almost two years now) and was asked to leave my church-Lutheran church-Missouri Synod. I have really struggled with my self and have over the span of the last few years have come to fully accept myself as a gay man. I have a wonderful partner that I have been with for 3 1/2 years now. But, it was a struggle to get to this point. I think Mr. Haggard has to accept himself as a gay man. That is the first step. I think it is disgusting that a counselor would tell him he is a heterosexual man with homosexual thoughts/issues. Homosexuality is not a choice. I know I didn't chose it and i'm sure Mr. Haggard didn't chose to have the thoughts either. I still consider myself a Christian, but mainstream Christianity has got a long ways to come. The Bible has been misinterpreted for many groups for centuries. It was once used to defend slavery! I will now include Mr. Haggard in my thoughts and prayers. Please extend my best to him and his family as this work through this difficult time.

Blake   January 29th, 2009 9:34 pm ET

As a gay man, Haggard disgusts me to my core. I don't believe anything he says. I think this is all a publicity stunt for his documentary tonight. I do not believe he has only had sex with Mr. Jones.

I define him as the worst type of closet case.

Darlene   January 29th, 2009 9:34 pm ET

The problem is Ted Haggard is gay and he has comdemned himself for that reason. I believe he is doing such a disservice to all of the gay people in the world. Why can't he STILL love his family and his CHURCH and live his truth. Until he's completely honest with himself, he will continue to struggle.

Brandy S.   January 29th, 2009 9:34 pm ET

I have always had issues with the obvious hypocrisy within religion and those that judge others as if they were perfect. However, I must admit I am moved by Ted Haggard's very public acknowledgement of his mistakes. Two years ago he disappeared into relative obscurity and could have stayed there. It takes a VERY brave soul to face this type of public scrutiny once again and not only apologize, but discuss it openly, and what appears to be honestly. It is not our job to judge others, none of us are perfect. I only wish the best for him, his wife and his family.

Laura   January 29th, 2009 9:34 pm ET

It sounds like Ted Haggard has had an intense amount of psychotherapy or counseling in a very short time. Could you ask him to clarify just how many hours of therapy he's received.

canaan   January 29th, 2009 9:34 pm ET

What would have happened had you not got caught?

Marin   January 29th, 2009 9:34 pm ET

How can he be cured from a desire of having a sex with another man if he has been thinking and longing for it since he was in high school??

Mark Ayers   January 29th, 2009 9:34 pm ET

Ask Ted Haggard if he ever looked at pornography or gay pornography
and if that is where he got his homosexual tendencies?

Just curious!

Flo Lapin   January 29th, 2009 9:34 pm ET

Larry, I feel genuine sorrow for Mr. Haggard's pain. Does he not know that most people feel absolutely no sexual attraction to others of like gender. No one, no persons of sound mind would CHOOSE to put themselves through the hell on earth you, and your family, have experienced. Sexual orientation is not a choice, sir. You are one of a minority of us who are biologically either homosexual or bisexual.
Surely Mr. Haggard knows the Bible describes hundreds of activities that were considered sinful: as, never to slay an animal for food unless it has been blessed by a Priest. I hope deeply for the sake of this good man and his wife and children that there is a realization the Bible is written as a spiritual and moral resource and not a a Book of Knowledge.

John   January 29th, 2009 9:34 pm ET

First and foremost why isn't anyone saying anything about the man that came out against Ted. He was selling crystal meth and performing prostitution. Yes, I am a gay man and work as an HIV certified registered nurse and was raised in the South. What I feel is that Ted needs to state he is Gay and accept that God loves him for who he is. I think it's admirable that he wants to work on his relationship with his wife and family as there are many bisexual individuals in this world that struggle with this issue every day. Ted should use this experience to teach the fact that there was only one perfect man that walked this earth and that was Jesus Christ. Jesus died for our sins because we are all sinners. Ted can take this experience and help so many GLBT individuals who feel ostracized every day of their lives. Church should accept us all as God is a loving God.

Ruthann Bartello   January 29th, 2009 9:34 pm ET

Does the judgement from Christian Leaders create the atmosphere where seeking help kept you as a wounded man bleeding and what would you reccomend to someone with the same struggles before they fall?

Annemarie Fuller   January 29th, 2009 9:34 pm ET

Does Ted Haggard know the difference between a homosexual and a pedophile? His "encounter" sound to me like sexual assault, where he is preying on a minor child over whom he had complete power. The "encounter" with the prostitute was also a power/control situation, but I'm most concerned to hear him speaking about sexually abusing a minor as a mistake or indiscretion. It's a CRIME and it's not about HIM, it's about the young boy. I hope and pray that the boy will press criminal as well as civil charges. He's worried about his son being teased at football practice while this poor boy's life has been permanently altered. If Ted is truly sorry he should go to the authorities and spare this poor boy some pain.

Jo Ann, Ohio   January 29th, 2009 9:35 pm ET

I am straight, but it is really offensive to me that the Haggards are talking about homosexuality like it is a disease or choice. It isn't!

Of course the wife is in denial because otherwise she would have to admit that her marriage was a lie.

Jonathan Williams   January 29th, 2009 9:35 pm ET

Are you trying to make money out of your ordeal? Why are you selling books, etc?

Jessica   January 29th, 2009 9:35 pm ET

Should evangelical leaders continue to speak out against secular marriage of homosexuals?

Scott in Texas   January 29th, 2009 9:35 pm ET

I want Ted to not only apologize to the GLBTQ community but if he is a preacher of love then I want him to stand up and support pure equality for all GLBTQ's which also means supporting civil unions and gay marriage. I want him to stand up for hate crimes legislations. Stand up and preach tolerance and understanding. Personally I think Ted is still hiding behind his homosexuality and is using this as way to gain popularity and make money off the backs of all GLBTQ’s. In the end I wouldn’t be surprised to find him hiding in the bathrooms and video booths looking for sex at the same time promoting himself as being straight. He is just another Larry Craig in denial.

Steven Abrams   January 29th, 2009 9:35 pm ET

PLEASE ASK TED: Due to the high suicide rates among GLBT people, shouldn't the church reach out to these people of their congregations.

Apple   January 29th, 2009 9:36 pm ET

Larry, he has said it. He has been honest enough to say that he still has thoughts of me. Many fakes would have said that the thoughts and feelings are dead. He is human and we all have weaknesses. sympathise with the both of them. I am christian but regardless of my faith, I still do not think the gay life is normal or moral whether sodomy is carried out by heteros or gays. He wa smolested and too ashamed to say and eventually it came out. Drugs were just to bury the pain. I am not a drinker and at one point if I had money, I was so depressed that I would have taken drugs or alcohol if I was offered. Give him a hug for me Lar.

Gloria Veltri   January 29th, 2009 9:36 pm ET

I don't want to hear him say ANYTHING! I want him to go away, and live a healthy, happy life out of the public eye. He is very fortunate that his wife & children stuck by him. "Sorry" is more than a requires action. Let him go help the poor, the hungry, the downtrodden in this country & throughout the world! The last thing this country needs is one more "professional victim" on the airwaves....we have enough to deal with in this country! The name of Jesus Christ has got to STOP being dragged through the has to stop NOW! Get off our airwaves & show restitution by helping others, not telling everyone how sorry you are!!!

Jolene B.   January 29th, 2009 9:36 pm ET

What does Mr. Haggard have to say to the victims& families of other young men who have been sexually abused by public figures who refuse to acknowledge their crime and continue to be protected?
How can the truth be revealed?

TINA   January 29th, 2009 9:37 pm ET

Hello Larry and Ted.....
Ted have you excepted Gods restoration in your life?He has already forgiven you,forgive yourself...Were you able to confront the man who did this to you when you were a little boy so you can forgive him?Dont let the world condem you,just walk out the rest of your journey in his love and back in his arms......God Bless and peace in your life and your family....Allow HIM to restore you......

T   January 29th, 2009 9:37 pm ET

Why is it always the Heterosexuals that are always caught up in these type of scandals. To sum it up in one word it is called perversion. He's a PERVERT.

Richard   January 29th, 2009 9:37 pm ET

Is this another ploy from Ted Haggard and his wife to fleece the church out of money to live their high status lifestyle and try to be back in the circles of Washington as ,"The Evangelical Leader" he was before? What is The New LIfe Church doing about this?

Darell   January 29th, 2009 9:37 pm ET

I want to hear Ted talk about what an injustice he's doing the gay community. He's making the world believe that homosexuality is "cureable" and can be counseled away.

Va Mom   January 29th, 2009 9:37 pm ET

It almost seem as though Gail is trying to convince herself that all is well even though he still have thoughts. What do you all think?

Charles Childers   January 29th, 2009 9:38 pm ET

Please ask this question of Ted Haggard, "What advice would you give to a gay man or woman? Has this changed because of your recent experiences?"

Damion   January 29th, 2009 9:38 pm ET

There is nothing he can say. He became a rich man by purposely deceiving people. He should give back his weath and stay out of the public eye.

rex harrington   January 29th, 2009 9:38 pm ET

Gail, you like so many women who are married to gay men fail to see the inrinsic nature of their struggle. For your husband it was multiplied by the church, he is a gay man following society. As a church leader the more he hid. It is so tragic to see you on t.v standing beside him in a positive light, he is agy accept it ,it is not your failure it is his natural nature!!!

Wil   January 29th, 2009 9:38 pm ET

Larry, we are going to get you a "gay card" because you are doing a great job with this one.

Natalie   January 29th, 2009 9:38 pm ET

I believe the only reason this man is going on Larry King Live and Opera is only to profit from it. Why else would he discuss is problems and be open. He is just trying to make money and act like he is truely regretful.

Larry Marshall   January 29th, 2009 9:38 pm ET

Where is the money he's living on come from? Those people he's scammed?

Mike   January 29th, 2009 9:39 pm ET

The scripture says that God's power is made perfect in our weakness. Could you address this topic in relation to your healing experience?

Marcus   January 29th, 2009 9:39 pm ET

While I admire Mr. Haggard's struggle and hopes for redemption what does he feel about other gay people who have lived their lives with honesty and integrity?

Rick Malone   January 29th, 2009 9:39 pm ET

Pastor Haggard: Although we have never met, my wife and I love you, support you and pray for you daily. You will continuely be in our prayer. God Bless

KALANI   January 29th, 2009 9:39 pm ET

Dear Mr. Haggard,

I would like to hear you apologize to the gay community as well as to your former followers and to your family. You, and others have used your evangelical Christianity as a weapon of intolerance toward gay people. I know you have skirted around the issue of proclaiming that homosexuality is a sin in your eyes because you still believe it. Don't you? But you will not say it as that will not play well in your current circumstances. I intuit very strongly that your shame is now going to be used as a tool to gain sympathy and to return to your evangelical ways. You cannot erase your homosexual side, no matter how you espouse it on Larry King. It will happen again. I hope you now have a taste of the shame that some gay people experience at the hands of those who judge them, fire them, and deny them benefits and rights in the name of Jesus and God. I think of my gay friends who are raising families. One couple adopted three children and are raising them in a loving home. You and your kin will never convince me that Jesus frowns on these God-centered, loving and generous individuals and that He turns away from them. Please get real and accept that you cannot sublimate your gay feelings. That is what I pray for you.

Kelli from Tampa   January 29th, 2009 9:39 pm ET

Thanks Larry for talking about the fact that he approached CHILDREN!

Eric   January 29th, 2009 9:39 pm ET

Stop saying that one sin is not bigger than another. Being gay is not a sin. Hating is a sin. Judging is a sin. Assuming to know the will of God is a sin. But living in a loving, respectful, purposefull relationship is not living in sin. We were all created in God's image, and he loves us all the same.

Ady Corso   January 29th, 2009 9:39 pm ET

To hear him say that he is a hetrosexual w/ complications almost implies that this is a new formula. Does he not think that 's what the Church is also made up of? That he is wounded and scarred is obvious, but so are the people at church that are looking for Christian acceptance...which is not eaqsily rendered.

gaabol   January 29th, 2009 9:39 pm ET

Can Ted explain why he thinks being a sexual deviant is tied to whether he is gay or not. His deceptions and betrayals have to do with his personal integrity, which is lacking.

Apple   January 29th, 2009 9:39 pm ET

Larry I meant he still has thoughts of men. I have never taken drugs and am not a drinker but due to how depressed I was, on that one day, if someone had offered me drugs or alcohol, I would have taken it just to cover the pain. I then tried to jump infront of an oncoming bus. People hurt and the things that they do to cover it up is not what others will do. We can be too judgemental! We need to be more empathetic with each other because none of us know what tomorrow holds. Your very child, brother or sister could be covering a pain which you know not and may end up taking their lives!

susan   January 29th, 2009 9:40 pm ET

Larry, shame on you...what kind of question is that...asking what Ted would say to someone who approached his kids' for sex...what does that have to do with Ted and his situation?? again we confuse deviant behaviour with has nothing to do with the other...

melba Ferguson (please do not use on air)   January 29th, 2009 9:40 pm ET

I admire your honesty. I realize that you are on a journey. I began that journey with my gay daughter more than 10 years ago. I have been candid with friends as situations arose and it seemed appropriate. My daughter has a "partner". Both are professionals and live openly as a couple among both gays and heterosexuals. My daughter's journey, like yours, was circuitous, but as she explained to me, she didn't have any role models. So early on she didn't understand her feelings. She is a practicing Christian. I hope you will continue to be honest as you continue this journey toward self-realization.

Kevin S.   January 29th, 2009 9:40 pm ET

I just wonder what Ted Haggard has to say to the gay community. Does he condemn them as so many of his fellow evangelicals do?

Pam in Georgia   January 29th, 2009 9:40 pm ET

How does Ted explain being "covered in the blood" and yet the devil can so easily penetrate into his inner core values as a man?

ike   January 29th, 2009 9:41 pm ET

what i want to know is the bible clearly makes it that homosexuality is not right and I believe telling or saying it to the ones involved is not amatter of hate but out of love to correct them. Ted can you elaborate on that and also I listened to your interview with Oprah and Ibelieve Iagree with your wife that it is a matter of choice because of course the thoughts will come but it is a matter of the Individual making the choice. can ted comment on these please

lisa   January 29th, 2009 9:41 pm ET

As a forner member of new life church I have to say that is is very difficult to see my beloved pastor expose things that we never dreamed he was participating in. We all must work threw what all this means.

Though he may no longer sit on the pedistal we once had him. I remember him to be a caring, loving man who made it a point to raise up a people who loved each other and met each others needs. I s till appreciate the many things he taught me.

Colorado Springs

Lumpy   January 29th, 2009 9:41 pm ET

doesn't anybody care about the drug use? He had to be using all along as no one in his right mind goes looking for meth their 1st time.

D.T.   January 29th, 2009 9:41 pm ET

Hi Larry,
Ted's story is more common then people think. One of my best friends had the same struggle. He was molested as a child and was confused about his sexuality. He died 4 years ago of AIDS. All I know for sure is that he was one of the best human beings I have ever known. And I learned that the question of one's sexuality is not as cut and dry as it seems. As his friend, all I ever wanted was for him to be happy and to resolve the issues he had with his family, specifically his Dad. I'm happy to say that those issues were resolved before he died.

The disappointment in Ted should be more about his hypocrisy and much less about his sexuality. He used drugs to the numb the pain of what he was going through. It's not an excuse, just the truth. I'm glad that he is working on his issues and he appears to be sincere. He's admitted everything and has shown much grace toward those who have hurt him. I wish him well on his journey to discovering more about the love and redemption of Christ.

Christopher Tryon   January 29th, 2009 9:41 pm ET

OK..Ted you say that you are a straight man that has homosexual thoughts? Hmm I think any man that is straight is just that straight. Be a Man Ted and stop lying to yourself...Come out..have peace with yourself.

Natalia Salcedo   January 29th, 2009 9:41 pm ET

Is his wife going to therapy too? He looks very awake and sincere but she still looks in denial.

Carole   January 29th, 2009 9:42 pm ET

Thanks for your program Larry, I'm watching now and reading the "crawlers". It's printed that Ted Haggard had a sexual encounter with an adult male when he was in the second grade. Please have discuss and explain this on-air. Can he confirm this experience? Is he using it as an excuse as to why he has homosexual tendencies now? Would he consider what happened to him molestation? Thanks so much!

Alisha   January 29th, 2009 9:42 pm ET

When do you think you stopped being convicted of your sins? I don't belive I man in prayer as you say would have been able to continue sin in such a way.......

Va Mom   January 29th, 2009 9:42 pm ET

It's hard enough being a Pastor's wife..I really feel sorry that Gail is experiencing this..

Flo Lapin   January 29th, 2009 9:42 pm ET

Kindly correct my mistakes, particularly pronouns. When I said 'you' it was meant to mean 'he'.

Neil   January 29th, 2009 9:42 pm ET

"I'm a MESS...I'm a DISASTER!"....At least one truth Ted is willing to accept....

Tom   January 29th, 2009 9:42 pm ET

I grew up in the small town in which you lived at the time you stated that you were abused by a male adult. That concerns me quite a lot because of the population of the community at the time. I would also like to know how your immediate family members are doing with all of this publicity since I went to school with your older brother. I respect not to mention his name, but I knew him very well.

Kelli from Tampa   January 29th, 2009 9:42 pm ET

Agree Val Mom

Tony kennesaw GA   January 29th, 2009 9:42 pm ET

Ted, I think your therapists are doing a great job!
Do you see yourself building another church (community) in the future after you put all this behind you perhaps become a better you after the therapy?

Marko   January 29th, 2009 9:42 pm ET


Please have ted respond to some of these questions:

1) In his view, was the money New Life Church paid Grant Haas “hush money”?
2) Were there any other young men that you were involved with in a similar way during your 20+ years at New Life Church.
3) Why did you help Christopher Beard cover-up an inappropriate sexual relationship with a student? Shouldn’t someone like this be terminated?
4) Did other pastors at the church speak and act in a godly manner in the months following November 2006?
5) How often would you preach, be on New Life’s time (and dime), while being high on crystal meth?
6) Did you ever buy gay pornography and place it inside a garbage can at a gas station next Grant apartment, telling him there was “a gift for you” inside the can?
7) Why did you allow students of the 24/7 internship skinny dip in your pool on a regular basis.
When you found out Christopher Beard struggled with homosexuality, what steps as a spiritual leader did you take to protect him and his students?
9)Describe what you meant when you told Grant you would travel and use the “Party Formula” and have a “Greek Holiday”?

Wendy   January 29th, 2009 9:43 pm ET

I would like to know if he turned to God in the beginning because of his sexual issues? Did he think serving God would save him from his sins?

CaseyJ - Palm Springs, CA   January 29th, 2009 9:43 pm ET

I can't believe how pathetic is it for someone to think they can't be "Christian" because they are gay. The 'human race is a mess' because of RELIGION, TED. You're a mess because of RELIGION, TED.

I don't need anybody's compassion because I'm gay. That posture still asserts that there is something wrong with me, which there isn't. As a gay man, I'm EXACTLY the person God intended for me to be, period. STOP insulting God M/M Haggard.

Michael   January 29th, 2009 9:43 pm ET

What advice do you have for other ministers who find themselves in an immoral relationship? Also, how should our churches help these men and women who hve fallen?

kvs   January 29th, 2009 9:43 pm ET

This list of responses from the righteious in American is sad. We all deserve to go down the tube.

rex harrington   January 29th, 2009 9:43 pm ET

Scriptures? Therapy? Come on , you dont need mercy and grace u need to come out be gay and accept how you were born, and save all those young people who condem themselves for their lives, these two are deluisional sitting there saying he is a loving straight man, he is gay, why don't we call Ellen and see how she feels?

Martin   January 29th, 2009 9:43 pm ET

I am appalled that Ted Haggard once again invokes God to try and save him...Ted, words of the Book According to Martin "own up to who you are" I am very proud to be a gay man.

Antonio Sylvester   January 29th, 2009 9:43 pm ET

Mr. Taggard is gay. He needs to be real with himself. It is not fair to him nor his family for him to continue this lie. He is gay. Why does he continue to suffer? Why are you, Mr. Taggard hating yourself? God wants him to be free. He is going to do this again and again. It will not stop. His wife is strong, but a fool at the same time. 70 times 7 she forgives, but god is ever forgiving. She is a great supporter, his friend, but not what he is looking for sexually. For a man to constantly search for male sexual partners shows that he is struggling with the shame society places on gay men.

All marriages have challenges, yet not like this. This is not a sin that one can correct. It is a lifestyle, fantasy, natural behavior of a homosexual man. The male lovers of Mr. Taggard, knows him in a way his wife will never know him.

God loves all men.

Tom Renolds   January 29th, 2009 9:43 pm ET

Ted's wife doesn't like their relationship to be labeled by others. Should homosexual be labeled as sinners and judged by others or can everyone stop the hatered?

Linds   January 29th, 2009 9:43 pm ET

He was in thePUBLIC EYE to many people and the PERFECT TARGET for the devil to USE Against GOD and HIS People. I FIRMLY Believe this to be true, and the ememy Knows how to keep People from believing in GOD and is TRUTHS. Ted and his family are PROVING to be FAITHFUL to the WORD OF GOD. The HOLY SPIRIT OF GOD has TRULY help Thid Family. WHAT THEdevilINTENED FOR EVIL, GOD SAID HE WOULD WORK FOR GOOD says The Holy Bible. and....WHO ART THOU OH MAN THAT JUDGEST ANOTHER. TO YOUR OWN GOD WILL YOU STAND OR FALL.

Wil   January 29th, 2009 9:43 pm ET

I worry that he views sexuality as an" addiction" of a character defect. Does he now think that there is a 12 step program that will lead to a cure?

JoshuaRising - FL   January 29th, 2009 9:44 pm ET

Frankly, I think Ted Haggard is full of what makes the grass grow and I don't mean sunlight and rain. First it's something that has recently happened, then he says he's been struggling with it for decades. I would bet these few are the only ones that came out with what happened and there's a lot more and there will be more in the future. This isn't something that can be turned off like a switch and it's not something there's a cure for. If your gay, bi whatever, your born this way.

Mr. Haggard, if you think in anyway, there's a cure for your sexual desires, whether gay, bi or whatever. For one, you're only fooling yourself. Two, people aren't stupid and three making yourself a hypocrite.

God created us and loves us all no matter .

Carol Ferguson   January 29th, 2009 9:44 pm ET

I have never heard of Ted Haggard before your program tonight and am wondering, why should I care about yet another 'Jesus Freak' who has finally come out of the closet? Surely I'm not the only one who feels this way! I normally enjoy the guests on your show but this is one that made me turn off the TV in order to read my latest murder mystery.

David   January 29th, 2009 9:44 pm ET

John 8:32 The Truth Shall Set You Free!
Haggard still has not admitted the truth. He is side-stepping questions and still avoiding the truth. He is dishonest not only to the audience watching tonight but to himself and more importantly to his family. He will continue to be "confused" as long as he refuses to admit the truth. I think he is writing a book and this is all just to make money from his lies.

darren   January 29th, 2009 9:44 pm ET


If these two young men had not come forward,would you have come forward and told the truth?

Jim   January 29th, 2009 9:44 pm ET

I'm sorry, I know I just submitted, but I want to vomit listening to these people lie to themselves and others. The most insulting part of this whole sideshow is the fact that this "couple" can go on national TV and sell this hogwash and think people are going to buy this. All in the name of God. As a gay man I can only feel pity for the wife, she has no choice but to believe her husband. Otherwise she would have to face her own agendas. Sick. Sick. Sick.

Gary   January 29th, 2009 9:44 pm ET

I'd like to hear him say, "there truly is no such thing as a secret."

There is no such thing as a secret among our leaders; communication is very open and honest, and if it's not, then it can become seemingly brutal. You've heard my arguments for love, friends, and authenticity, but there are the deceivers, the manipulators, the control freaks, and the self-appointed teachers in the Body who would love to use our system for their own selfish purposes. We all know the realities of the old sin nature.
Haggard, Ted (May 14, 2002). Dog Training, Fly Fishing, And Sharing Christ In The 21st Century: Empowering Your Church To Build Community Through Shared Interests, p. 154, Nelson Books. ISBN 0785265147.

Nancy Boaz   January 29th, 2009 9:44 pm ET

Since he can't get work, I guess this is another way for him to make money. How much is he getting paid for these interviews, the HBO Special, etc.?
He makes me ill.

Jan   January 29th, 2009 9:44 pm ET

Do you understand that you were busted for your Denver activities because Jones perceived you as a hypocrite? I'd like to hear you talk about hypocricy.

Richard   January 29th, 2009 9:45 pm ET

As person who has read the Scripture, are you concerned how Man has rewritten to include words such as homosexulity? When during the time the bible was written that those words were not used in common day use?

Mary   January 29th, 2009 9:45 pm ET

Tell Mr. Haggard that the same way you receive salvation is the same way you recieve healing from Sin. He has to go back to the "Cross of Christ"......

Jin Hann   January 29th, 2009 9:45 pm ET

As I watch this interview, I can't help but feel human empathy towards Ted. I am not a "Christian" nor a homosexual, but I believe that every one of us have demons that we have to deal with at one point or another. I would much rather attend a church with someone like Ted preaching who has actually had human conflict personally than someone who has never felt conflicted, pained and made mistakes.

Good luck to you, Ted. I understand you, as another human being.

Keith   January 29th, 2009 9:45 pm ET

I am so tired of this man using his homosexual tendencies and casting this as immorality or misguided heterosxuality. Sexuality is sexuality – what one does with it crosses the line of ethics and human decency. Homosexual or heterosexual – Mr. Haggard – you lack integrity and have proven that in front of the world and now continue to hide behind religion because you are not human enough to be called a MAN. Unfortunately your wife has been dragged down again with you as you conitnue to lie to yourself and the world.

Rick   January 29th, 2009 9:45 pm ET

Please ask Ted if it's possible for a gay who embraces their homosexuality like Mary Cheney to go to heaven.

CherryP   January 29th, 2009 9:46 pm ET

The real question is not about his sins, but why he has only come clean after being outed by a prostitute. If you are ok working on your sins shouldn't your congregation be made aware of it from you?

Ian Gill   January 29th, 2009 9:46 pm ET

If you are attracted to both a woman and a man, you are bisexual. Why do you not just admit this?

Gary   January 29th, 2009 9:46 pm ET

I want to hear him say, "there truly is no such thing as a secret."

I am a firm believer in living as if there were no such thing as a secret. If we hide our sins and live in darkness, we will never get the healing we so desperately need; in fact, if it is hidden so well that we don't even recognize it, we may never even find forgiveness.
Haggard, Ted (September 2002). Simple Prayers for a Powerful Life, p. 110, Regal Books. ISBN 0830730559.

John   January 29th, 2009 9:46 pm ET

Why do I keep hearing the Haggards talk about not judging people, but then judge all people as sinners? It seems that if the "sin" is commited by a "Christian" it's all right, but GOD damn the sinner that doesn't believe in the hyprocrisy olf the church.

Leith Noweder   January 29th, 2009 9:46 pm ET

I'd like to hear him explain how church-goers can ever trust their priests or ministers or pastors ever again when it's obvious that the job seems to attract wacked out hypocrites with bizarre sexual appetites. Do these people realize the damage they do to the church?

A Christian   January 29th, 2009 9:46 pm ET

Hey Ted,
Thank you for sharing what you have been through! I think every Christian has his/her own struggles – whether it be sexual, pride, or whatever – and it is definitely refreshing to hear you share about what you have been through. May God continue to guide you through this restoration process.

Roch   January 29th, 2009 9:46 pm ET

They are both naive or they think the rest of the population is. Expert manipulators have many ways, I understand he'll do anything to save his family reputation. It's too late.


Rick   January 29th, 2009 9:46 pm ET

Ted, did you get off meth cold turkey? How did you recover from the addiction?

Sheila Driscoll   January 29th, 2009 9:46 pm ET

I want to hear Haggard tell his opinion on christianity and homosexuality, and what his position on gay rights.

Brian   January 29th, 2009 9:46 pm ET

this guy does not realize the cost of continuing to perpetrate his fraud. he is giving false hope to families of gays that "change" is possible and the cost is immeasurable.

Meme   January 29th, 2009 9:46 pm ET

Larry, I was in a ministry at New Life and I was wondering if Ted and Gayle would ever come back to preach or visit New Life?

Aminah   January 29th, 2009 9:47 pm ET

I want him to admit that homosexuality is a sin since that is what the Bible teaches.

Sharon I. Sopher   January 29th, 2009 9:47 pm ET

I am Oscar nominated, Emmy winning filmmaker, 13 year veteran of NBC News & founder of the award-winning project HIV Goddesses (won Ida B. Wells Award for Bravey in Journalism).

Are either he or she aware that men having sex with men runs much higher risk of HIV infection? Has she been tested for HIV? Does he worry about infecting her? If not, why not? In other words, this is more than an issue of his sexuality or of falling short, it is also an issue of moral obligation to his wife's health.

Approximately 80% of all hiv positive women in U.S. were infected heterosexually and by husband or male partner woman thought they were in monogamous relationship with. In other words, these women were not prostitutes or drug addicts; they were wives, trusting wives, just like his. What about his "moral" obligation to her?

Willie Baker   January 29th, 2009 9:47 pm ET

Do you believe homosexuality is a learned or chosen lifestyle or can one be born wtih these tedencies?

brad   January 29th, 2009 9:47 pm ET

Ted, give an answer... the spin needs a stop button. Is a person living in a open and embraced homosexual life okay in God's eyes or not? You seem more like a politician than those who recently ran during the elections...

Gary   January 29th, 2009 9:47 pm ET

I want to hear him say, "there truly is no such thing as a secret."

I want a church I can stay in for years. I don't want surprises, scandals, or secrets from my church leaders.
Haggard, Ted (May 14, 2002). Dog Training, Fly Fishing, And Sharing Christ In The 21st Century: Empowering Your Church To Build Community Through Shared Interests, p. 9, Nelson Books. ISBN 0785265147.

Dr. Darrell   January 29th, 2009 9:47 pm ET

Rev. Ted,

How will you utilize your sexual past / present mishaps to help heal or minister to other preachers struggling with homosexuality in the gospel?

jason615   January 29th, 2009 9:47 pm ET

1) gays are not admonished by pastors but rather the Christian word according to my translation and understanding. so for a pastor to say it is acceptable would make them a hypocrite then NO ONE would listen to them, christian or not. BUT i do say that no one is perfect but this fact can't be brushed aside but we all have struggles in different shapes and forms. religion is a journey

2) gayle haggard blows me away. in a good way. very pretty too.

rob   January 29th, 2009 9:47 pm ET

apparently grant haas has more to say, but why is no one giving him voice?

Melody   January 29th, 2009 9:47 pm ET

I am a born again Christian whose mother is a lesbian. I love and honor my mother as scripture instructs however I understand that every word of the bible is without fault and this is not God's plan for us. I know that deliverance has helped many Christians who struggled with homosexuality and are now happy and free from this spirit. My question is for Ted Haggard. Have you considered treating your struggle with homosexuality as a spirit which can be cast out?

Kyle   January 29th, 2009 9:47 pm ET

I want him to say that a person should never be ashamed of who they are or who they are attracted to.

Kathy Layton Ut   January 29th, 2009 9:47 pm ET

I want to hear him say that it's his and his wife's business and that everyone should stay out of his personal life.

David Bouk   January 29th, 2009 9:47 pm ET

Does Ted consider eating lobster an abomination before the Lord?

Valerie Stevens   January 29th, 2009 9:47 pm ET

Mr. Haggard,

Rather than getting therapy from other "sinners," have you ever considered receiving inner healing and deliverance prayer from a prayer team that seeks and follows the guidance of the Holy Spirit?

This would truly reveal to you the source–and the solution–to your struggle.

God bless you,

Valerie Stevens

Nass Kanji   January 29th, 2009 9:47 pm ET

I want Ted to say "i will consider deliverance ministry for my healing!"
As demonstrated by Jesus in the gospels!

joseph   January 29th, 2009 9:47 pm ET

i feel that anyone can fall no matter what position you hold int eh church. the only perfect one (Jesus) is the only one who understands us and can forgive us. All he needs to do is do what he said stick to the bible and move on, using the spirit to guide him down the right track.

James   January 29th, 2009 9:47 pm ET

I think everyone needs to watch the movie titled "Prayers For Bobby". This movie will reveal there are different interpretations in the bible on whether it is wrong or right to be gay. Personally, I believe if you lie to yourself about being gay, then you are also lying to God. Being born gay is simply a test by God, to see if you are going to lie about being gay. Remember this life is simply a test and nothing else matters, but the truth.

Alberta   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

I'd like for Ted Haggard to speak on guilt and what a relief it is to rid oneself of it. I think this will be a major testimony for people who have a conscious and how healthy it is to come clean.

Travis   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

Haggard is using theological and "overly-spiritualized" language as a means for avoiding difficult questions about homosexuality. Answer directly, what should be the church's response to a homosexual?

Joey Faulk   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

I want to hear him give a direct answer to direct questions. Question "Do you think other Pastors should stop attacking homosexuality?" Answer: "I believe everyone is....bull bull bull." You need to go to man school.

Dennis Stewart   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

I'd like to hear Ted take a stronger stance that homosexuality is a SIN

Antonio Sylvester   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

Does the Reverend believe, deep in his inside that he is not a homosexual by definition?

Keith   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

I'm sorry. But you can't turn gay off like a light switch. He is setting a bad example for all Gay and Bi sexual men everywhere. No counseling can help you control a person's Gay tendencies". He and his wife has decided to live in this fantasy world and I guess that works for them. I thinks it's repulsive and living a lie.

Jamie Chillingworth   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

Hi Larry,

Always a great and controversial show!

I'm glad that Mr. Haggard was never critical of Heterosexuals, well not yet anyway!

p.s. don't forget that God loves everyone!

Gary   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

I want to hear him say, "there truly is no such thing as a secret."

Today's biggest headlines are stories about people who thought they were doing something that was secret: Jesse Jackson's secret girlfriend and child, Monica Lewinski's private meetings with the president and confidential girl talk with Linda Tripp. Just think of the news stories we've watched on television...
Haggard, Ted (March 2003). Letters from Home, p. 14, Regal Books. ISBN 0830730583.

Rene   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

does this make him and his religion hypocrites

Andrew from Michigan   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

I am a gay Christian man, and I would love to hear Pastor Haggard say that Jesus Himself did not talk about homosexuality in his teachings. We should all follow Christ's example and not judge other people. Everything in the Bible needs to be interpreted based on its historical context and cannot always be interpreted literally. I pray for Pastor Haggard's family and hope that gays and lesbians are not turned off from the Christian faith because of him.

Bob   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET


As a former evangelical pastor, I too wonder how many colleagues and parishioners struggled with the same thing but because the church condemned it, they were left with guilt and shame for who they are. This is why so many single men went into the priesthood: where else could a gay man go?

Karhma   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

I'm having trouble with this interview. You are, all three, discussing Ted's issues as if there is something "dark" and "wrong" with homosexuality. Ted's confusions and struggles are only because he is not fully admitting that he is gay, or bisexual, and that he has built his life around a belief system which tells him that that is a sin. It is not a sin. Organized religion is the problem, and Ted denying his own humanity, against a plastic cosmology is the real issue. There's nothing wrong with being homosexual or bisexual. There is something wrong with a belief system that says those are bad, evil, and sins. Please ask him about that.

Lance   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

I find it saddening that after bringing Te'd wife on and discussing his attraction to men...........Larry asked Gail if she had "dark" things in her if a man being attracted to another man is a "dark thing". Not the kind of comment or question I would expect out of Larry.

JCG   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

why doesn't he just admit he's gay? after watching him with his wife, it's obvious that there is no sexual attraction.

don   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

I want to hear Ted say that he is 'gay'. Ted is not 'Heterosexual with complications.' He is 'gay with complications.' Gay people have children; it's a simple process. As a gay man, I can 'guarantee' Ted, he may have his thoughts 'under control', but they will always be there.

that_guy   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

i'd like to hear ted say...I'M GAY ... and to stop fancy footin around the issue ... i've seen him on oprah and now larry king ... and if there ever was a gay man this man is it .

Meret   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

I would like Ted to tell me why he is dragging his wife and children all over the media with this sordid tale as if it were something to be proud of. He violated their trust and now in true enmeshed fashion they continue to support his dysfunction.

I will pray for all of them.

eldon bloedorn   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

Does T. Haggard really think he is a sinner? Let's be real. His creator
destroys everytning that He created. You me, your pets, my pets. Check out the mortality table. The eventual burning out of the sun. No. Ted is OK!

Regards, Eldon

Geoff   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

Since you have intimately experienced this conflict of homosexuality, do you regret the harm your anti gay preaching has done to young people?

Kevin   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

I want to hear about the day God saved him?

Rick   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

Ted, you said that Mike Jones saved your life by coming forward. Why not admit all your other homosexual partners and amplify this blessing?

Bob   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

Please have Ted counsel Rod Blagojevich.

KT   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

i don't believe any thing Mr. Haggard says not even for one second. Its unfortunate so much time is devoted to someone who pull the wool over so many people's lives for so long.

Debbi in Naples Fla   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

What does Ted do with the scripture that says homosexuals will NOT inherit the kingdom of God? I keep hearing him insinuate that it is acceptable in Gods eyes.

Douglas   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

There is nothing wrong with being gay. There is something wrong with lying to friends and family, abusing drugs, and entering into to acts of prostitution. I have implied being gay is a gateway drug to these things. That is misleading and insulting and I apologize to the L.G.B.T. Community.

Lola   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

we are all sinners, remember jesus ask someone without sin to cast the first stone.even jesus was once angry in the bible that he cursed a wat are we talking about. we neec to show compasion to one another when we are in trouble. Ted is deeply and truly sorry.

gemma   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

I'd like to hear Ted Haggad's say that is more of a sin to deny who you are, and that Christ will love you regardless.

Gary   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

I want to hear him say, "there truly is no such thing as a secret."

People know what's going on with other people. So, we are wise if we live our lives as if there are no secrets. If we have nothing to hide, then there's nothing for people to discover, and we're clean. Living as if there is no such thing as a secret will keep you from all kinds of pain and suffering, and it will open the door for you to receive God's love more fully. Live as if there is nothing to hide and you will maintain innocence.
Haggard, Ted (March 2003). Letters from Home, p. 18, Regal Books. ISBN 0830730583.

Lynn   January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET

How dare Ted Haggard say he's changed with this whole scandal. When you hear him putting a guilt trip on that young man on the phone, who had nothing to be guilty about, it makes my blood boil!!!! That young man isn't the one who made life difficult for Haggard's son, it's Haggard himself who created problems for his son, the young guy on the phone is innocent!!!

Merry Mount   January 29th, 2009 9:49 pm ET

I would like to know if Ted Haggard has had the opportunity to understand synaptic pathways that create this past remembered emotions that drive him.
Once he can see how much closer to God he has become, because he is overcoming his ego.
You see, Ted, you had a learned behavior that was enjoyable. It was not
the enjoyment that messed you up, but guilt of not knowing any better. It is an experience when you realize the true gift God has given you. Remember it is the little boy in you that wants to feel guilty. Because guilt drives you, THAT is what drives you.
Once you can be in a state of thankfulness for this opportunity to find your answers.
Forgiveness simply means taking back the power you have given someone else to harm you.
Good luck to you

DP Hernandez Houston, TX   January 29th, 2009 9:49 pm ET

Does Ted belive Jesus was gay?
In the Gospel of John, the disciple John frequently refers to himself in the third person as 'the disciple whom Jesus loved'." 4 For example, during the Last Supper before Jesus' execution, he describes how the "beloved" disciple laid himself on Jesus' inner tunic - his undergarment. See John 13:25 and 21:20. Robert Goss, assistant professor of comparative religion at Webster University in St. Louis, LA, noted that Jesus and the beloved disciple: "... eat together, side by side. What's being portrayed here is a pederastic relationship between an older man and a younger man. Very Gay to me.

Shawn   January 29th, 2009 9:49 pm ET

I want to hear him just admit he is a homosexual. He is hiding who he truly is and making it appear that it is a shameful thing. I don't know any man that has had these thoughts and is not a homosexual.

Sue   January 29th, 2009 9:49 pm ET

It seems to me we're talking about adultery, not homosexuality. Adultery is his sin.

Nichole Ruggiero   January 29th, 2009 9:49 pm ET

I am heterosexual. I am Christian. It is not my job to judge this man. Regardless of what the Bible teaches. We are all sinners. We have all fallen short of the glory of God. We are saved by Grace.

Why aren't we judging the alcoholics, pedophiles, gamblers, drug dealers, child abusers, etc?

Just because he is a pastor doesn't mean that he will not sin or make mistakes......

Gary Sliger   January 29th, 2009 9:49 pm ET

I would like to hear Ted Haggard talk about the real reason whey he's saying that he is not gay.

Barry Thorpe   January 29th, 2009 9:49 pm ET

If the scriptures are your guide, why would you need a therapist?

jorge   January 29th, 2009 9:49 pm ET

I want to tell Mr. Haggard that homosexuality was wrongly classified by the DMSIII as a normal human behaviour, in fact homosexuality is a chronic disease like diabetes, hypertension, cancer, depression and others

Rick   January 29th, 2009 9:49 pm ET

If one of your sons came out as gay, how would you counsel him to transform into heterosexual?

Yinka lawal   January 29th, 2009 9:49 pm ET


Pastor Ted, I know in my mind that your heavenly father as forgive through Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior. But we are in the world of Hypocrite, people are hypocrite and they like to judge without thinking that in life we fight against flesh, people think that is easy but they forget that when human being are called by GOD then there are evil force that will what to stop the called. Bible says that a righteous man fall 10 times. Because enemy got this man mind don't mean that GOD has left him.

We all remember king David and King Solomon in the bible, they also make mistake but God never leave them.

I wish people will chill out and face there own business with GOD instead of judging this Pastor. Yes I called him pastor.


mary   January 29th, 2009 9:49 pm ET

I am pround of the Hagger's though I ma not happy about what happend and ruining the image of Christ however you restored it by repenting.

Rod   January 29th, 2009 9:49 pm ET

I would like to hear Haggard accept that homosexuality is not a sin.

Christiaan Rendle   January 29th, 2009 9:49 pm ET

I would like to know if Mr. Haggard has seen Bill Maher's Religilous? And if so, what does he think of it? Does he ever wonder if Christianity really is just made up by man?

Maria, MA   January 29th, 2009 9:49 pm ET

Gloria Veltri nailed it!! Ted should stop sugar coating this issue; after watching several of this "sorry" shows, I still don't understand where he stands. As a former evangelical preacher and believer, he should come out and call it as it is; SIN-for the sake of others struggling with the same problem, so that they are not misled.

Gary   January 29th, 2009 9:49 pm ET

I want to hear him say, "there truly is no such thing as a secret."

So many times, I've seen men and women get into trouble when they travel away from home because they believe that no one will ever know what they do when away. This is a lie, and it will always come back to haunt you. In Genesis 38, the Bible tells the story of Judah, who went on a business trip. When he arrived at a distant town, he saw a prostitute and approached her to sleep with her. But he didn't have any money to pay her, so he had to give her some personal items as a down payment. Of course, everyone knew those items belonged to him, and soon what he had done in secret, far away from home, was a public matter. And, again, we're reading about his hypocrisy thousands of years later. His actions have brought shame to his entire famiy for many generations. It's just not worth it. I remember an old tent preacher saying, sin will take you further than you want to go; cost you more than you want to pay; and keep you longer than you want to stay.
Haggard, Ted (March 2003). Letters from Home, p. 20, Regal Books. ISBN 0830730583.

rex harrington   January 29th, 2009 9:49 pm ET

I wonder how anderson cooper feels about this being a closeted gay male himself

Linda   January 29th, 2009 9:49 pm ET

I will want to know from Ted what does the bible say about homosexuality and not what the therapist say.

Liz Sela   January 29th, 2009 9:49 pm ET

I'd like to hear Mr. Haggard talk about tolerance and understanding for those who choose to be gay. And that Christian tenets represent respect, compassion and acceptance for all humans—gay and straight. But I haven't heard that from him or his wife. It's the labels, like the words "sins" that don't convince me that he's had a real epiphany about humanity. Also, I'd like to know if he was ever arrested or charged with a crime for soliciting sex with a minor.

Maria Phipps   January 29th, 2009 9:50 pm ET

I want the rev to say he is bi-sexual then deal with it whether it is thru therapy and/or reading the scripture whatever it takes ...his wife was talking about not being labeled or labeling but once you face what your issue is or problem then only then can you get the proper help that is needed....God bless you both!

Carla Glover   January 29th, 2009 9:50 pm ET

Mrs. Haggard:

You are all of what I consider a Proverbs 31 woman. Your decision to stand by your husband is absolutely commendable. Your harvest is coming because you have not grown weary in well-doing. Believe without a shadow of doubt that the situation was exposed for a purpose so that God could get the glory out of it. I pray many others will come forth so real healing can begin to take place.

Eric   January 29th, 2009 9:50 pm ET

I am sad reading these entries, and to keep reading the tag line "Haggard admits Sexual Immorality". For all of you on here that keep posting blogs casting judgements about being gay, just remember; there is only one that will make the final call. Each of us should work at living his/her best life here on earth so that we may be rewarded in the future. Don't presume to know God's "master" plan. I was raised in the "Christian" church and wouldn't take those times back for any amount of money. I do know that my being gay is no sin, and that God loves me and created me in his image. I do not need a televangilist or someone on the Larry King blog to reassure me of this.

Joe Thrower   January 29th, 2009 9:50 pm ET

I'd like to hear Pastor Haggard expond on whether he still believes that Homosexuality is a SIN. If he does, I'd like to hear him publicly denounce it and quote scriptures supporting it.

denise gibbs   January 29th, 2009 9:50 pm ET

I would like to know if Pastor Haggard believe in repentance and deliverance? And there is not the answer, he needs to be delivered by God.

Angela   January 29th, 2009 9:50 pm ET

Mr. Haggard is still gay. He can call it whatever he wants but he is a gay man. He will be back to his men as soon as he sees a way. He has been gay for a long time. The minute I heard his story and I saw his face and the way he spoke I knew he was gay.

Charles green   January 29th, 2009 9:50 pm ET

Ted's problem is that he thinks his problems stems from his attraction to males. That is not his problem; that is who he is! His problem is that he cheated on his wife! It does not matter if it was with a man or a woman.

Michael   January 29th, 2009 9:50 pm ET

What advice do you give to other pastors caught up in immoral behaviour?

Sean Perkinson   January 29th, 2009 9:50 pm ET

It doesn't matter about the past. What matters is that you move foward. Consequences are always difficult to deal with when mistakes are made. What matters most is whats ahead.

Debbie Wilson   January 29th, 2009 9:50 pm ET

I am very impressed with Pastor Ted and his wife. I appreciate the way he is handling the questions regarding homosexuality by telling viewers to seek answers in the Scripture and with the guidance of the Holy Spirit. I know we all struggle and fall short. God Bless You and your family. If you pastored a church again I would love to attend. Stay Strong.

Larry Duwyn   January 29th, 2009 9:50 pm ET

Ted needs to face the fact that he is gay. He is supressing his true feelings because of his religion because of his family because of a job. It is time for everyone to realize no one chooses to be gay. A gay person can only decide how he wants to live his gay life.

Pat   January 29th, 2009 9:50 pm ET

Our world is so complex today how can anyone really understand all the issues. I say live and let live and All the Best to each one of us.

Rev. Carl W. Davis   January 29th, 2009 9:50 pm ET

As a gay pastor myself, I would like Rev. Haggard to respond to the reality that many denominations celebrate gay clergy. The United Church of Christ has been ordaining gay clergy since the early 1970s. The Episcopal Church has a wonderful openly gay Bishop in the form of Gene Robinson. What stops Rev. Haggard from understanding the BIble in the same way as these great Christians who celebrate the equality and inclusion of all people.

Gary   January 29th, 2009 9:50 pm ET

I want to hear him say, "there truly is no such thing as a secret."

There is no such thing as a secret among our leaders; communication is very open and honest, and if it's not, then it can become seemingly brutal. You've heard my arguments for love, friends, and authenticity, but there are the deceivers, the manipulators, the control freaks, and the self-appointed teachers in the Body who would love to use our system for their own selfish purposes. We all know the realities of the old sin nature.
Haggard, Ted (May 14, 2002). Dog Training, Fly Fishing, And Sharing Christ In The 21st Century: Empowering Your Church To Build Community Through Shared Interests, p. 154, Nelson Books. ISBN 0785265147.

Gabby   January 29th, 2009 9:50 pm ET

I would really like him to answer questions on whether he thinks it s possible to be gay and a christian. He hasn't answered it, but evaded it. He has only responded by saying "read your bible". That answer is not answering the question. If he doesn't believe so, or he's struggling with that, he should say so. Its okay if he is. I would just like to hear him completely answer that question. With that said, I hope he figures out his struggle, but I do think that it is his denial of his sexuality and the pressures from the church that exacerbate secrecy, denial, and self hatred.

Rick   January 29th, 2009 9:50 pm ET

Do you believe you are a better parent than a gay man? And do you believe your marriage reflects the sanctity of marriage more than a gay couple?

Amoyedo Sunday   January 29th, 2009 9:50 pm ET

I think the pastor has said every thing that a repentant believer needs to say. We are all flesh and blood and we all do wrong. Some of us do things that are worse than what he has done. God is merciful and He has given him. We need to move on from there believing that his repentance is genuine.
If we all would emulate him and genuinely repent the society will be a better place.
God bless you Pastor and your entire family for this great courage that you have demonstrated.
Your wife is blessed.

lud   January 29th, 2009 9:50 pm ET

I would like to see Ted use this experience to speak to other pastors and ministers that are struggling with their own "hidden" sins; infidelity, pornography, homosexuality, etc. It's a reality and with your experience I believe God can use you to bring healing to the body of Christ all over the world. God bless you

ken   January 29th, 2009 9:50 pm ET

Ted can call himself however he wishes....however the ultimate tragedy is that he is DEEPLY in denial, as is his wife. He may love and desire his wife but his desire for men IS within him. It always has been, it always WILL be. You cannot extinguish something that is within you...that is the VERY CORE of you. His desire for men will always be there, until the day he dies. It is not a drug or alcohol addiction you can just "kick". This is innate. When his hunger becomes too great for what he is naturally denying himself, he WILL inevitably stray again or do even more severe damage to himself denying his inner needs. Just give him time...his hunger will surface and then consume him AND his family. This denial does not bode well and will boomerang on them all. This, by the way, was written by a gay man who is extrenely happy being a gay man. 🙂

Thom Baker   January 29th, 2009 9:50 pm ET

Mr. Haggard says that I have "fallen short". Fallen short of what???
I am a proud, gay man who was born this way and will die this way... and in no way have "fallen short".

Dennis   January 29th, 2009 9:50 pm ET

The man said he was sorry. Yes, he made a serious error in judgement. Bur haven't we all. I think the Bible teaches us that whomever is without sin to cast the first stone. We all live in glass houses. Throwing stones is not such a good idea.

lee   January 29th, 2009 9:50 pm ET

I would like to know if Ted feels that his childhood past has anything to do with what he did or the feelings he had.

David   January 29th, 2009 9:50 pm ET

There you go folks! He still thinks homosexuality is a sin. His problem lies in that he still takes the Bible literally. As long as does that, he will live the rest of his life in hell on earth. It is only when he realizes that a man's love for another man is just as natural and God-given as a man's love for a woman, that he will truly be free to follow his true heart.

Barry Margolis   January 29th, 2009 9:50 pm ET

I'm tried of hearing that one Evangelical Preacher after another has been found guility of the very things that they preach is mean and evil.

I have no pity for Mr. Haggard. As a Gay Jewish non-religious man, I find that the climate of that kind of religious extremism is a perfect place for this kind of thing to happen.

Mr. Haggard behavior only shows that this kind of Evangelical life is phony and not true to one's own natural feelings.

Willie J. Baker   January 29th, 2009 9:50 pm ET

Is homosexuality a chosen/learned life style or is one born with these

Kris   January 29th, 2009 9:50 pm ET

Isn't the title of the HBO documentary, "The Trials of Ted Haggard"

You have it spelled as TRAILS instead of trials...
Please make the correction. It looks stupid.

MS   January 29th, 2009 9:51 pm ET

Larry I am deeply concerned about the message that is being sent by this man. It seems that he is saying that homosexuality is wrong and that it is a sin and one can work through their "issues" which I am taking to mean homosexuality. How can a man that engages in homosexual sexual activity and admits to homosexual thoughts not accept homosexuality. He is an absolute hypocrit and I am thoroughly disappointed that he is getting all of this media attention which I am sure is helping to support him financially and underhandedly preaching on the "sin" of homosexuality. He has never once said that homosexuality is okay. He constantly talks around the issues. He is a joke and it is personally quite upsetting that HBO is supporting this insanity.

Rene   January 29th, 2009 9:51 pm ET

What would he tell the parents of gay men that made their sons feel horrible and even drove some to kill themselves

Lori   January 29th, 2009 9:51 pm ET

I think if this man's family love him and forgive him, who are any of us to cast judgement. I don't attend church but I feel for anyone who must confront their inner demons in such a public manner. Best wishes to him and his family!

Gary   January 29th, 2009 9:51 pm ET

I want to hear him say, "there truly is no such thing as a secret."

I am convinced: people with pure hearts live better lives! Actually, one of the things I look for in a staff member is innocence. I love it when a person is not full of malice or unforgiveness or is not wrestling with secret sin. You can just tell by their countenance-they are wonderful people to be around.
Haggard, Ted (September 2002). Simple Prayers for a Powerful Life, p. 109, Regal Books. ISBN 0830730559.

Antonio Sylvester   January 29th, 2009 9:51 pm ET

Pastor Taggard, do you believe deep inside that you are not a homosexual by definition?

Carole in Ottawa   January 29th, 2009 9:51 pm ET

Dear Mr. King;
watching Ted Haggard on your show tonight was dissapointing, I don't think the world is a mess, preacher like mr haggard are making the mess, collecting money, who pays for his therapy, who supports him, apart from his wife. I deeply believe in God, always have always will, I have read the bible, and it is men like mr haggard who put their interpretations forward, making life difficult for people with true compassion and humility. I haven't seen that in the man haggard, shameful, shameful.

Debbie from NY   January 29th, 2009 9:51 pm ET

I would like to know if he's only going to admit to anything because he's been exposed? He was exposed by Grant and Mike(?).....but he won't discuss other affairs. He said he's on tv with his story because he's 'processing'.............but how's he going to process the other stuff that he won't admit to publicly, until he's exposed?

darren   January 29th, 2009 9:51 pm ET

I just don't feel the senserity in his plee for forgiveness, It sounds more like embarrasement from being outed.

Gayle must be a God sent woman my prayers are with her.

Pastor Carl Fischer   January 29th, 2009 9:51 pm ET

I respect Ted Haggard's honesty and his admission that he is a sinful human being like the rest of us. "all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.' I hope and pray that his journey of self-awareness will empower other evangelicals to be less judgmental, less critical, and less un-forgiving of those who are not in the evangelical religious tradition. Thank you Ted, for your willingness to be such a public persona.

Sue   January 29th, 2009 9:51 pm ET

If you prayed and read scriptures, why did God not heal you from what was happening instead of allowing it to happen and hurt so many?
I want to know if you believe gay people are that way by choice or born that way? thank you

ps: You and your family are in my prayers as are the others who have been hurt by all of this

Denise Cook   January 29th, 2009 9:51 pm ET

I want to say I think the interview has been respectful on both sides. I am impressed with how Ted and his wife have handled the publicity and controversy facing their family. My prayers are with this family.

Sandra Hernandez   January 29th, 2009 9:51 pm ET

Ted, have you ever heard of Borderline Personality Disorder?

Shelley   January 29th, 2009 9:51 pm ET

I'd like to know how he and his wife are going to help his son who was recently kicked out of a Christian school for doing drugs, and who apparently told his (the son) friends he hates his father?????

Wayne Nall   January 29th, 2009 9:52 pm ET

Did you pay the prostitute any money?

TD   January 29th, 2009 9:52 pm ET

Love the sinner hate the sin. We have to go by the Bible-if we are true Christians.

Christopher   January 29th, 2009 9:52 pm ET

Why can't he accept who he is.....and how he feels?? You are who you are! And you left your marriage because you were not satisfied sexually!

stevie landon   January 29th, 2009 9:52 pm ET

You've got to be kidding! This is why religion is a sham. Listen to how crafty he and his wife "explain" away everything. She dotes on him because she's so "needy"...and he sits there with his pasty hair and "nods" with approval as she gives him cudos. WOW!!! Ain't religion great!

Frank   January 29th, 2009 9:52 pm ET

are you kidding me? why is this guy on cnn? he is a hypocritic, drug using homesexual minister, and you want the world to think its ok?

Sarah   January 29th, 2009 9:52 pm ET

He is a human being. I don't think he owes anybody an explanation except his wife. Nobody is perfect in this world and it's just dissapointing that people believe that it's their business to judge him.

Jen   January 29th, 2009 9:52 pm ET

I met with Ted Haggard 2 years ago to discuss accusations in the church and the 24-7 ministry of OTHER sexual imorality what does Ted have to say about that and is he the only one in the church hiding this secret?

Alexia   January 29th, 2009 9:52 pm ET

I'd like to know if Ted's wife would be standin' by her man if Ted had been cheating on her with other women instead of's a whole other ballgame...your thoughts?

Jason Ellsworth   January 29th, 2009 9:52 pm ET

Why do people think that Sexual Compulsion is more important than marital fidelity? I'd like to hear Ted say that he values his committment to his wife more than lustful compulsions, male or female. I wish everyone else would stop worrying, "Are you 'homosexual' or 'heterosexual?'" I'd like them to value what he definitely is... married.

Kimberly   January 29th, 2009 9:52 pm ET

He should just admit he is bisexual. I believe he will have more homosexual affairs I don't believe that just goes away. He is in denial, maybe because he thinks its the right thing to do to keep his family.

Michael Driver   January 29th, 2009 9:52 pm ET

Ted, How can churches redeem the fallen Pastors that find themselves in situations similar to yours?

susie   January 29th, 2009 9:52 pm ET

I want to hear the pastor that I love be gut-level honest, and not hide behind legal rhetoric, and come out and admit there were others, if there were....right now...we as a body of believers can't keep going through this once a month, or once a year.
If you, Ted are truly repentent for what Mike Jones went througn, then you would be honest with his question.

Shaun Antle   January 29th, 2009 9:52 pm ET

I just want to say that I praise Pastor Ted, his wife and his family for their courage. Those of you out there who are ready to point a finger... the Bible says, "you without sin... cast the first stone..." a story of when leaders were going to stone a prostitute. Who of us alive have done something wrong? How can we be quick to judge another JUST because he is a preacher. How many political scandals, church scandals, human scandals are out therE? ALL of us have fault. who are we to say which is worse. I commend Pastor Ted and pray God's best on him. Sure he was "caught" but how many out there struggle with these issues and are quick to point instead of admit their own struggles with any issue including sexual.

My question is, Pastor Ted, what is you advice for other pastors and leaders who struggle with the very same things you have and are struggling with.

catherine   January 29th, 2009 9:52 pm ET

Ted Haggard is wrestling against spiritual wickedness, evil spirits of lust, that is the simple diagnosis to his problem, read ephesians 6:12. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. acknowledge that it is the work of the devil and rebuke. for peter walked with jesus but until he received the holy spirit he would remain an unchanged man.

Sharon   January 29th, 2009 9:52 pm ET

Ted Haggard is stil selfrightous, to sit in front of of Larry King with the implication that being homesexual is "falling short" after going through all that he went through he is still condesending and disrespectful toward homosexuals amazing.

Chad McCoury   January 29th, 2009 9:52 pm ET

I accept whatever path Ted wants to travel, but I find it inexcuseable to allow him to validate his (as he defines it) "immorality" by saying that homosexuality is a sin.

Eric   January 29th, 2009 9:52 pm ET

Amen David. Thank you!!

Eva Willingham   January 29th, 2009 9:52 pm ET

My son is gay. I love him more than life itself. I am a born again çhristian who believes the Bible to be the Word of God. God loves homosexuals. He says in his word that homosexual behavior is an abomination. It is the act, not the person. It is impossible to justify the act of homosexuality with a walk with Jesus Christ. I also believe we have a God who can deliver anyone from the behavior.

Steven in Missouri   January 29th, 2009 9:53 pm ET

I think most people at some point, have struggled with their sexuality, drugs, or both. He's human. Unlike most of us, who are blessed to struggle in the dark, he has to face it in the eyes of the world. Yet Ted has met this head on and he still holds a beautiful conception of Christ. He is still a good example, maybe not to the average evangelist, but maybe the average American.

Stanley   January 29th, 2009 9:53 pm ET

Let him who is without sin cast the first stone. You are still greatly loved here in Colorado Springs Ted!

Rick   January 29th, 2009 9:53 pm ET

Ted, do you think it is possible for Mary Cheney and her wife to raise their son to be as wholesome as your children?

Jay   January 29th, 2009 9:53 pm ET

I think pastor Haggard has found a way to profit from the sins of his past.

Edy   January 29th, 2009 9:53 pm ET

How old was Grant when this incident with Haggard happened? If he was under 18, Haggard should be prosecuted. I have no problems with someone being gay, but sexual abuse of a child is a whole different ballgame!!

Hailee Koehler   January 29th, 2009 9:53 pm ET

I want to hear Ted Haggard stop beating around the bush with this interview and REALLY tell us what he is, not just that he is "confused" and "a wreck"...It could open the eyes of thousands of people and change the world as we know it right now. Ted, you could save more people than you ever have before.

Grant Haas   January 29th, 2009 9:53 pm ET

There is more to why New Life Church paid me than Ted Haggard... Thats why I'm asking those questions.

Rene   January 29th, 2009 9:54 pm ET

anderson cooper ain't a homosexual is he?

Jennifer   January 29th, 2009 9:54 pm ET

Admit he's GAY. Gayle is a beautiful women and I believe a very strong Christian. I pray for her and her children.

john canada   January 29th, 2009 9:54 pm ET

Ted had a drug problem he couldn't find any for an hour

Shane   January 29th, 2009 9:54 pm ET

He makes Christianity look like a joke.

Pastor Richard   January 29th, 2009 9:54 pm ET

Pastor Ted know that there are many people praying for your restoration I still see you as a great man of God and I have no dobut that a new season has arrived in your life.

The Apostel Paul said it best in Romans 7:15-24

15 I don't understand what I do. I don't do what I want to do. Instead, I do what I hate to do.

16 I do what I don't want to do. So I agree that the law is good.

17 As it is, I am no longer the one who does these things. It is sin living in me that does them.

18 I know there is nothing good in my sinful nature. I want to do what is good, but I can't.

19 I don't do the good things I want to do. I keep on doing the evil things I don't want to do.

20 I do what I don't want to do. But I am not really the one who is doing it. It is sin living in me.

21 Here is the law I find working in me. When I want to do good, evil is right there with me.

22 Deep inside me I find joy in God's law.

23 But I see another law working in the parts of my body. It fights against the law of my mind. It makes me a prisoner of the law of sin. That law controls the parts of my body.

24 What a terrible failure I am! Who will save me from this sin that brings death to my body?

25 I give thanks to God. He will do it through Jesus Christ our Lord.

I extend an invitation to you to come and speak at our church in New York City people desperatly need to hear about God's restoring love affair with humanity.

Blessings to you and yours

The best is yet to come

Your brother and friend in the faith

Rev. Richard Ramirez

Rick   January 29th, 2009 9:54 pm ET

Ted, do you think a homosexual could be a good pastor?

Synoia   January 29th, 2009 9:54 pm ET

Homosexuality, just like adultery or fornication or stealing or murder, is sin and the wages of sin is death.

Twan M Doan   January 29th, 2009 9:54 pm ET

Mr Haggard,

Like most Americans, I wish you the best. Go home, get your life together and learn who you are before you spend an hour trying to get your family to prove who you are.

In my opinion:

You are who we thought you were.......A MESS. You just said it. We didn't

Joe   January 29th, 2009 9:54 pm ET

I would like him to recognize that homosexuality is nothing more than normal, all earth species have some percentages of gay members, humans are not an exception. Its time for reason and genetics to sound off the injustice that ignorance and religious misconceptions perpetuated upon a percentage of humans throughout history ...

Robert   January 29th, 2009 9:54 pm ET

Am I the only person watching who can clearly see that Ted is 100% gay? If straight people aren't sure about these things, gays have gaydar. The man's gay. Love you father Marcus for who he is.

Rita   January 29th, 2009 9:54 pm ET

I commend Pastor Haggard for his bravery and humbleness in coming forth with this situation. Not many people would have the courage to do what he did! may God continue to raise him up and enlighten him with God's grace and mercy to fulfill God's perfect will in his life!
God bless you!

Paul Nardone   January 29th, 2009 9:54 pm ET

I believe Mr. Haggard is sorry.... Sorry that he got caught in a mess of lies!

rex harrington   January 29th, 2009 9:54 pm ET

Bob I agree but then you lead the argument about the gay church and peophilia, we know pedophilia and gay are two different subjects and most pedophiles are straight men.

john aguon   January 29th, 2009 9:54 pm ET

Religious leaders set the tone and moral fabric of their flock. It is against this background that they are increasingly accountable to their flock for their actions and ultimately to God.

As it is with the human condition, they should recognize their weaknesses and appeal to the higher Good for guidance and continue to strive for their good as set by the gospel of Christ.

Psychological factors play a large role and many should seek professional help when needed.

heather   January 29th, 2009 9:54 pm ET

You know how come it isnt ok to say that we continue to want to have sex with the same sex. I am a christian meaning i believe in Christ, but I could have sex with men or women, i indulge in alcohol, and food, i am divorced, how about God gets it? we arent perfect so what? we are sexual, hungry, lusty, confused. Why do Christians feel the need to make it all religious? Welcome to the real world.

Sean Perkinson   January 29th, 2009 9:55 pm ET

Dealing with the consequences of the past are hard, especially when you fall from a high point. What matters now is what you do from here on out. It takes time, but to follow the holy spirit and through time, you will be able to touch lives again. Iys all about grace.

Rev. Avon Bellamy   January 29th, 2009 9:55 pm ET

How many friends from ministry stuck by you during this ordeal?

Athena   January 29th, 2009 9:55 pm ET

Ted Haggard, I want you to tell America what you would do if a man you were led to trust sexually assaulted, mollested, or abused your son or daughter. Would you forgive him like you are asking America to forgive you?

Carla Perez   January 29th, 2009 9:55 pm ET

I am a fellow Christian and like you Ted, have realized as the scriptures say....Blessed are the merciful for they shall receive mercy.
The sexual urges for the same sex are called temptations just like someone would have the urge to do drugs, rob a bank. lie, murder, etc...we learn on our journey's to not give into every thought that crosses our mind. I think the key to Teds is that he was molested in the 2nd grade and it was not dealt with properly.

Carole   January 29th, 2009 9:55 pm ET

I can't believe that he is going to get away with all the interviews he's been doing without any of you asking him about his homosexual experience while in the second grade!

Melvin E. Brown   January 29th, 2009 9:55 pm ET

Larry: I am a Pastor. I would like to hear Pastor Ted Haggard express his personal relatonship with the Lord and commitment to the Holy Spirit. We cannot continue in sin "by thought or deed". Sin must come to an end to save our souls. I believe Spiritual Leaders must possess the ability to speak and live out their conviction. That means to be accountable at home and in the pulpit. Our parishoners need mature, responsible Pastors that will sincerely live in integrity and lead others to Jesus Christ.

ME Brown
Aurora, Colorado

Kevin Smith   January 29th, 2009 9:55 pm ET

The last comment by Mr. Haggard specks to my comment. Simply put ,there is no sin greater than another except blasphemy against God, Thus, homosexuality is a sin unliike any other. The bible is filled with many verses that deal with illicit sex that destroys families But the lesson it trys to teach is to forgive and learn to LOVE when presented with this devastating problem. Mrs. Haggard is to be commended for setting an excellent example to demonstrate this ideal.

David   January 29th, 2009 9:55 pm ET

I want to hear Ted say "Thank you." I am not a Christian–never have been and never will be, but that is not necessary to being able to understand that this is an incredibly strong and tested person who has survived. That he is able to tell his story to the world tells me that he is a person of intellect, strength and self-understanding. He deserves to be left alone to live his life the way he lives it, not the way we want him to behave.

Amy   January 29th, 2009 9:55 pm ET

I'm interested to know when Ted will be starting up a new church. Ted has done so many wonderful things regardless of the mistakes he has made as a human being. God Bless you and your entire family Ted!

cindy autry /reidsville, ga   January 29th, 2009 9:55 pm ET

I watched the HBO special tonight, and was sadden in my heart. Because of the sin and the hungry frenzy of the public to expose the sins of others. The word of God tells us that it is a sin to even speak of those things done in secret. I do believe his church was right in removing him according to 1 chornithians 5. A little leaven , leaveneth the whole lump, yet we are to restore those who have fallen. I am so proud of his family they have shown what it is like to be a true christian the this day and time. Love covers a multitude of sins! Are they still in need of finances as they stated in the HBO special? May God be with them....

Jeff Metzelaar   January 29th, 2009 9:55 pm ET

Religion is a big controversy.
Millions of people in the world doubt about it and therefore do not make the step to be a Christian.
What Ted did of course help these people to continue being an atheist.
How does he feel about this, by being "another" pastor who lives a hypocrite life like so many other pastors? For many people he is seen as a living prove that Church is just business that hides behind religion.

Felix   January 29th, 2009 9:55 pm ET

I thank God for His forgiving power and i also thank God that His gift is with no repentance. Pastor Ted get ready for a blast in your ministry from tonight. This is the essence of true christianity and the power of Jesus Christ. God bless you!

Antonio Sylvester   January 29th, 2009 9:55 pm ET

I want to hear you say that you are unselfish, not thoughtless, and that you are not a manipulator. How can you say that you are the victim.

Meret   January 29th, 2009 9:55 pm ET

The latter being said, I want Ted to find peace with himself and renew his relationship woth God. The Father loves Truth. Ted, find your truth.

Rick   January 29th, 2009 9:55 pm ET

Are you a fan of Clay Aiken's music?

Paul Nardone   January 29th, 2009 9:55 pm ET

I believe Mr. Haggard is sorry... Sorry that he got caught in a mess of lies!

Dennis Stewart   January 29th, 2009 9:55 pm ET

Folks, you need to read the bible. God's Word is EXTREMELY clear that homosexualiy is a sin. not something you're born as. it's a product of a dark heart and a sin nature.

Raquel   January 29th, 2009 9:55 pm ET

I would like to hear him give advice to Christians and people studying to be in the ministry about how to handle sexual struggles. What advice can he give?

Dee   January 29th, 2009 9:55 pm ET

Is homosexuality a sin?

Marilyn   January 29th, 2009 9:55 pm ET

I want to hear him say "I am a gay American" If I was his wife I would try to find out if he contacted Jim McGreevy

s. jenika   January 29th, 2009 9:55 pm ET



Alberto Orozco   January 29th, 2009 9:56 pm ET

Mr. Haggard what fruits of repentance have you showned during this past 2 years?

Would you put yourself as a Pastor again?

Alberto Orozco
Austin, TX

Bob   January 29th, 2009 9:56 pm ET

No amount of Bible reading, therapy, or condemnation of homosexuals from the pulpit will ease your pain. No god will absolve you. Forgive yourself and get on with it.

Diane   January 29th, 2009 9:56 pm ET

Does he feel that due to where he's been, he is no longer "Pastoral Material"? Can he admit that he does not live up to the qualifications listed in 1Timothy chapters 3-6 to pastor a church?

Sandra Hernandez   January 29th, 2009 9:56 pm ET

I want to hear Ted say, he is gay, but he doesn't want to be so he will keep pretending he is not. And that he's not sorry for all that he has done, because he really wanted to do what he has done.

Good luck Ted.

Cliff   January 29th, 2009 9:56 pm ET

I'd like to know if Ted believes it is possible for a person to live a gay life – not lifestyle – and live as a Christian?

F. Olliver   January 29th, 2009 9:56 pm ET

Mr. Haggard wants us and his former church community to believe that homosexuality is a choice. Yet, he admits to having having homosexual fantasies as a teenager, presumably during or after puberty. I believe he is a poster child for the fact that being gay may not be a choice. Acting on the urges is what some can control. If we believe him, trying to deny that he is heterosexual and not acting on his urges over the course of decades is what led to dangerous behavior such as seeking male prostitutes and taking illicit drugs and doing who knows what else that has yet to be leaked. I think he needs a boat load more of therapy to deal with living a life of lie after lie.

Rick   January 29th, 2009 9:56 pm ET

Ted, did you check your victim's ID to confirm their age before you engaged in sex?

Grant Haas   January 29th, 2009 9:56 pm ET

I guess CNN doesn't give a crap about the victims questions.

Roy White   January 29th, 2009 9:56 pm ET

I understand that Mr. Haggard needs to deal with his sexual feelings and sense of his own sexuality. I think he needs to do that with therapy not live television.

dan   January 29th, 2009 9:56 pm ET

that his "being a mess" has nothing to do with being gay but his resistance to it leading him to be deceitftul to his family.

Tricia   January 29th, 2009 9:56 pm ET

Your a man of God. That lived your life that way,with a church that you helped create. And raise your family.
I so understand your challenge of being human, like the rest of us?
Any failure you think was yours alone? Was not! It was ours together!

Kay   January 29th, 2009 9:56 pm ET

I hope his counseling deals with his fundamentalism too. Maybe then he can come to terms about who he really is.

heather   January 29th, 2009 9:57 pm ET

can i make money on this?

jeanne hollon   January 29th, 2009 9:57 pm ET

The Bible says we have all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. It's simple (I have to live by the Word as do you, I've been alone 35 years), if it's wrong, don't do it! That's not to hurt us, it's for our best.
We don't break God's laws, we break OURSELVES on His laws.

Pam in Georgia   January 29th, 2009 9:57 pm ET

If Ted were a plummer, engineer, salesman or anything but a minister....would we really be having this conversation? Many men have come to realize their homosexuality later in their lives after being married and raising families. Ted is no different. His sexual preferences, while falsely masked for all these years are not wrong...they are just not in keeping with his chosen job description of being a minister!!

Why are we always shocked that priests and ministers (they are afterall only men and not gods!) can be gay? If our "God is Love" teachings are correct....then we should not judge these men as they try to face the truths of who they really are!!!

Kelli from Tampa   January 29th, 2009 9:57 pm ET

In Jacksvonville FL. while working with homeless clients who are dually diganosed (substance abuse/mental illness) we found that 100% of the women and 70 % of the men were abused (this includes sexual abuse) as children. MANY of this occured in "Christian" homes. The problem is so bad, the Mayor of Jacksonville held a conference called "Not In My Congregation" and sent every church in Jacksonville (750 churches!) and not even one pastor showed up. You all can try to hide it all you want, but people in the medical profession know the truth.

ij   January 29th, 2009 9:57 pm ET

did you ever think of contracting STD like HIV and transmitting it to your wife

Carmen   January 29th, 2009 9:57 pm ET

Ted, thank you for your words on the HBO documentary and Larry King Show. I am Christian, divorced, 50 years old and have the same struggles you are experiencing except I am female. Yes, I am very involved with a very loving church. No, I have not had a full experience with a female but the internal struggle is very, very draining. I pray one day God send me a spouse that can understand me as Gayle understands you. The hardest part is the secret. Not a subject I can openly share at church. Please keep on speaking about your experience; I know it is healing others who feel very, very alone. Once again, thank you and God bless always.

Dolapo   January 29th, 2009 9:57 pm ET

Mrs Haggard is a wonderful woman, exemplifies real love and christian virtues. You are the apple of God's eye, for standing by your husband thourgh this challenge by the devil, and keeping your family bond together.

Joanne   January 29th, 2009 9:57 pm ET

I would like to know how Ted Haggard feels his life would have been different if he had been counseled as an adolscent that his homosexual feelings were not wrong or abnormal. How would his life had gone if he felt he could figure out his own sexuality without struggling against it, thinking it was unthinkable.

Diane   January 29th, 2009 9:57 pm ET

Is it not true that many -maybe most- adults with sexual issues were victims of some type of sexual assalt or abuse as a young person. The introduction to sexual activity not being normal or as it was designed to be by the God of the universe... thus we present to adult sexual activity with a handicap often even bigger than we realize. Such as the young man who says you masturbated in front of him... the bigger issue is for that young man to go to counseling to learn where he truly fits into God's purpose and design and not to be caught up in the snares of shameful sex, lies and condemdation. There is no reason for condemnation when we have Christ. But, we must see that a sexual sin is no greater than any other sin God's eyes. Man is so much more critical... simply because they are a sinful man. I would like to hear Ted Haggard talk more about the experience(s) he had as a developing young boy and man that effected his adult views and confusion of sexuality. THIS is so important to so many out there who have been 'damaged' by predators in childhood and young adulthood. I've seen this for myself, my siblings and many of our friends. PLEASE ADDRESS THIS CORE ISSUE.

donald johns   January 29th, 2009 9:57 pm ET

I think Ted is probably bi-sexual not gay. His wife still has a relationship with him. Pornography is strong. If the truth was known He probably thought about sex with men in a bi fashion after being exposed to porn. Satan is after all preachers and evengelist.
I'm embarrasedthet he is on the program. I wish him and his family well
Retired counsellor

Rich   January 29th, 2009 9:57 pm ET

I believe Ted has said it all and I truly believe that God is using him and his wife RIGHT NOW with enlightning people to acceptance and forgiveness. I applaud him, he is realizing something in himself that I have to deal with in my own life and I feel there are a lot of people can't put them selves in the "box"

Sharon Meade   January 29th, 2009 9:57 pm ET

I would like to hear Ted Haggard say..How much is HBO paying him for the movie rights? Let's be honest now Ted.

Anne   January 29th, 2009 9:58 pm ET

Ted, I don't care if you are gay or not...just be honest.

I was married to a gay man for almost 30 years (unbeknownst to me).
My ex's coming out devastated our family. It has been over 7 years but I still think of it do my adult children I am sure.

Gail.......wake up!!

James   January 29th, 2009 9:58 pm ET

This is the reason Jesus died such a horrible death for you and me, to forgive every time we have missed the mark of walking in His perfect Love!

Andre   January 29th, 2009 9:58 pm ET

"Well, here's another hypocritic fanatic priest who like many others condemn, label, discriminate against, crucify, and make the lives of all of us gay people more dificult than they already are, tasting his own poison. And yet, he is called a human being and not "a beast" as they have always referred to us. Quite interesting, isn't it?

rex harrington   January 29th, 2009 9:58 pm ET

I wonder why a sane woman would support what is obviously a gay man, she must be needy in some way. Or unable to comprehend that her marriage has been a sham. Like so many woman before her she is standing by a man who has never considered her best intrests because of their own failings. Look at govener spitzer ,woman want to beleive men are good but unfortunately they are ruled by their loins and nature.

Louise Welch   January 29th, 2009 9:58 pm ET

I think this man is simple that a man. He is not God or Jesus....He who cast the first stone.......I say let these people have a live their life as they see fit...God Bless and Godspeed.

Antonio Sylvester   January 29th, 2009 9:58 pm ET

A Straight man is straight and is comfortable with his manhood. He is a disgrace to gay men. Come out already. Gay is in!! Stupid.

Wayne Nall   January 29th, 2009 9:58 pm ET

Is Gail saying she would try and change their child if one were gay? Or would she support them no matter gay or straight?

Rita   January 29th, 2009 9:58 pm ET

I commend Pastor Haggard on his bravery and humility to come forth and take responsibility for his actions, its something many people now a days wouldn't do. We are all sinners and who are we not to forgive???! May God continue to raise him and enlighten him in God's mercy and grace daily so that he may fulfill God's perfect will for his life!
God bless pastor Haggard and his family!

Gayon   January 29th, 2009 9:58 pm ET

I am excited for Ted Haggard's life! Where sin abounds, grace abounds more! And for Ted, may he be encouraged to know that there are followers of Jesus believing YOU WILL OVERCOME in Christ!!

john   January 29th, 2009 9:58 pm ET

i think Mr. haggard added insult to injury by contradicting the "details" of Grant's account. Perhaps he could have taken the higher ground by saying something like "I remember it differently."

Jay   January 29th, 2009 9:58 pm ET

While preaching the gospel he was living a second life. How can anyone trust him again.

bill   January 29th, 2009 9:58 pm ET

what does god think of gays

Scott in Texas   January 29th, 2009 9:59 pm ET

Thank you Gayle for saying if one of your children came out you would support them, but is that just words to make you look good on Tv, or would you really follow what you just said?

Rev. Carlton Rutherford   January 29th, 2009 9:59 pm ET

Having been sexually abused in the 2nd grade by an adult male could easily have caused the confusion and uncertainty about his sexuality. Men who are sexually abused can be heterosexual, bisexual, or homosexual. More than anything I would hope that Mr. Haggard is comfortable and happy with who is, that he knows that God loves him, and that he remembers that there is nothing that can separate him from the love of Jesus Christ. I am an openly gay black man who is a pastor and a licensed clinical social worker who is very comfortable with himself and has a positive relationship with the Triune God.

Kapil   January 29th, 2009 9:59 pm ET

The Bible is full of great men who have had great falls. King David being called " a man after God's heart" committed adultery with one of his faithful soldier's wife and eventually murdered the man indirectly. Eventually the sin that was done was exposed, David was confronted and he "repented". What i am hoping you would tell the world is whether u have "repented" or not? Share with them what "repentance" means and the way to attaining forgiveness through it! Although at first we were utterly devasted and broken, just want to tell you all that we still love you and have been praying that God would heal u..Your christian family from the Middle East!

Roz   January 29th, 2009 9:59 pm ET

Is Ted a bit narcissistic? I just question his intentions with all the attention he's getting by bringing this up again in the public eye instead of seeking forgiveness one on one with those he offended.

Rod Arvizu   January 29th, 2009 9:59 pm ET

This man is living the wrong life as to what the bible says. You can not be GAY or QUEER and go to heaven. You have to turn away from your sins and never look back or go back to them. To just read the bible and ask the holy spirit to guide you, is WRONG, YOU MUST ASK GOD TO FORGIVE YOU OF YOUR SINS and except JESUS into your heart and believe in the word of GOD and be FAITHFUL and TRUTHFUL. You can not live a gay life and must remove yourself from that kind.

Jude   January 29th, 2009 9:59 pm ET

When this first happened I thought, it figures, another mega-preacher caught!! I lumped him into the group with Paul Crouch (who was also caught with his pants down in a gay relationship), John Hagee, who committed adultry, etc. The mega-church is a HUGE money maker and the money changers who sell Jesus are very rich!!

I think Ted, like many white males, is a broken man. I don't think he should get back behind the pulpit, but I do hope he allows Jesus to use him in a mighty way.

My children were molested by their father and two of my children believe they are gay. Although I don't approve, I will never turn against my children for any thing. Since they've basically had no male role model in their lives, I believe they are gender confused not gay. the bible is clear on homosexuality, it is a sin, but God is merciful and if he could let my ex move on with no consequences, he can forgive my children.

I hope Ted goes on to help sexually confused people to find their healthy way out of confusion.

Ted is a good man, and his wife is a godly woman!!

Christopher Tryon   January 29th, 2009 9:59 pm ET

Sorry Dennis.........As a gay american I would never have chosen to be made fun of, denied rights as a citizen of this country...THINK Dennis before you speak..

David   January 29th, 2009 9:59 pm ET

Ah, back in the Springs. You will surely get plenty of help there! NOT!

rex harrington   January 29th, 2009 9:59 pm ET

how great , as we end she loves her gay husband, oh my god they are not dark thoughts larry it is natural to be gay as to be straight, we are born this way!!!!

Marcus   January 29th, 2009 9:59 pm ET

Seeing this man sit infront of the entire world and confess his sins is a work of a higher power and not of his own. We have to admire his entire family for coming out and showing us what love means.

God Bless.

Daniel Johnson   January 29th, 2009 10:00 pm ET

I fully beleave that Mr. Haggard should not preach anymore. He has enough in his life that he needs to be concerned about.

Miss Priscilla   January 29th, 2009 10:00 pm ET

When King David sinned, his response was not to get a counsellor, sort it out with his wife, or his church, or anyone else, it was to speak to God 'Against you, you only, have I sinned and done this evil in your sight, ' If Mr Haggard knows God he must get right with Him before he can move on.

lynn   January 29th, 2009 10:00 pm ET

Gayle Haggard is truly a saint!!! I love her and she shows the true love of Christ by her actions...not just words

Genius Nd   January 29th, 2009 10:00 pm ET

Hi Ted,

Am happy you can come out on TV to talk about it.
Am proud of your wife, she is a very good woman.

Kyle   January 29th, 2009 10:00 pm ET

Since when is being gay equivalent to having "dark thoughts?"

Pastor Carl Fischer   January 29th, 2009 10:00 pm ET

It is always amazing to me that we can judge so harshly about homosexual relationships yet we very seldom ever talk about the marital infedility that occurs much more frequently. Marriage is a lifelong covenant of fideliy which is violated much more often than the infidelities of a man like Ted Haggard.

Jennifer from Canada   January 29th, 2009 10:00 pm ET

We're happy you're still holding onto your faith. So when are you starting a new Church.

Eric   January 29th, 2009 10:00 pm ET

Ted's wife is amazing! Value each other! That's all we can do...

stevie landon   January 29th, 2009 10:00 pm ET

How much money did he and his wife accumulate through having the church? This is tax deductable and obviously he has money to live on now. He has tax payer money to live on?

Stevie Landon

Mike P   January 29th, 2009 10:00 pm ET

THE PROBLEM WITH DRUG ADDICTS IS THAT THEY ARE GOOD LIARS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sharon Harper   January 29th, 2009 10:00 pm ET

We have been members of New Life for 20 years. I have never heard Pastor Ted speak meanly about gay people. When the amendment 2 issue came up in co spgs a flyer was left on all the seats in the church regarding the amendment. When Pastor Ted came in he asked the usher to pick up all the flyers. He informed us that people needed to be loved into the kingdom of God, not hated. He and Gayle are two very wonderful HUMAN beings. Yes his mistakes are huge but does it surprise anyone that his temptations were so great. He was bringing so many people to God that I am sure Satan went after him with a vengence. This man did a lot of good for so many people including our family. He helped us get through the death of my husband and gave us the firm conviction to know we would see him again. The church did not turn on him. I was there the day his and Gayles letters were read to our congregation and there was not a dry eye in the church. We want to embrase him and his family and help them in any way we can as they always did for us. I and my family love him and his family and will never forget them.

Antonio Sylvester   January 29th, 2009 10:01 pm ET

We want to embrace you. Of course we do and we do. These are not dark thoughts. Get real Larry. That is who he is. Mrr. Taggard, you will have the need and desire again.

Pam   January 29th, 2009 10:01 pm ET

I haven't heard Mr. Haggard say that he was repentant. The Bible says this about the unrighteous:

1 Corinthians 6:9
Do you not know that the unrighteous and the wrongdoers will not inherit or have any share in the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived (misled): neither the impure and immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor those who participate in homosexuality,

Amplified Bible

Dan   January 29th, 2009 10:01 pm ET

It is a fact that the bigger you become in the eyes of man, the harder you will fall when you don't deal with sin in your life. But just because when your sin found you out and it was made known to the world what was happening in the secret does not mean that you need to show the whole world that you're recovering and healing by your own means. Let God be God. Give Him full control of your life, "don't conform to the patterns of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind." You don't need to prove anything to anyone. God is a God who saves. Your sphere of influence is now very small, so build upon that, don't shoot straight for mass media.

DON WILSON   January 29th, 2009 10:02 pm ET

THIS IS NO SURPRISE ...the bible tells us to "Beware of False Prophets"
He is indeed a false Prophet!

rex harrington   January 29th, 2009 10:03 pm ET

As the show ends all is well in delussionalville, i bet she will be so intimate with her loving gay husband tonight and never long for a real man... it's almost disneyesque. This is why america is in such a mess Larry you allow these hypocryts a voice.

binny   January 29th, 2009 10:03 pm ET

This is all a game of US Media ,when one make a sin in US specailly by a Christian no matter professionone may belong ,they( media) make it so simple ,Mr.Ted is making an excuse of his sin and now he wants to be forgiven and people 'll forgive him as that's what happens in US culture but if this had happened in other part of the world or by a other religious fellow (specially by a Muslim) you (US media) may have put it differently to the public .

darren   January 29th, 2009 10:03 pm ET

I don't want to bash your blog!!!!!! you asked us not to curse,to stick to the topic yet you are choosing the blogs that you want to be seen. i asked the question,if these men had not come forward would he have come forward? i think that was a legitimate question to the topic.

Wil   January 29th, 2009 10:03 pm ET

People are forgiving. The problem is not people but pastors like yourself who prey on people's weaknesses through hate mongering and vile words like the ones you spewed from the safety of the pulpit. You need to spend time listening to the thousand of mothers who lost there sons and daughters to suicide because of your vile words, you need to listen to the many men who we fired because church leaders rejected their honesty in accepting their sexuality.

Angelo   January 29th, 2009 10:04 pm ET

Thank you God for keep showing me the truth about myself. Thank you for letting me know that I enljoy sex with men. That I am Gay and that I can now be happy! Iam that I am!

rex harrington   January 29th, 2009 10:04 pm ET

Marcus you are not serious, wake up!!!!

Brenda   January 29th, 2009 10:04 pm ET

What I want to hear Ted Haggard say is I am gay. I am now coming out of the closet because I got caught.

He is making it out to be something other than what it is so he doesn't loose his family.

He has done the worst thing a person can do to another person, lie and cheat and risk giving her AIDS.

Mrs. Haggard is in denial and if she really woke up she would divorce him.

Nancy Boaz   January 29th, 2009 10:05 pm ET

Nothing, I want him to go away!

bill   January 29th, 2009 10:05 pm ET

the man is gay and he should admit to that now, there is nothing wrong with being gay,if he can't come clean with who he is... how can anyone believe him? He like so many hide behind the shroud of the church!

tara   January 29th, 2009 10:05 pm ET

i would like to know where did he preach what is the name of the church that he used to go to before he did some kind of sexual contact and who did he do it to because i know most men do that to women and where was it did he have some kind of a addiction and that was not good that it happened so what caused it to happen please let me know i would like to know
from Tara L Davis

Chad   January 29th, 2009 10:05 pm ET

Hi David, good to see you on TV and hope you are doing well.

If Ted has homosexual tendencies, he is gay or bisexual, regardless of whether he acts upon those tendencies. There is nothing more to "process" and these are not "dark thoughts". The sexuality of others is irrelevant to your salvation. Refocus your energies on the real teachings of Jesus: learn to love your fellow man.

Matt   January 29th, 2009 10:06 pm ET

Ted Haggard is and no other words gay. Yes, he might be BI. But in all he has had sexual interest in men. While as a preacher downing the gay life style as he lived it as he spoke. He might stay with his wife and he really might love her, but part of him loves to either to be topped by men or like to be the topper. He will always want men even if he doesn't par take in it again. His wife is clueless if she really thinks that he is not gay or BI. If she can be into having her husband like men as well that is okay too. But, as a preacher he should not down the gay society as he will and always be part of it......

Nate   January 29th, 2009 10:06 pm ET

Grow up America! There are so many married men cheating sexually with men as well as other women. And we all know it! The great majority of them are good men who love their wives and are great providers to their families. Most of us men simply have a serious challenge with sexual fidelity. I'm not saying this is right or just is. I think the lesson in all of this is for us all to open our eyes face the truth and realize noone is perfect. (And maybe provide us men with more fidelity training!) And for God sake give up all the hypocrisy! What I would ask Ted is, how are you doing brother?

Steven   January 29th, 2009 10:06 pm ET

I want to hear him apologize to gay people for making them feel like they are demons by referring to homosexuality as "darkness." The reason he is in darkness is because he is working so hard to repress who he really is. As a gay man I never feel like I am leading a dark life; I am well-adjusted and happy with myself. Ted clearly hates himself. You can see it in the smile he plasters on his face.

Jane   January 29th, 2009 10:07 pm ET

What an amazing family and tribute to love and tolerance, acceptance and forgiveness. I'm so glad there was not a tragic suicide and instead a new path of life with integrity. What brave and amazing people!

GIna   January 29th, 2009 10:07 pm ET

Homosexuals who are true to themselves have not sinned. The sin is the lie. Homosexuals lead healthy, full lives. We are great teachers, parents and contributors to society. The myth that homosexuality is an illness serves only the narrow-mindedness of our culture. Mr. Haggard is an example of the judgement that gay culture has had to endure that is not based on the truth of our lives but
on the Christian belief that we are "less than" those who are straight. We should not be judged by the limited standards of straight culture. We have much to offer to society. It is a shame that Mr. Haggard is unable to allow that side of himselt to be part of being a child of God.

Edy   January 29th, 2009 10:07 pm ET

I ASK AGAIN–How old was Grant when Haggard took him to bed?

L. Reckker   January 29th, 2009 10:07 pm ET

I am so dissappointed that Mr. Haggard refers to his natural tendencies as "Dark Thoughts," insulting all gay individuals that DO NOT FIND THEIR LIGIMATE, GOD GIVEN FEELINGS AS DARK. The fact that he is working so hard to try and ignore who he is as he was born is very sad. His lovely wife is in total denial.

Shane   January 29th, 2009 10:08 pm ET

If he enters another church for the duration of his life it should be to sit on a pew and not ever aproach the pulpit. He gave up that privilege when he became responsible for thousands loosing faith.

Mike P   January 29th, 2009 10:08 pm ET


K. McCabe   January 29th, 2009 10:09 pm ET

Hooray for Mike Jones, the hooker who busted Ted. Haggart would never have come this far if it hadn't happened. He'd still be the same hypocrite using gay bashing to collect millions of dollars, as preachers have successfully been doing for decades.

I am a (gay) Christian too, so I hope the best for Haggart and his family. Of course he is grateful for a beautiful wife and lovely children! After all, if he were out as a gay man, he would not be able to marry and in many states couldn't even adopt.

The problem with this interview is that in the end, Haggart still says being gay is a sin. He has a long way to go and unlike a lot of gay people who have suffered discrimination, violence and even murder due to their orientation (encouraged by the rhetoric of homophobic preachers), Haggart obviously hasn't suffered enough.

Eric   January 29th, 2009 10:09 pm ET

"Pam", good luck getting through this life reading the Bible as literal. I am sure there are lots of things in the Old Testament that you are overlooking in living your own life as you judge everyone else trying to quote scripture from the new New Testament....

Chad McCoury   January 29th, 2009 10:09 pm ET

To: Carla Perez January 29th, 2009 9:55 pm ET who wrote...

I am a fellow Christian and like you Ted, have realized as the scriptures say….Blessed are the merciful for they shall receive mercy.
The sexual urges for the same sex are called temptations just like someone would have the urge to do drugs, rob a bank. lie, murder, etc…we learn on our journey’s to not give into every thought that crosses our mind. I think the key to Teds is that he was molested in the 2nd grade and it was not dealt with properly.

From: Chad McCoury...
So, if sexual urges for the same sex are called temptations are sexual urges for the opposite sex also called temptations?

rex harrington   January 29th, 2009 10:09 pm ET

Being gay is like being black white or yellow or pink or blue, its not envirenment I was raised by two hetrosexuals it is intrinsic in our nature and hate is supposedly not a christian virtue, he who lives in glass houses etc. in the age of Obama I suggest we all learn to live and let live, Ted Haggart continues the hatred and denial of what is natural in nature but is shunned by a church that should cast a light on their own corruption and hatred and ask the question, why is the pope wearing prada shoes?

Mary Lou Sigler   January 29th, 2009 10:10 pm ET

It is sad that terms such as "sexual immorality" and "disgraced" are used, not because Haggard had a sexual relationship outside of marriage, which would make such terms more appropriate, but because he had homosexual relationships. I am a Christian who believes that God made gay people gay. Gays do not choose to be gay. Who would choose to be discriminated against? God and Jesus love homosexuals as unconditionally as they love heterosexuals. Being gay is not a sin. Studying scripture appropriately confirms my belief. Please read the book "What the Bible Really Says About Homosexuality."

Todd   January 29th, 2009 10:10 pm ET

Pastor Haggard has struggles with sin. We all struggle with sin. He has admitted his sin and apologized. God is at work in this family's life, it is evident. God will finish the work he has started in this man. Judas was the ultimate hypocrite and had he confessed(repented) with a broken and contrite heart, Jesus would have forgiven him. Seek Christ in all you do.

God bless you and your family.

Jua McSween-Ortiz   January 29th, 2009 10:11 pm ET

If Ted is going to preach – How is he going to handle the issues regarding his followers sexuality differences. He states that he is struggling to deal with his demons, does this mean that he still has strong sexual attraction to men, and if so how does he deal with these desires?

Eric   January 29th, 2009 10:11 pm ET

Amen, Rex!!!

Loretta   January 29th, 2009 10:12 pm ET

Ted Haggard is a prime example of "Amazing Grace". It is not that he fell, it is the fact that he has a battle inside of himself that is NOT indicative of the Evangelic Christians. He is the "chosen" at this time to address and be with people that have sexual identity frustrations in their hearts. I truly believe there are all kinds of sexual identifications including being Gay/bisexual. How the scriptures have been translated and interpreted and preached may not be so after all. Perhaps this is our invitation to open our hearts let down our expectations of others and just love. There is to much of this hatred going on in the name of "Christianity". I truly believe it takes the ego and bragging rights out of a Christian family when a family member comes out. Humility and raising your head in love is truly what will make our world turn around. How do I know this? My dearest son is gay. We did not blink an eye because love was over powered. He is a successful news anchor and contriubes to the gay world and the straight world for a better understanding.

Meret   January 29th, 2009 10:12 pm ET

Bob January 29th, 2009 9:48 pm ET


As a former evangelical pastor, I too wonder how many colleagues and parishioners struggled with the same thing but because the church condemned it, they were left with guilt and shame for who they are. This is why so many single men went into the priesthood: where else could a gay man go?


Why would a gay man go into a profession that condmens him? I don't understand what you said. Please explain.

Jeremiah Bartholomew   January 29th, 2009 10:13 pm ET

BecauseTed Haggard committed a homosexual act, does that make such acts right or okay? I would like to hear him say: "it is wrong, even though I did it."

I believe that he, and anyone else should be forgiven, but his action should not give anyone a boost to engage in such behavior. What if he was caught with another woman, would that give all married men the right to have extra-marital affairs?

rex harrington   January 29th, 2009 10:13 pm ET

My god ,lets call a spade a spade!!!

Toyin   January 29th, 2009 10:13 pm ET

"Let him that has not sinned before cast the first stone". Even Peter denied Christ, after he swore he NEVER would. Mr. Ted, I truly respect your courage and humility. Your wife is an amazing gift and a great example unto believers. The Lord will fully restore you and your great family. I'm with you in prayers.

kara   January 29th, 2009 10:14 pm ET

As a believer in Christ, I agree with what Haggard's wife said when she said we have to make the right choices and not act on thoughts. Oprah disagreed with her because she doesnt feel that Jesus wants us to deny ourselves. He does. The bible states just that. We have to deny ourselves, pick up the cross and follow Him. It is all SIN. Heterosexual sex without marriage, lying, stealing, hate, lust, homosexuality etc. is all sin and we should not do it!

rex harrington   January 29th, 2009 10:14 pm ET

Did any of you see the movie Doubt?

Rob Nassif   January 29th, 2009 10:16 pm ET

Haggard is so obviously feminine, it is embarrassing to see him still denying his sexuality. And it is infuriating to see him and his wife still preaching hatred and intolerance.

Shaun Antle   January 29th, 2009 10:16 pm ET

hey rex, how about you keep to dancing gay as your career... and leave the intelligence to others... I love how you abuse "christians" yet you do the very thing you accuse him of.... grow up... A lot of people need to realize that "choices" are a part of life... being gay, just another choice... as much as being christian... stop attacking his christianity instead of the true fact that yeah, he messed up according to his standards.

tara   January 29th, 2009 10:16 pm ET

do you know also ted haggard this was not good because god love us children and they will forgive our sins if we pray to them and say that we are sorry for what we did that was wrong so you are doing right thing by admitting of what you did was wrong and do you read your bible because i read my bible about god and our lord Jesus Christ one of these days you are going to be god so what you think and why did you do it let me know from tara

Audrey   January 29th, 2009 10:17 pm ET

Obviously he is getting the help and support he needs to change his life and rebuild his relationship with God and his family. The word "gay" is used way too loosely and more serious therapy should be given those who have been sexually abused before just accepting they are gay. When these persons haven't been able to debrief emotionally, they act out. That is documented. Many have dealt with the abuse and proved they were not actually gay.

geri weitz   January 29th, 2009 10:17 pm ET

why dont people get it, know matter if your straight or gay people all have the same fundamental needs , they are no different ,if people were honest they would relize this. if we would quit making a big deal out of this it would be accepted like every other differences people have .i have studied and spent long hours coming to this conclusion. i am a mother of a 35 yr. old gay son im very proud of him, not many people have as much compassion caring for fellow humans as the man i speak of.

Pat   January 29th, 2009 10:17 pm ET

Can someone tell me why is Mr. Haggard so nonchalant about the fact that he raped when he was in the 2nd grade by a man who worked for his father? That's a major and traumatic event of his childhood and possibly contributes to the sexual struggles of his adulthood. Oddly, he spoke almost fondly about being raped on Oprah yesterday, saying it didn't seem like abuse.

I'm sad for Mr. Haggard.

Andre   January 29th, 2009 10:19 pm ET

Homophobic individuals along with fanatic religious freaks, are the REAL EVIL in our society, NOT GAY PEOPLE!!!
The only way for us to be able to get along with each other, is through tolerance and mutual respect and not hatred.
I hope this is a good lesson to be learned by all these bigots here in the US.

Paul Gannon   January 29th, 2009 10:19 pm ET

I feel 'religious right' has been such champions/heros of persecution and dictating their exclusivity on what the right thing to do is. Speak to persecution and what you expect in the future?

Joni   January 29th, 2009 10:19 pm ET

Forget everyone else. How could he do this to his children?

Dan   January 29th, 2009 10:20 pm ET

As a gay man, who long ago accepted the fact that a vast majority of psychiatrists and psychologists have determined that "being gay" is a genetic condition and not a "life choice", The fact that someone like Ted Haggard cannot resist acting on his gay inclinations is only further proof that this is something that is inherent in the genetic make-up of indiduals and is not a choice that people make.

I think Ted needs to come to grips with the fact that "being gay" is not his sin, or, as he says, "a complication". Ted's sin is the fact that he is in a monogamous committed relationship and he went outside of that relationship and broke his commitment to his wife. He is no more or less guilty than any gay man who is in a committed relationship with another man, and then goes out and has sex with another man.

The "complication" in Ted's life is the fact that he does not accept his attraction to men as something that is perfectly normal in at least 10-15% of the population. He almost seems to "justify" his infidelities because they are with "other men", and, consequently calls them "complications". If he were having relationships with other women, would he consider that a "complication"?

He needs to accept the fact that he is gay, or at least bi, BUT he is in a committed relationship and must not act on those feelings or he will be betraying the commitment he made to his wife. Just as a gay man in a committed relationship would be wrong to have relations with another man, because he would be betraying the commitiment he had made to his male partner.

It grieves me deeply to hear his wife's response as to how she would react if she learned one of her children was gay. She commented essentially that they "would be compassionate and try to work this through". This family needs to understand that being gay is natural, Being bi-sexual is natural. When someone chooses a life partner, choose one that is male or female, but once that choice is made, they need to be true to that partner, whether they be gay, bi, or straight.

Happy   January 29th, 2009 10:20 pm ET

I hope that all of you are happy about the fact that yet again you get to 'make your voice heard' and have someone to put all of your labels on. I find it so interesting that each one of you that call this man a hypocrite are hypocrites yourself. When you point the finger, three point back at you. I'm not gay nor a supporter of Ted Haggard, but I am a supporter of someone trying to get his life together. Who are any of you to have these 'burn 'em at the stake' opinions just because he chooses his family over a lifestyle? Is it because you don't have a show or are on TV? Please, I'd love to know! Or is it simply this; do you just lack that certain something that would make you be compassionate? Is that it? For all of you who want compassion in your own life or to be understood, I'd urge you, show a little compassion yourself. I do understand that it's really easy when it's a guy on a TV screen you don't know to have such anger. Who knows, maybe you'll get to take out a little aggression, I don't know. I'd hope that these opinions that some of you have posted are not a reflection of how you are in your own life. I hope this is not a reflection of how you are towards people in your own life. If we as a people do not learn to be more compassionate, caring and forgiving, there is really no hope for us. Judge not! You will most certainly be judged. Count on it.

rex harrington   January 29th, 2009 10:22 pm ET

ARE you kidding, where do you get the right to say your beleifs are more righteous than mine? Because you were brought up with them? are you better than me? Do you not breath, bleed and love in the same way? Like most organized religion you condem what you hate in your own behaviuor Ted haggard as an example, forgive me for I have sinned , Jimmy Swaggart slept with prostitutes yet cried to his flock and they forgave yet they are sinners in his and gods eyes? Come on !!! We are all born as we are, gat straight black white good bad and all inbetween but the worlds conflicts to meseem to be about whos god is right and whos moral code we should follow. What if we all just lived are lives and didn't condem? Shocking we may all live in harmony!

Christopher Tryon   January 29th, 2009 10:23 pm ET

What about Larry Craig...hmmm his is straight too right?

Christian   January 29th, 2009 10:29 pm ET

I am glad for Mr. Haggard and his famiy that he is in the "process". We all have our journeys. I see he has a long way to go when he correlates his infidelity, dishonesty, and drug abuse with "the sin of homosexuality". Like so many others, he is wrong. If he keeps reading the bible as a well-intentioned but ignorant theologian, he will not find the peace that his "process" could bring. I hope that the spirit of Christ will continue to "open his heart and mind" in such a way that he accepts himself and others completely.

Elvin   January 29th, 2009 10:29 pm ET

Come out Ted. You're embarassing everyone (gay, straights, bisexuals). Homosexuality is no more a sin than eating shellfish, pork, mixing fabrics, etc...(according to the Bible). That's why it's not in the 10 commandments...but lying IS! Shame on you.

Shaun Antle   January 29th, 2009 10:29 pm ET

Hey REX... you said, and I quote, "What if we all just lived are lives and didn't condem?" How about you start that revelution by keeping your own tongue in check... You just proved you are as human as Ted... All of your blogs have been synical and sarcastic yet you have the nerve to say ssomething like that... lol You are part of the entire problem known as mankind. Maybe if you took a spoonful of your own medicine the world might be different by one person. Like I said, just stick to dance... its one thing you ARE good at... this is not...

demetris bernard   January 29th, 2009 10:29 pm ET

What Mr. Haggarard will not say on television, I will say for him. For all of you that are Christians please read the Bible. The Bible says that a man laying with a man is an abomination. It says, "Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it [is] abomination" – Lev. 18:22. "If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood [shall be] upon them" – Lev. 20:13. "Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves:" – Romans 1:24. "And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet." Romans 1:27 Wait! Wait! Wait! If you are a Christian keep reading.
Rom 1:28
And even as they did not like to retain God in [their] knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;
Rom 1:29
Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers,
Rom 1:30
Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,
Rom 1:31
Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful:
Rom 1:32 Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.

So you see Mr. Haggard's struggle comes from within. It is the fact that deep within he knows that God is not pleased with a homosexual lifestyle. It's in the Bible, folks, you can not get around it. I'm not bashing. I am just sharing what is in black and white. It's not hate. It is written! Was he wrong for preaching on it when he was involved himself? Maybe. But let's not blur the bottom line. The church has a right to stand by its biblical principles and doctrines. For those of you that have children if you start taking drugs, or start drinking it does not mean that you would stop telling your children that it is wrong. You're struggling with it, yes, but it's still wrong and I would hope that you would advise them not to do it . As you can see above it's not just homosexuals, there are other sins that God is not pleased with in our lives. The problem is most do not want the church to look at homosexuality as a sin, but we have to because that is what the Bible says. "Abomination," "error," "unseemly," "uncleanness," c'mon these are all words that denote or imply that God Himself is not pleased with this lifestyle. He sent His son Jesus Christ to die for our sins. So that if someone is caught up in any of the things listed above they should seek Him for forgiveness but also turn or repent from all sinful ways. I love every person. A homosexual, a drug addict, a prostitute, the worst of the worst but it does not change the fact that their struggle is a sin and that God wants to help them with it. The Bible is a book of morality. It is the Christian's guide for life. Nothing in it is for our harm but all of it is for our good! If I am and adulterer – guess what? The bible says I'm guilty of sin. A liar? Yes, guilty of sin. So just like they asked Jesus someone might ask, well who can be a Christian then because we all have some kind of sin in our lives. You're right! That's why God's love and forgiveness has been provided through Jesus Christ – however, not for us to continue in the sin, but for us to seek deliverance from the sin! I could go on an on but you have to read it for yourself, pray for understanding, it's in the Holy Bible, plain and in black and white. Peace and love to all people.

/Ron Aigner   January 29th, 2009 10:31 pm ET

Columbine victim Mark Taylor who took 8 bullets went to New Life Church for healing. We learned that the gunmen at Columbine were avenging a bad arrest, not hallway harassment. The arrest likely included sexual assault by a deputy. He was hoping his church would expose this . Here are two small pieces of what w have discovered.
google final report Columbine videosift--a National Geographic Documentary that exposes that the killers left a written motive that they were avenging a bad arrest about 39 min.
google Columbine family request-–what we believe happened during the arrest. Mark has ben betrayed by his country and his Church

Mimi Starrett   January 29th, 2009 10:32 pm ET

Would Mr. Haggard like to see a Catholic priest on the Larry King show discussing how and why he had sexual relations with boys and men?

rex harrington   January 29th, 2009 10:33 pm ET

Poor delusional you being gay is not a choice, would I choose to be wrong in your eyes and the rest of the church? It would be so easy to conform and those of you in the church are those most tortured because your whole life you are fed a doctrine. What if you just grew up believing we are all human, not christian gay or different , remember when it was ok for blacks to be at the back of the bus? remember when women couldn't vote? Your being christian was forced on you by your parents I suppose, i don't think at 18 you said gee I beleive the world was created in seven days and there was an immaculate conception and all is well. I went to church as a child sang onward christian soldiers yet as an adult I came to see the hypocrisy of organized religion and choose not to follow like a sheep. Thats right, i choose to be persecuted!!! No but you can choose to beleive in christ, buddah allah or whomever allows you to demeen and persecute others, I choose to love you and everyone but disagree that your beleifs are all the people in the world should follow. In the words of john lennon, IMAGINE ALL THE PEOPLE LIVING LIFE AS ONE!!!

rex harrington   January 29th, 2009 10:34 pm ET

Demitris bernard
Why would you live your life according to a book that was written and reinterpreted by man for years?>

Shaun Antle   January 29th, 2009 10:35 pm ET

sad part is andre... the "true" belief of "true" christianity is exactly that and unfortunately christians (being human like anyone else) have made many mistakes... I have many "homosexual" friends who know my beliefs yet we are still great friends... We do need to be more respectful, but as much as homosexual people want respect, they are the first to gang bang the christian society... it goes back to someone needs to start and every single human has the power to be that one to change the sands of time.

Patty   January 29th, 2009 10:36 pm ET

Lust isa tool used by the demonic forces as a temptation to fall into sin. It can be dealt with and overcome. Sexual relationships, whether heterosexual, or homosexual outside of marriage are considered fornication. 1Cor "Neither idolators, nor fornicators nor adulterers will ever enter the Kingdom of Heaven." Our bodies are the Holy Temple of God...none of us is battery operated. Everything we experience: see, feel, touch, taste, etc., is felt and experienced by God within us.

We as humans have the ability to overcome any temptation – and that ability grows stronger as we develop relationship with the Holy Spirit within. As we grow into deeper experience of knowing His love, we become more convicted to not to anything that would displease Him.

Temptations are thoughts and feelings projected at us from the demonic to cause us to lose our eternal inheritance with God. Those demonic spirits can be cast out, as Jesus did. People can be delivered from homosexual temptations, as much as from other sexual temptations. It is a combination of deliverance and discernment, strength of convictions and a deepening relationship with Christ Jesus through the power of the Holy Spirit.

Question for Ted – have you tried getting deliverance?

Will CNN censor this message, too?

Anne   January 29th, 2009 10:37 pm ET

I was interested in Larry King Live this evening because we had a daughter who was lesbian. She did not like to be that way so she self-medicated with drugs and alcohol for approximately 15 years. She was in rehab one time and attended AA several times but not consistently. We all were wanting her to enter rehab again but there was no hospital ins. She was very, very intoxicated one night and committed suicide. We don't know if this was accidental or if she drank alot to have the nerve to do this. Larry, please show this to Mr. Haggard and have him reply to me. I have gone to counseling with my husband as soon as this happened and when that was not sufficient, I went for one-to-one therapy. I am also on an internet help and have been for at least 8 years. My daughter has been gone for 10 years. We never thought anything like this would happen. She had depression also and was taking anti-depressants which makes me think that was a contributing factor along with the alcohol. Her alcohol level was 28. That is high! I don't think she knew what she was doing. Our family was in shock! We loved her so much and her two sisters loved her. She would tell her friends 'I have the greatest parents.' and we knew that and vice versa. Please Mr. Haggard read this and reply to this.and tell me what else to do as I am not thru grieving even yet. I am Christian as is my husband as well as our daughter was. I know we will see her in heaven as she believed her Lord was her savior.

My emaill is above. Larry, thank you!


Eric S.   January 29th, 2009 10:38 pm ET

Ted Haggard and his family are treating this situation as if he has a disease. Even as a heterosexual, I am offended that they see someone’s sexual orientation as a disease or a problem that needs to be processed or cured.

There is nothing here to process. You are what you are and if Ted is a homosexual, he’s not only hurting others, but is also hurting himself in the long run, as well as his family. It needs to stop here with a dose of reality.

Focus on being kind and humane to all living beings, while doing what makes you happy, whether one agrees with it or not.


kara   January 29th, 2009 10:39 pm ET

Thank you Demetris!! You are so right.

Dave   January 29th, 2009 10:41 pm ET

In regard to Ted Haggard’s interview on Larry King I found myself actually feeling sorry for the man. I’m an open, well-adjusted gay man who has low tolerance for the rabidly anti gay TV preachers especially that hatemonger Rob Parsley. I think Ted Haggard has paid a high price for his hypocrisy although he wasn’t one of the worst public figure gay bashers I feel especially bad for his wife and kids who amazingly have stayed with him. Mrs. Haggard seems to be a lovely person; I hope no further indiscretions come her way. Mr. Haggard seems a broken man who has learned his lesson. I do not believe in “outing” people gay, bi or otherwise. Mark Jones is certainly no shining example of the gay community being a male prostitute. He needed to stop and think the repercussions however deserved by Mr. Haggard, would not only affect Mr. Haggard but would devastate his innocent family as well. He should have manned up and told Mr. Haggard what he thought to his face and gone his way. I think Mike Jones motive probably was to get his 15 minutes of fame. Labels are for clothes not for people and Haggard does not have to label himself for the public but sadly I think his family is due even more heartache until he gets totally real with himself.

Paul Nardone   January 29th, 2009 10:42 pm ET

Ted.... You are well versed in telling us how your therapists define you... How do you define you? You sound absolutely rediculous!

rex harrington   January 29th, 2009 10:43 pm ET

One last word, by the way I am not condeming, just saying that Ted seems to think as all christians do, forgive me for I have sinned, as he says sexuality is a monagamous hetrosexual marriage. How many people condeming others in the name of christ are living that truth?

Shaun Antle   January 29th, 2009 10:44 pm ET


raised with christian family... yes... involved with drugs, sex, sexually abused, homosexual thoughts, you name it i went through it, but as an ADULT I have struggled through what we call life and come to realize that if in the words of John Lennon were true, there would be no God, there would be no law, there would be no "reality" as we see it. Fact is, I choose to believe in Christ, not based on what my parents "fed" me as you say. I believe in truth, I believe in the inherent word of God, I also believe that every man aside from Christ is human. we make decisions that are not always right, our lives are so very imperfect. I HATE what the church has become... Where did Christ spend ALL of his time... ?Do you even know? in case you do not... with prostitutes, tax collectors, murders, the worst of the worst... who did he comdemn more... "religious"rulers... Christ's idea of christianity is to love everyone the same. We all sin and as Pastor Ted said, fall short according to Romans 3:23, 6:23... So we accept our faults work on ourselves and our OWN issues as the Bible also states, work on the log in your own eye before you try to address the "splinter"in your brothers... I wish that people like yourself would see the very thing you hate and speak out against is the VERY thing you do... Try to PUSH the homosexual lifestyle around... Since when did "christians"have a "Christian parade" in downtown Toronto? NEVER, but we do have a "GAY PRIDE" week with a parade... so you tell me, are you any better than the so called "organized religions, bigots" and so on?NO... so again I say, grow up... live by your own words before you condemn others by theirs...

Sharri   January 29th, 2009 10:45 pm ET

There is another post here where someone else felt this sounded like a rerun of the (ex?) Gov. Blagojevich interview. I agree. These are people who have let power, greed, a heightened sense of self-importance get a hold of them and they've tread on everyone and everything they used to think they believed in. Or, maybe they never walked their walk, and always only talked their talk-and fooled everyone else, and maybe even themselves.

Humans make mistakes. Another way of saying "We are all sinners!!!" Isn't that what the evangelicals love to interject while they are so busy quoting (and misquoting)–the Bible.

The Bible is God using lovely language to say things to us that are filled with good common sense, and yes, it's open to personal interpretation. But don't twist it's words to squirm your way out of a falsehood.

I don't usually do this, but it's always a good idea to know your audience before you begin to speak-it helps them relate to you.

So here I go with the quotes, Mr. Haggard: "Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be hasty in your heart to utter anything before God." Ecclesiastes 5:2.

You know, watch out for fast talkers. And for you fast talkers, be careful, don't get ahead of yourself, you might just talk yourself into a corner–the person listening might just be a little wiser than you think he is, and he isn't falling for it.

And here's one I just can't resist: I will even preface it with an explanation, so you will know I'm not just throwing something out there that I don't understand:
Book of Jeremiah. Jeremiah was a man who, if he lived today, would have needed some anti-depressants. He had a very hard time dealing with the burden of being a prophet of God, and was often mentally and emotionally distressed. He was a prophet to 3 kings, and he complains a lot to God about how these kings abuse their power and get all caught up in greed and other sinful things: I'll start at Jeremiah 20:2 thru Jeremiah 23. Here goes.
Where is the flock that was given to you,
Your beautiful sheep?
What will you say when He punishes you?
For you have taught them
To be chieftains, to be head over you.
Will not pangs seize you,
Like a woman in labor?
And if you say in your heart,
“ Why have these things come upon me?”
For the greatness of your iniquity
Your skirts have been uncovered,
Your heels made bare.
Can the Ethiopian change his skin or the leopard its spots?
Then may you also do good who are accustomed to do evil.

Not bad quoting coming from a Christian of the Catholic Church, eh preacher?
(yeah, I'm angry about the pedophile priests, too-different subject)

True human shame usually makes the human behave in a manner where they want to hide themselves away from the world. You know, like Adam and Eve.

If you are so ashamed of yourself and so truly sorry for your sins, Mr. Haggard, go and hang your head in shame before only God and yourself like someone truly seeking forgiveness. There are a lot of sinners out here who manage to be ashamed of themselves, ask for forgiveness and get themselves feeling better with God and whomever else they've wronged in a quiet place, in a still small voice. With at least some dignity.

Not on national television where they are being paid for talking on and on about it.

I feel very sorry for your family, the member of your previous church, the men that you had sex with yet denied, and everyone else you hurt.
However, from the way you run on and on, I'm not so sure that you feel sorry for anyone but yourself.

Lorne   January 29th, 2009 10:45 pm ET

Each sperm has individual characteristic, so due fruits. Point being all Life deserve throw the eyes of culture a chance to flower. Fragmented choice taken only by the one!!!. Wrong and right in this area can only in truth take one direction. Life is more important then pleasure. Thanks Love&Life

Chase   January 29th, 2009 10:46 pm ET

Be honest and say your "gay". God could change you but he rarely delivers one to become straight. I have been down much the same path as you, Christian, married dealing with this for 50 years.

rex harrington   January 29th, 2009 10:47 pm ET

I just read your post, how true.

cathy   January 29th, 2009 10:47 pm ET

I think Ted is in denial. I feel badly stereo typing, but he has always and still does look like a flaming homosexual. The very sad part is how he was so hypocritical. I'm impressed with his wife. I would rather my husband cheat on me with another woman than a man. What she is doing is probably the most ideal to keep her children in a happier mental state.

phillip stanley bougard   January 29th, 2009 10:47 pm ET


My question to you, is: What did GOD do, to the sodomites at Sodom and Gomorah? To Ted, what happened to you, was satan's way, of attacking the furtherance of The Christian Gospel, you, Ted and Jimmy Swaggart et al

From: Toronto, Canada

Andre   January 29th, 2009 10:48 pm ET

One more thing for "all the bright individuals" who posted their opinions on the above topic. Watch the documentary called: "FOR THE BIBLE TELLS ME SO". That's exactly what you desperately need: to get educated!!!

kara   January 29th, 2009 10:48 pm ET

Leviticus is not the only scripture sited. Go to the new testament. Remember that it is not just homosexuality that is sin, but it is. Lying, heterosexual sex without marriage, hate, lust, stealing, doing drugs etc. is all sin. We must not do it. When it comes down to it, we all have something that we need Jesus to deliver us from. We dont need to focus on Haggard, but on whatever those things are in us that needs to come out and in the mean time love another. Perfect love cast out fear.

Elvin   January 29th, 2009 10:53 pm ET

Thanks Rex. I find it really ignorant for people to quote the Bible and take some things so literally and yet ignore others or not pick out parts that are actually right there too. God is love and Jesus preached love and understanding...not HATE or bigotry or judging or ignorance. But here's more... just in case they haven't read them yet:

Anyone who dreams or prophesizes anything that is against God, or anyone who tries to turn you from God, is to be put to death. (Deuteronomy 13:5)

If anyone, even your own family suggests worshipping another God, kill them. (Deuteronomy 13:6-10)

If you find out a city worships a different god, destroy the city and kill all of it's inhabitants... even the animals. (Deuteronomy 13:12-15)

Kill anyone with a different religion. (Deuteronomy 17:2-7)

Happy   January 29th, 2009 10:53 pm ET

Here is bit of truth...whatever is in the dark will be exposed. Here's some more, Ted Haggard is not accepted anywhere. The people in the church shun him and everyone else is too. Show some compassion! Furthermore, I wonder if calling someone delusional for their beliefs is under the same category as choosing to 'love everyone'? My goodness! Listen to yourself!! All of you who are name calling! STOP!! I suppose it is your right to do, but it is my right to share my opinion about it. Anyway, God bless all of you! Christians, let's show compassion and show the truths of what we believe....Yep! That's right, if anyone is interested, I am a Christian!

Gloria   January 29th, 2009 10:56 pm ET

Ted Haggard needs to admit that he is homosexual. He is simply continuing to deceive his family. I think this is especially cruel to his wife.

Chase   January 29th, 2009 10:58 pm ET

His wife said that she/they had a very satisfying relationship. Being gay I "pulled" that deception well when I was married. I was/am not bi-sexual. Many gays can pretend to be straight in the bed by using the extended sexual organ of the bain/thoughts. They are with men in their thoughts but in bed with their wife.

John V   January 29th, 2009 11:01 pm ET

I too married young, had children, but I realized my mistake and did not put my family through what he did. I came out of the closet and everyone accepted it, even my ex wife. Ted, why don't you go to MCC Church or one that DOES accept gay people?

Bret Olson   January 29th, 2009 11:02 pm ET

The Bible!!! Please!!! I have a book that says Santa Claus is real, that doesn't mnake it true. Christian evangelicals are delusional and evangelicals are the most delusional. Why is it that mankind seems to need these "supernatural" gods in order to make sense of their life. What are you afraid of? Hell? In my opinion, a man concocted creation to scare the masses into belief. Not going to heaven? Why don't you live your life here on earth without fear and in a positive way? The one thing I have found in researching the many religions in the world is that they all are very judgemental, they all seem to think they are the "chosen ones" going to heaven and everyone else is wrong and going to hell. They all require "faith" as an answer to all the inconsistancies and hypocricies in their respective religions and most inportanly they all seem to breed followers who live under the assumption that if someone thinks or believes something different than them then they must be wrong. Ted is a homosexual man who is repressing his inborn sexuality so that he can keep a family who loves him and so he can continue to believe in his Bible which basically says that he is an abomination. Why would God make humans that were abominations? Did God make us? I find this entire discusion both fascinating and also Religulous. Ted is just another man confused by what he actually is and what he has convinced himself he should be as dictated by a man made religion. Poor guy.

rex harrington   January 29th, 2009 11:07 pm ET

Bret will you marry me I think i am in love!!!

Donna   January 29th, 2009 11:08 pm ET

I've been a lesbian all my life, and I look forward to the day when gays and lesbians are not used as scapegoats by heterosexuals who can't keep the focus on themselves and live their own lives. Someday we will look upon this time in history as archaic. Please redirect this negative energy of yours within organized religion towards truly loving others, to help those in need.

Perhaps gays and lesbians need to start our own religion to pray to the one and only God , the God that loves us unconditionally, the God that wired us different from our heterosexual brothers and sisters, the God that wants us to love deeply those that we love.

I have tried to be a heterosexual to please the rest of the world, to live according to your bias, your prejudice, but it simply is not who I am. How loudly do we have to scream for you to hear us? Why should we even waste our time doing so?

Your interview with Larry King is more about this "scandal" with a man and boy and not about committing adultery against your wife. Would you be taking such a stance against this different wiring of yours, if you didn't have such power, standing, social status, prestige to gain in doing so?

rex harrington   January 29th, 2009 11:08 pm ET

Actually brett you are truly the most articulate person here, gay or straight

minhttan   January 29th, 2009 11:08 pm ET

Oh, Larry... I can't believe you asked Ted Haggard if he were "over the hump" in asking about his "recovery" with his homosexual thoughts. I'm glad you moved on quickly like the professional you are but that was the best laugh I had in a long, long time! 🙂

rex harrington   January 29th, 2009 11:09 pm ET

But we should wait to hear from shaun!

rex harrington   January 29th, 2009 11:10 pm ET

I just read those last posts, wow that just screams love and compassion!!!!

rex harrington   January 29th, 2009 11:13 pm ET

anyone else feel like i do?

rex harrington   January 29th, 2009 11:15 pm ET

you are profound

Nanette B.   January 29th, 2009 11:18 pm ET

I am proud of Ted Haggard & his family. Alot of lives have changed & will change because of him coming out & honestly sharing his struggle with his sexual identity There is hope & help for those who are struggling with there identity sexually. Jesus loves you, where you are & for who you are. Homosexuallity is not the unforgivable sin, none the less it sin. In and through Jesus Christ, God will walk with you, love you through the process of healing & deliverance. For those who feel hopeless, know that Jesus is real, He loves you, just where you are and all you have to do is call on him. Thank you Haggard family for representing, My life will not be the same.

Bill Stephens   January 29th, 2009 11:20 pm ET

Larry, I am surprised at you. Where is your discernment? I have dealt with Haggard and Jones and New Life Church. What a total embarrassment before society. Why didn't you jump on him when he said that we all need help. We just have to be forgiving and patient with each other. How many chances has Haggard had to make the right decissions instead of the wrong ones?
Doesn't a pedophile say the same as he is searching for another victim?
I am writing a book which tells the truth about Haggard and will be working with a private investigator who thinks he has found out about some underage sex that Haggard was also involved in.
Thanks for the wonderful "family" show you put on with Haggard.

Bridgette   January 29th, 2009 11:21 pm ET

I hear the Pastor. I believe he is he says.. God's Grace covers all once we admit. I would like to hear him say ( DIRECTLY)that Homosexuality is actually wrong per God's word in addition to his point that it is o.k to go through the process to "work things out". Nothing wrong with RESTRAINT. Restraint is A MUST in the name of RIGHTEOUSNESS. We all have to restrain ourselves daily from other sins – lies, murder, theft etc. We must choose to live by certain standards.. those standards should be per God's word & not man's law! Kudos for facing the music head on!
Bridgette / Jamaica

Kathy Pride   January 29th, 2009 11:29 pm ET

Sorrow is what I would like to see. Humility and a grief that replaces the plastered on almost botox held in place smile that made me squirm the first time I met him two years ago. I was on tv with Ted Haggard in 2006 the day before his story broke. To me, the test of character and faith is how people act in their daily lives and treat others they don't know, all equals in God's eyes. I met someone who just rubbed me the wrong way, especially when I asked him, relating to a Bible Study I was writing at the time( and to be released in July) "What kinds of things burden the women of your congregation the most?" And his answer, "I really have no idea what women want" become more meaningful the next day. I am sorrowed and grieved that he denied the allegations...yes, we all make mistakes, and I have made my share, but sharing in truth and transparency is (I believe) more what Christ calls us to do, rather than try to somehow rationalize or get out of hot water or a bad choice.
I think we have to walk the talk, or else we will just give Gabe Lyons and Dave Kinneman more material for UnChristian Volume II.

Karen   January 29th, 2009 11:42 pm ET

Just wanted to admit how easy it was to paint him as an evil person and how easy it was to believe the media and form an opinion without even hearing the whole story. Believing him a predetor rather than a human.
Hearing him humble himself and honestly talk about his faults and his mistakes makes him so human. Makes me realize that all people can make huge mistakes that can ruin lives and the lives around them.
Thank you Ted for being so honest....

rex harrington   January 29th, 2009 11:46 pm ET

goodnight all

Todd   January 29th, 2009 11:50 pm ET

To the lost, Jesus is looking for you. To the lost and found, not everyone who calls himself a Christian is a Christian. Living a repentant lifestyle, turning from sin, love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control there is no law against these and these will be the traits of a true Christian.


Ryan Simpso   January 29th, 2009 11:55 pm ET

I have been following the Ted Haggard debacle since it started. I feel the man is a fraud. From day 1, homosexual or not, the fact of the matter is, he preached one thing and did another. He is a power hungry man who had too much money and too many followers. Whether he is gay or not, whether he is a drug addict or not, he abused his standing in his local community. His wife is a brainwashed helpless woman who has few options other than to stand by her man or accept the true disgrace of the situation. I pity the children in their marriage, the parishoners in their former church and the men that Mr. Haggard has taken advantage of. As a gay man I am offended. However as a trusting person I am even more offended. He needs to own up to his lies. While he didn't commit a true crime, other than the drugs, he committed to a lie. Lies are what fuel this country and that is probably one of the most disgusting social sins. He should admit the truth so we can all move on. I can't take the guilt of what he put me through for the rest of my life and I really do not want to come forward anymore than I have.

Bret Olson   January 29th, 2009 11:56 pm ET

I am straight but I have friends that are gay and there in no doubt in my mind that they were born that way. They are smart, warm, funny nice, moody, happyu, sad, energietic, tired, motivated, lethargic..well you get the point..... just like me and everyone else. I was raised in a "Christian" home and went to church, Sunday school etc.... Imagine my surprise when years later my parents admitted that neither of them trully believed in Christianity and just raised me that way cause that "was the way it was back then". I have no animosity or anger about and it has spurred many fascinating conversations in the lst few years. I am absolutely amazed and fascinated by religion and the power it has over people even as I seem to have a complete immunity to its allure and spell binding ways. The more I study and read and discuss, the less I can understand how the vast majority of humans can be so intelligent in so many aspects of life but have this unshakeable "faith" in religions that are just overflowing with inconsistencies and complete hypocrocy. Not to mention that they just make no sense what so ever. The only thing I can come up with is that people are afraid of dying and religious belief allows them to hang on to a belief that the "afterlife" will be better than this one on earth. I choose to live my life in a honest, loving caring way. I am not perect and accept that. I just do the best I can to raise my kids to be nice and honest and not to judge people based on what they believe or how they live their life. I am not worried about going to heaven or hell. If there are such places, i don't think admittance will be based upon which book you believed or which religion you believed but rather on the character you displayed, the compassion you showed, the love you shared and things such as that. Is there a God? I hope so, but if there is my guess is that God wont exist in any fashion that us earthlings can imagine. Earth is billions of years old. There are billions of stars and galaxies. Do we really think that all that can be explained by a book of folklore written by a bunch of self educated religious followers a few thousand year ago? Think about it.

rex harrington   January 30th, 2009 12:02 am ET

Dear Brett
Its a shame ur straight, I would marry you! I leave it to you to say what I wanted to say in such a profound way, God bless!!!

jo   January 30th, 2009 12:03 am ET

Marcus Haggard said that he’s into “Economic and Human development” through an organization in India. That means, he works for a missionary whose main goal is proselytizing, i.e converting the poor, innocent, illiterate, and gullible people from an open minded, all encompassing, tolerant religion into a close minded, exclusive and intolerant religion. All this is being done in the garb of ‘humanitarian work’ and as Marcus put it, “Economic and Human development”. The converts are then made to hate their original religion and culture with a vengeance and that’s creating divisions and tensions in the society. This is becoming a big problem in India.

George Hutchins   January 30th, 2009 12:04 am ET

i would like to hear from Mr. Haggard whether or not homosexal from a moral and Biblical perspective is right or wrong. I am not sure what his response might be I know that morally and Biblically homosexullity is immoral and unnatural. Particularly Romans. 1:15-32, but more so, veres 26-32; leviticus 20: 13; 18:22; 1cor: 6:9. All these passages of Scriptures condemn homosexal life style but does not condemn homsexual persons. There is a difference. It is wrong. God loves the homosexual but hates such sinful behavior. That is my position supported by the Scriptures.

rex harrington   January 30th, 2009 12:05 am ET

Everyone, brett could be god as he speaks such a profound truth, I have good freinds who are true christians who love me yet have a belief that there life on earth serves a pupose in the afterlife, we discuss it all the time, life is now, not after, she disagrees but we love each other. God bless u all!

rex harrington   January 30th, 2009 12:06 am ET

You to are profound!

rex harrington   January 30th, 2009 12:07 am ET

You to are profound! But watching the rerun i am going crazy.

Barbara Bennett   January 30th, 2009 12:13 am ET

I have been listening to the Larry King show and then tuned in to hear the Ted & Gail Haggard bio by Alexandra Pelosi on HBO. Larry King and all on CNN reporters give the truth in a kind informative non accusing way. Ted Haggard said it all and we all have to have more forgiveness in the world and help and heal our neighbors. The writings say it all in the Bible that Mr. Haggard spoke. I am happy to hear that he was able return to his home in Colorado with his family. The church and the town should embrace him and forgive him as he has had to learn to forgive himself. Mr. Haggard has the same good thoughts to give out now as he did then that were able to heal. We need him to continue his preaching.

Apostle Rufus/Favour Nwabuoku   January 30th, 2009 12:14 am ET

Dear Larry King,
Ted Haggard must first be honest to himself . He should recognize who is attcking him. Saan or the dev il. Had he recognized who it was that inhabits him, he will know what to do. We haveso many christians who don't beleive the existence of evil spirit . HE IS REAL. He has deceived the whole world. Rev.12:9.ot .That was why we are advised to be on guard, be instant in prayer, guide our hearts. He should be honest to himself. He should repent. Go to Christ and He will forgive him. Then go to higher ministers, such as Cerulo, Avansini, Christian Harfough, Wambach, etc, they will cast out the evil spirit of homosexuality. It is a spirit. See Mark 16:15 – 18. He should not go to so called social scientists. They know nothinbg about evil spirit posession. Only true Men of God can deliver him. Not social scientists. God bless you all. Apostle Rufus Nwabuoku

rex harrington   January 30th, 2009 12:14 am ET


Nick D'Amato   January 30th, 2009 12:17 am ET

I cannot believe that Ted refuses to ackwonledge that he is bisexual. It is OK. So am I. It is very sad that the Bible which at one time justified slavery is still used to oppress homosexuals.

rex harrington   January 30th, 2009 12:19 am ET

who believes ted is gay ?

Faith Martinez   January 30th, 2009 12:21 am ET

What would Ted Haggard say to other pastors who are struggling in some of the same ways, but are limited in who they can talk to?

rex harrington   January 30th, 2009 12:22 am ET

hello?are we still there?

Tom   January 30th, 2009 12:22 am ET

I want to hear Ted admit that he is gay and that he was born that way instead of saying he's a heterosexual with 'issues'.

alexandra from florida   January 30th, 2009 12:22 am ET

I am sorry your family has to thru this. but you know ted when u are not honest with God you have consequences to pay. You are the son of god he still loves you. you will get asecond chance but please do it right this itme think about your family the diseases that u could habe brought home. good luck to you .

David   January 30th, 2009 12:22 am ET

Do beleive that being hosexual is poccession of demonic power? Base on what the biblesay, and of so why didn't get deliverance from it.

Bret Olson   January 30th, 2009 12:24 am ET

For those of you really interested in an interesting book on Christianity I recommend "Constantines Sword". Take your time reading it. No more than one chapter per day. Very involved and lots to think about. To all the Christians I challenge you to read it with an open mind. Most of the time I have found that most religious folks spend all their time trying to reinforce their beliefs rather than really challenging them and seeking what for a truth that resonates in their heart. My spiritual Journey started as one of understanding the Christian beliefs that I was raised with in order to understand all the questions I had that naturally came as I grew into a free thinking independent minded man. What I found was that, the answer of "don't question, just have faith" was not a sufficient answer for me to all the inaccuracies and inconsistencies that I discovered in Christianity based upon logic and also archealogical fact that disproves many of the logistical historical contexts of the bible. Here are some more tibits for thought. If Jesus was not God (or the son of God depending on your flavor of Christianity) does that REALLY take away from his message? Remember Jesus was a Jewish man from the Jewish religion. Anyone ever wonder why none of the Jewish people found him to be God? Remember that the religion of Christianity was formed and organized hundreds of years after he died. this was a time of no cameras, tape recorders, video cameras copy machines etc... only anecdotal stories as told by folks who told more who told more. Hundreds of years later the story was passed down perfectly as it happened right? hmmmmmm Look, most of my friends are Christians and most of them are very adamant that everything in the Bible is the gospel. Does that make them bad poeple? Nope. Good people all of them. I just means that the golf course if free for me and my friends and kids on Sunday mornings. If there is a God I see him in the birds in the trees and the clear blue skies. Check out the book. VERY deep and very involved story. Take it SLOW.

Sarah   January 30th, 2009 12:24 am ET

Now are you a child molester because you're "sexually immoral" or because you're simply immoral? Why does your sexuality and the fact that you're attracted to men carry over to child molestation?

Meghan   January 30th, 2009 12:24 am ET

I don't understand- there is nothing wrong with being gay! The irony is that if Mr. Haggard would just accept himself the way God made him, he wouldn't be masturbating in front of kids. A healthy gay relationship is better (and more moral) than a dysfunctional heterosexual one. When will people STOP fighting who they are. Mr. Haggard feels shame because he is not living a life that is true to himself- its not because he IS gay, it is because he refuses to admit that he is.

What would I like Ted to say?   January 30th, 2009 12:24 am ET

As someone who has come out as a gay woman, who wan't always comfortable with it or proud of it, and who has learned how natural and healthy I am when I am just me, I would love to hear Ted say this:
"I might be a little bit gay"

It would be great if he could honor who he is and respect it. I love the way he talks now about his vague sexuality.... but I wish he could be allowed– to allow himself– to be who he is.

David   January 30th, 2009 12:24 am ET

From Toronto Ontario Canada.

What would you say to young Pastors today to try and stay "clean" from this immortality. What advise would you give? How can we stay strong?

Kelley   January 30th, 2009 12:24 am ET

I would like to hear Ted say that homosexuality is not biblical, it is a sin, and that's the truth – if he is an evangelical. As an evangelical, we do not hate homosexuals, but we do believe that it is against God's law, which is good and loving, and just and, most of all, true. Whether we like it or not. The truth is the truth.
Bless you, Ted, for confessing your sin and allowing Jesus to heal you. You're right that Jesus came for sinners. And no sin is bigger or worse or better to God. Sin is sin.

rex harrington   January 30th, 2009 12:26 am ET

a hetrosexual with homosexual attachments? what? ur gay , yes you were with your wife and now your coming rto terms with it. i have thoughts? u r gay u want a man get over it its not a problem and larry its not a "hump "to get over" he's hiding behind his "chritian" beleifs.

Caeri   January 30th, 2009 12:26 am ET

Why do we have to call homosexuality a struggle, or with complications? I was married once upon a time, going through counseling and in the fundamental church. I understand the feelings Mr. Haggard has I have been there. Why can't human beings just live happily with how they identify sexually without a negative connotation attached?

Frank Randazzo   January 30th, 2009 12:27 am ET

I would like to send a letter of support to Rev. Haggard. Could send me his website?


BornAgain Tim   January 30th, 2009 12:27 am ET

Im proud of you ted for admitting the truth,in the word it says the truth will set you free,you can never conqueor what you dont confront,and It doesnt matter what this world thinks,it only matters what jesus thinks and he is so proud of you.The pain your going through will be other peoples healing,so keep up the truth and dont compromise nothing,God bless

Jeff   January 30th, 2009 12:28 am ET

With all due Respect Mr. Haggard, you are running from who and what u are, in todays world people do not care who and what you are ,just stop lying about it, i think you know sooner or later that u will do it again, and the one person who you will hurt in the long run is YOURSELF, i was a married at one time, and been thru the same things, i left my wife for a man,and have tried to go back,,,just does not work that way

sr   January 30th, 2009 12:30 am ET

sick sick sick it does not matter if someone is gay or not people can"t control who they love this is actually a disgrace to both homo and hetaro sexuals there is something wrong with the world when we allow a sick abuse of authority to become somewhat of a t.v celebrity and to allow and man like this to have a web site is disheartning and people wonder why it is that some people lose belief in the churches

Jack   January 30th, 2009 12:32 am ET

Ted Haggard makes me sick. The comment that he is "heterosexual with complications" is an embarrassment for all of us who have lived an open and respectful life as homosexuals. Ted Haggard has made more mistakes as a gay man than 90% of us have made. I feel sorry for his male victims, his weak wife and his equally closeted consitutents. It's a shame that in 2009 with all the pressing issues facing our country that such a cirucs act would warrant an hour on CNN and a production on HBO.

Tracey   January 30th, 2009 12:32 am ET

To Ted Haggard,

When a person has been truly delivered from a sin, they are eagered to share. I haven't heard you say you have been delivered but only that you have had counciling. Are you or will you fast and pray until this is spirit of homosexuality is broken?

God Bless You.

From Missouri

theguy   January 30th, 2009 12:32 am ET

I am a young christian. I am also homosexual. Can those two definitions go together? I have also struggled with this all my life and have prayed about it constantly. I can't comprehend how I can think otherwise. I just hope that I wouldn't do the same in my future. I know Ted says all is better now but deep down, does he still have desires for men?.....It's a hard topic.

Steve   January 30th, 2009 12:33 am ET

I want to hear Ted Haggard say the homosexual lifestyle is sin and must be repented of in order to be in right standing with God.

terrell   January 30th, 2009 12:33 am ET

i want 2 know do he thing he is a man? and if he do it's something worng with him. and do his kids look at him in a nother way? way would is wife stay with him? do she not have pride?

Alex, Sarasota Fl.   January 30th, 2009 12:39 am ET

Ted, do you still feel respected after this?

john   January 30th, 2009 12:39 am ET

ISLAM is the solution

Elder Kenneth Collins, Sr   January 30th, 2009 12:39 am ET

Don't you think that this is a good time for you to renounce all the vicious attacks that you and others of the evangelical Christian groups have expressed on the "confused" ones out there? The same God that is with you is with them, right?

Alex, Sarasota Fl.   January 30th, 2009 12:42 am ET

Do you still have physical attractions towards men?

Jean Croxton   January 30th, 2009 12:43 am ET

I think you have seriously misjudged the moment. Is this the time to have indepth conversations with Haggard when your audience has many deeper concerns. Be a journalist that does the hard job of helping people understand the complexities of the economic/political convolutions, or if you think the people need a break from those extremely serious issues, then cover a story that gives hope and shows strength.

Andree Moriarty   January 30th, 2009 12:43 am ET

I think he's gay and is just now going to hide behind it with his religion. The way he came out is just not the way he anticipated and now he's trying to front a better side for the sake of his church.

Sonia   January 30th, 2009 12:44 am ET

In regards to Haggard; it is understood that he was hypocrite in the preaching actions he himself wasn’t compelling to. However, WE ARE ALL SINNERS, WE ARE ALL INPERFECT.

Haggard is no God, and judgment will come but not from anyone in this earth and we should just let him be.

He has been justly vanished from ministry and worst exiled by the church (and the state of CO), which is no different than what Haggard did to the church.

We are not just "punishing" Haggard by all the judgments but WE are all hurting his family, his kids, who are all innocent to all this.

Haggard is Human. We all have faults. One wishes for a second chance when one make mistakes, let him have his!

John Smith   January 30th, 2009 12:44 am ET

I think Tim Haggard is a joke. I think he is mentally unstable and far off from any reality in life. I am a out 20 year old gay male and I am living my life happily. As a gay man I do not understand and get quite angry when listening to this man speak. He is on national television giving millions of people the complete wrong idea about sexuality. Therapy can not "fix" your homosexual thoughts. I feel bad for men like him who have gone so far in life lying about there true self and bringing with them a wife who has to suffer because of it. This man is a joke and a lying. Put religion aside this man is not only a disgrace to the church but also to the gay and heterosexual community.

G R Knight   January 30th, 2009 12:44 am ET

"What Do I want Ted Haggard say?"

How about saying, "You are a self loathing Homoexual who has used Christianity, the Church, and a psuedo heteosexual life to cover up their self implied deviate sexual behavior.

How about faciing the TRUTH about yourself and just accept that YOU ARE GAY! Stop making excuses for who you are, or blaming DEMONS and TEMPTATIONS for your actions. Had you just been able to accept yourself as God made you, GAY, you would have never ended up in this drama called your life shattering you innocent family and letting down thousands of your parishers of your church.

May you find peace with who you are, and may God guide on your road to self acceptance.

Vanessa Ortiz   January 30th, 2009 12:44 am ET

I want him to say hes gay! Because he is! just come out already

ted   January 30th, 2009 12:45 am ET

His wife did the best for her family for forgiving him.

Jane   January 30th, 2009 12:46 am ET

I want to hear Ted tell the world that Homosexuality in all of it"s forms, Homosexual, Bisexual, Pansexual, Tri Sexual, ECT...Is not wrong. And that if he is true to his faith then he knows that Jesus dies for our sins, non human is with out sin. Homosexuality is human nature, before the Christian Church was created there was "pagan religions"-pagan is a generic word-many faiths that fallowed of gods and goddess, sex was as taboo as it is now..The sexual nature of Humans is primal, it is a part of who we are, through out the ages, not through faith but it is how we evolved as Humans! Then Christians and other religions forced their faith upon others...The Church A. Voted On What Books Would Be Included In The Bible B. The Church Re-Branded Pagan Holiday Now Into A Celebration Of Jesus.. No human should kill or hate a fellow human do to religion...AND IT HAS HAPPENED THROUGH OUT THE AGES!

Kelley   January 30th, 2009 12:46 am ET

By-the-way, Brett,

Why WOULDN'T God choose to speak to His people through 1 book, with 1 truth, and 1 savior? How simple God makes it for us. He gave us inspired truth that stays true to its form throughout its pages. And all He asks for from us is that we acknowledge Him, His sacrifice for our disobedience – which was necessary to atone us to a just and holy God, our confession that His will and ways are better than ours, and turning away from our sin (or disobedience if you prefer). Add to that the gift of the Holy Spirit to help us in our life-long sanctification and the best example of love ever written...It's no wonder that the world's best minds – C.S. Lewis, Tolkien, etc. were/are Christians. It just makes sense. Truth is truth. There ARE absolutes. The world is NOT grey. Love is not simply warm and fuzzy...

Truth without love is brutality, but love without truth is hypocrisy.

In His Love,

Alza   January 30th, 2009 12:47 am ET

I feel like he is just going in circles...why can't he just give a straight answer?

Diane   January 30th, 2009 12:47 am ET

How does Ted feel about the depth of grief he has caused his congregants (even though many have forgiven him)? He broke their trust and caused hurt. What would he say to them now?

Jay   January 30th, 2009 12:47 am ET

PLEASE look at eastern religions for peace
Hindu & Buddhism

Arunabh Das   January 30th, 2009 12:48 am ET

Is it just me or does Ted Haggard look a lot like Stifler from American Pie?

Ernest   January 30th, 2009 12:48 am ET

The Bible states that we are to forgive, and i have no problem with forgiving him.

victor   January 30th, 2009 12:48 am ET

i want to hear from Ted Haggard, that all his mess is a consecuence of a law that Jesus ended. Galathians 2: 21: is not about our works , actually if we try to justify on our works we are so lost.
God is Good.please preache the good news, the rest on God

Tara   January 30th, 2009 12:49 am ET

I wish he would say that he as gay. He can go on in circles forever, but lying is just as much of a sin as homosexuality in Gods eyes, but if he were to just come out and say that he is gay, he wouldnt have to lie anymore!

Claudia Montfort   January 30th, 2009 12:49 am ET

God Bless your family Mr. Mrs. Ted & Gayle Haggard. God has revealed all that needed to be said from Mr.Haggard. The only thing left to say is that he is humaan and he has sinned. Mr. & Mrs Haggard be blessed.

Arunabh Das   January 30th, 2009 12:49 am ET

Marcus Haggard is a liar.

jay   January 30th, 2009 12:49 am ET

I want Haggard to say that there is nothing wrong with being gay. That he knows first hand the struggles gays go through when Christians and society condemn them for being who they are. The same struggles he is going through and will go through until he frees himself to be who he is a Gay man.

Denise   January 30th, 2009 12:49 am ET

Do you see yourself doing anything to promote Recovery from this compulsion such as joining forces with pastors or other Christians who have this illness. The Bible study called Walking Free has saved my husband from a life of utter destruction and is restoring our marriage.

NWilliams   January 30th, 2009 12:49 am ET

I would love to hear Ted openly speak about the fact that homosexual sex is a sin, instead of talking around it. Even his wife is acting out of fear, saying that we are all sinners, but in reality, In Christ, we are the righteousness of God , and He no longer views us as sinners. She needs to stop with that.

marie kirman   January 30th, 2009 12:49 am ET

There is nothing wrong with being gay. Mr. Haggard has a problem admitting it due to his religion and his righteous right views. He would do much better getting counseling to correct his upbringing.

Rick from Scottsdale, AZ   January 30th, 2009 12:50 am ET

I caught the HBO special tonight and squirmed in my seat. I truly felt bad for Mr. Haggert and wish him the best in his future pursuits. When this first happened, I thought, another Christian hypocrite. Now I'd just like to hear him say, look, some people are straight and some people are gay, and some people are both or go back and forth. It's no big deal, and that's just the way it is. It's that way in the animal kingdom and it's that way in humanity. The world needs to lighten up and evangelican teachings just make things worse and worse with their intolerance, bigotry and phony "love the sinner and hate the sin" philosophy. Do you think the New Life Church loved this "sinner"? I think not...

Rick   January 30th, 2009 12:51 am ET

As a now open gay man (previous minister)...I can relate to you and support you for coming out and being honest with yourself. If you let the Bible direct you...wether you decide to accept your homosexuality or opt to continue in a heterosexual relationship...its between you and god.

Paros   January 30th, 2009 12:52 am ET

Never heard of Haggard before this scandal. Expected to hear and see hypocrisay dripping from his pores but I am surprised by what I see.

I would love to see the focus include the horrors of child sexual abuse as he suffered. As a widowed mother of a 2nd grade boy I worry each and every day that some male some where will trick my little boy into some horrid abuse, my little boy longing for the attention of a kind man. When I read on the CNN ticker that Haggard was sexually molested in 2nd grade, it hit home hard for me.

Danielle   January 30th, 2009 12:52 am ET

We want you to admit that for decades you lied to your family and followers and because your lover uncovered your lies, you are now trying to use the name of Jesus as of your savior and that you are now forgiven. Who gave you the right to think that? Did you ever think of your children?

VINCENT BRISNO   January 30th, 2009 12:52 am ET


Ryan   January 30th, 2009 12:53 am ET

I'd love to hear Ted say he will focus on a reformed ministry that teaches acceptance of homosexuality. The gay community needs a well-known Christian leader, such as Ted, to preach tolerance of ALL God's children. What better time to take that path?

Eugene Boakye   January 30th, 2009 12:54 am ET

Ted, will explain what you mean when you say, you still have some taughts. Why do you need a therapist to help you sort through this crisis? Do you trust the therapist more than you do the Bible?

Stephanie   January 30th, 2009 12:54 am ET

What I want to hear is irrelevant. What I have heard is that he is open and honest, and has offered a real account of his encounter with God's pursuing grace. I wanted to hate everything he was about to say, but I was arrested by his candor and the possibility that he is being transformed into a gracious man and better father. Thank God he hasn't claimed to be "fixed."

tyre n atlanta   January 30th, 2009 12:55 am ET

why cant he just answer the question with a stright answer that just shows he is not being completely honest and why is larry allowing him to do that we want to here him answer with a yes or no is he gay bi or stright

Arunabh Das   January 30th, 2009 12:56 am ET

Ted Haggard and Blagojevich and Rush Limbaugh must be beheaded asap.

Ken   January 30th, 2009 12:56 am ET

Your apology is enough Ted. As a fellow brother in Christ who has struggled with the same thing you have struggled with, all I have to say is keep up the good fight IN Christ Jesus who strengthens US. I know you feel like you owe the world a apology but the only person you have to answer to in the end is God. You have already confessed to him so that is enough.

Luis Lodrigueza   January 30th, 2009 12:56 am ET

I salute both Ted and Gayle Haggard for being very honest and truthful. Not every human being has the capacity to face up to the truth; 99% of human beings seem to be so engrossed with ego that the real "Spirit" does not come through.

Ted and Gayle are simply following spiritual guidance and they can never go wrong!

If only all humans did what they (Ted and Gayle) are currently doing, then perhaps we might get to a renewal phase in the history of mankind and a return to true spirituality–not religion, as we know it!

Lady   January 30th, 2009 12:56 am ET

I hope people are compassionate enough to forgive him. But I want to know if his wife has been tested for STD's and if she is using contraceptives? Please don't be naive.

Lawrence   January 30th, 2009 12:57 am ET

It is great that some of these men of God fall from grace to grass because people think that we are invincible and perfect. It says in the bible, "for all have sin and fall short of the glory of God." Who am i to judge my fellow man if he falls. This would teach so many men of God that we leave by the grace and mercy of God. We should learn to forgive other as we expect God to forgive us. For none is righteous, not even one. I forgive you Ted, and may God have mercy on you.

Mike from California   January 30th, 2009 12:57 am ET

where was president Obama's mother at the inauguration ?

Derek Sissel   January 30th, 2009 12:58 am ET

Would you say that there was no slighting of situations that were brought to you concerning other ministers who attempted to violate people in their ministry.

LeAnne   January 30th, 2009 12:58 am ET

We are all sinners. We are also the ones who put "degrees" on sin. God sees our sins. Christ died to forgive us when when trust in him for our salvation.
For the Haggard family–I lost my youngest son, age 35, this past July. I can tell you, as a mom, nothing in his life would have ever caused me to stop loving him. That's how I believe God loves each of us....Thank you.

Nick Molinski   January 30th, 2009 12:58 am ET

Since you have already broken your faith will you create a separate Catholic order to suit your needs?

Lisa   January 30th, 2009 12:59 am ET

Gail, a woman after my own heart! I only can pray that if faced with such pain, I would forgive, and keep her family togrther.

Ted, thank you for your statement "seperation& lack of communication will not bring healing".

I think we are not use to the total transparency that we are seeing with the Haggard's. Why is this so hard for people to understand? , this is the Haggard's journey.

Michael, NC   January 30th, 2009 1:00 am ET

Ted needs the thoughts and prayers of the a gay man, I know what it is like to be condemned daily, and to lose friends and support, though not in the scale he lost them. I still have respect for him and am extremely proud that he took that chair tonight and admitted his wrong doing and is headed in the right direction for himself and his family. I wish him luck, and am praying for him.

Brian in Chicago   January 30th, 2009 1:00 am ET

The "complications", "flaws", "sins", "disgrace", "wound", "dark thoughts", "sexual immorality" that Haggard, his wife and constituents bray about is NOT the fact that Haggard is gay, bisexual (which he IS) , but that they continue to condemn to hell people because of their sexual orientation and use the bible to do it! If they were real Christians, compassion, sensitivity would be the guiding force to accept that God creates all life and sexual orientations and that has nothing to do with spirituality, goodness, love, and honesty!
( by the way, Jesus NEVER said that "being homosexual is a sin".)
The SIN is the Haggards and their followers who are in Ted's own words, " a mess..a disaster!". You're all more than that; you're warped, sick, in denial and just plain evil. Embrace what Jesus really taught (you self righteous "Christians")...... Live and let live!

kbcanadian   January 30th, 2009 1:01 am ET

what is the difference between a evangelist preacher abusing an 'adult' as opposed to the Catholic priests long history of abuse? having been involved in the emotionally charged evangelical experience...only to have been abused by these evangelists!! A true Christian should be humbled by his faults, his laughing into the camera about having to go to an interview for a job, like the rest of us...was just so demeaning considering how much money he and his family has drained from millions of people who probably couldnt afford supporting him in the first place
Grrr. I dont care if he is gay or not – i just wish he wasnt making any more money on his sad 'story'.

Petra Schlosser   January 30th, 2009 1:02 am ET

Pathetic – that is the word
Stop giving this "Christian" family the opportunity to perpetuate ignorance in regards to human sexuality – Homesexuality is NOT a SIN and Mr. Haggard could do himself a favor and the rest of us by simply living his life with integrity as a homosexual man which is exactly what he is.

james   January 30th, 2009 1:05 am ET

i was married for 17 yrs have 3 kids, and gay. my wife went our own way and i have 2 of the 3 kids and now remarried to a guy, who was married for 11 yrs with 2 kids, and now so very happy, I know what ted is going through fighting the feelings, in the end the feeling will win out that is the way god made you. so be happy with yourself and your kids and family and every one around you will be too.

Fernando Doldan   January 30th, 2009 1:06 am ET

I'd like to hear him say that the proceeds from his HBO documentary will be donated to charity. And I'd like to hear him say that he is truly sorry rather than characterizing having sex with a male prostitute, buying drugs, and trying to seduce a church volunteer while being married as a "mistake".

Arunabh Das   January 30th, 2009 1:07 am ET

I guess it's fitting for a third-world communist country like America to have gay ministers.

Arunabh Das   January 30th, 2009 1:10 am ET

I wonder if Ted Haggard is a paedophilic homosexual like Michael Jackson?

Eric Morris   January 30th, 2009 1:12 am ET

The responses from each member of the Haggard family seems so phony and contrived. The only thing they want is to return to the lavish lifestyle they were accustomed to at the helm of a megachurch. Haggard is using the media to paint himself as a victim. He is a charlatan and a predator.

Jim   January 30th, 2009 1:12 am ET

Your question posed after the interview with the Haggards: "Do you care if someone is gay?" suggests, and maybe reveals your ignorance. Would you think to ask "Do you care if someone is straight?" or "Do you care if someone is white?" or "Do you care if someone is Italian?" It perpetuates an antique concept. Shame on you, Larry. You're in a somewhat powerful position. Get educated.

Arunabh Das   January 30th, 2009 1:14 am ET

Ted Haggard is an opportunist who is using his homosexuality to drive traffic to his website.

Arunabh Das   January 30th, 2009 1:15 am ET

And Larry King is an opportunist who is using Ted Haggard to drive traffic to his blog.

Kelley   January 30th, 2009 1:16 am ET

Dear Brian in Chicago,

If you are going to speak against God's word, please read it first.

Here are some references where God (a part of whom is Jesus Christ) condemns homosexuality as a sin. We Christians are not being unloving by calling sin sin. We are all guilty of sin and God places no sin above or below another. His ways are for our good. Think about it... Shouldn't all children have both biological parents if possible?...

Here are some references for you:

I Corinthians 6:9, 1 Timothy 1:10

His Servant and Yours,

Arunabh Das   January 30th, 2009 1:17 am ET

How can homosexuality be a sin? Have you ever watched Will and Grace?

Arunabh Das   January 30th, 2009 1:18 am ET

All Christians are hypocrites. People just go to church so they can pretend that they're not having sex with their neighbor's wives.

hware   January 30th, 2009 1:18 am ET

I am not perfect. I know no one who's perfect. And, I believe it's
been said: He without sin, let him cast the first stone.

Caleb   January 30th, 2009 1:21 am ET


My question to Ted is: being in a position of leadership withing the Christian church and the Body of Christ, how do you reconcile being a sinner / follower of Jesus while others are expecting you to BE Jesus?

And, while the Bible declares that those in leadership are held to higher standards and will be judged differently, do you feel some of the reactions that you've received from all parties are justified?

JULIA E.   January 30th, 2009 1:21 am ET

Dear Ted. You are sexually attracted to men. Did it ever occur to you that what you consider to be your "problem" is simply the way God made you? Did you ever consider that revelations in The Bible, took into account, the limited human condition of humanity at the particular time it was given, and that God's revelation given today, would have a different attitude toward homosexuality? Instead of berating yourself, I hope that you will come to love and accept yourself AS YOU ARE. There are so many men like you who need your help. God made you different so that you could be of service in this way. Accept your gift and move on. With Love. Julia.

Arunabh Das   January 30th, 2009 1:22 am ET

Blagojevich is the real sinner.

Arunabh Das   January 30th, 2009 1:24 am ET

You are right Julia. Ted should just have sex with as many men from his church as possible and then after he has finished "sinning", he can accept Jesus Christ into his heart and go to heaven. That's why Christianity rocks!!

Arunabh Das   January 30th, 2009 1:27 am ET

Ted Haggard must show that he is not homosexual by having sex with his wife on television.

Sharon   January 30th, 2009 1:29 am ET

I want Ted to tell us if he believes that a homosexual can be a sincere Christian, and if they live and open gay lifestyle, will they go to heaven?

Jim   January 30th, 2009 1:29 am ET

Hatred or Ignorance. I'm sometimes reminded that some people live their lives based on one or the other. Some of the comments posted by some about Ted Haggard have reminded me of that. Sad for those posters.

Alma   January 30th, 2009 1:31 am ET

I find Mr. Haggard sickening in his quest to be restored to the limelight. Larry should have some gay and lesbian people on his show who have suffered discrimination and hatred and denial of the right to marry brought about by the hate filled teachings/beliefs of Mr. Haggard and those like him.It must feel pretty bad to be called immoral and a sinner for just being the way you were born. Mr. Haggard is a self-serving liar, a cheat , a self-centered egomaniac, and a hypocrite who would never have revealed the truth about himself if he had not been outed. I don't care about his struggles. Looks like he is doing very well for himself. What about all the innocent gay and lesbian people he has hurt? Do we honestly care about them.? Larry should have gotten a little more confrontive with Mr. Haggard and his faithful wife and son on the hurt he has caused others. From a straight American who believes in equality for all.

Dennis   January 30th, 2009 1:34 am ET

It is sad to me that Americans, especially as we see here in this blog don't realize that the BIG problem is not homosexuality or infidelity or even hyprocrisy.

The problem is Scriptures. The convoluted attempts to understand sexuality through the lines of ancient words written by anonymous authors is ridiculous.

I find this couple, this family, sort of compelling in their love for each other and their loyalty. On the other hand, there is a time, Psalms might have said, for loyalty and there is a time for rebellion.

That he is attempting to quit his sexual inclinations as if he were quitting cigarettes is abhorrent to the human condition.


Take away their addiction to religion, and I would find their situation compelling and sympathetic. Take away religion, and they do not have to struggle with his homosexuality or bi-sexuality. Take away religion, and you see a warm family trying to keep love alive and accepting the uniqueness of every human in terms of sexual needs and desires.

Jim   January 30th, 2009 1:39 am ET

Kelley: you will do well to get educated, and if you claim ownership as a Christian, it's a good idea to live like one. Quoting that which you "think" you understand (but don't necessarily) is certainly not enough.

Arunabh Das   January 30th, 2009 1:40 am ET

Soon all Americans will be jobless and having sex with their gay pastors after sniffing meth for $10.

S Wells   January 30th, 2009 1:41 am ET

I believe Ted Haggard has one of the worst possible sicknesses – self-repression...and he should be asking God to forgive him for this. I don't understand why he should seek forgiveness for being gay (which is likely given that it started in high school) can being gay be a sin. Does God make mistakes? Most people are born gay – talk to anyone who is gay and you will discover this. His behavior has taught me a lot – especially about reaction formation. This is when someone has a certain way of thinking that they are trying to repress so it comes out in this extreme opposite form. I would say be careful of any fundamentalist pastor, priest, minister, rabbi, cleric who claims that homosexuality or any other human behavior is a sin in such a dramatic way....makes me wonder what is going on behind the pulpit after hours. It also reminds me of the fluidity of sexuality for most people – I recall reading that almost 60% of people put themselves somewhere in the middle of the spectrum when asked if they are homosexual or heterosexual or have engaged in any behaviors that might be considered bi. I actually know quite a few people who are gay and live fairly happily as a married heterosexual couple -requires a tremendously accepting spouse, though. His rampant sex life with his wife (sorry he shared it first) could also be a reaction formation – trying to prove his heterosexuality. I like that they raised the issue of not putting him in a box, sexuality is really not a category. If you are still reading this, here is the's not really Ted Haggard and his wife who have created this sickness – it's our society. Why are people so scared of sex or need to ask forgiveness for its expression?

APO   January 30th, 2009 1:51 am ET

Kelley – stop using your biblical one liners to explain your ignorance away. You need to do more than just read the bible – perhaps start looking at some historical context behind your one liner passages...

Preach on like your righteous self feels you should.. But know this – all you are in my eyes are the deliverer of hate.

I've come to terms with the fact that people like you will never understand – for you choose not to think for yourself – instead you choose to use your one liners and base your faith on your narrrow belief system. Thank GOD – yes GOD – That when it comes to LGBT issues and their need for civil rights – Culture – the world around, is now leading the way and leaving religion and it's dogma at it's wake

John   January 30th, 2009 1:56 am ET

He is still way off base. No wonder he's so conflicted and off base if he looks to scriptiure that condemns his natural feelings.

I feel sorry for him and his family more than anything. He's constainted by outdated beliefs. He, his family and the word would be in a much better place if could just accept the obvious.

sue   January 30th, 2009 1:56 am ET

Ted mentioned that he was sexually molested at six by a male friend of his father's. I'm no psychiatrist, but it seems apparent to me that his "identity" crisis stems from this abuse, and I'm just perplexed as to why this connection hasn't been discussed by Ted? Many times abuse victims don't manifest the behavioral effects until years later, as in this case. I believe Ted is a heterosexual who was sexually molested, and thus, was emotionally damaged which led to this "confusion". But, God can fully restore him back to the creation he was intended to be.

brenda dickey   January 30th, 2009 1:56 am ET

Number one, don't put all of your eggs in one basket, in other words, don't put all of your faith in one man. Ted Haggard is just a man, he puts his pants on the same way we do. We should all have enough insight to use our God given brains in this world to have a personal relationship with God anyway. We shouldn't leave it all up to a Preacher to get us there, after all. All of us have dark places, we as people aren't perfect and we never will be, that is just the facts. I do believe in God, but sometimes I believe the scriptures are taken so many different ways that it is hard for people to comprehend it all. Did you ever think that the reason God was and is so against homosexuality is because we were put on this earth to Procreate? (kinda hard to do with man on man or woman on woman) By the way, why aren't lesbians mentioned as much as Gay men?), just curious.That is why we were created you know, so we can populate the earth.. It is ashame that we have to be so closed minded about sexuality in this world. It is a natural process, how we use it is up to us. I feel Ted Haggard and his family will get through all of this, Thank God for Family, you are only given one in this world and God gave him the best.

chizzles   January 30th, 2009 2:02 am ET

i'd like to know why mr. haggard refers to his thoughts of homosexuality as dark thoughts? i'd like to know why, when asked, what would they do if one of their children told them they were gay that they are welcome to talk and process those thoughts? y wouldn't they just accept their children and love them as is. it seems to me that the haggards won't say that there is nothing wrong with being homosexual. i respect the haggards for speaking publicly about their situation. i could care less whether or not he's homo/heterosexual but it bothers me that the language that they have used in their interviews has been a bit evasive and that can damaging to others who may be dealing with the feelings and questions of their sexuality. to say his thoughts or feelings of wanting to be with men are "dark thoughts" or that he is heterosexual w "issues" i believe is troubling and will continue to keep others from being honest about what they are going through and who they might be as human beings.

Earnest Texas   January 30th, 2009 2:02 am ET

The best way to deal with a tragic and hurtful past, is to ask God for a short memory.

megan from CA   January 30th, 2009 2:03 am ET

I was born and raised into christian religious fanaticism. I can smell a hypocrite a mile away. Ted is not only a hypocrite but a liar & self-rightous egotistical self centered "MAN". His wife & children are brainwashed-I know because they tried to do it to me. He's in this for personal gain-how much money is he making off of this & where is it going???

APO   January 30th, 2009 2:04 am ET

I wanted to acknowledge (regarding my statement above) that while not all religions attack LGBT people (though most do), they are not leading and are very weak when it comes to supporting LGBT civil rights. Wheres' the love? I don't see it – and with people like "Kelley" I don't expect it...

suejo   January 30th, 2009 2:24 am ET

The reason why Ted doesn't say that homosexuality is ok is because he doesn't believe it is ok...he still believes what the Word of God says about sexual sin.....whether it be homosexuality, fornication, adultery...the Bible clearly states that these are SIN. PERIOD. So, not only was Ted guilty of homosexual acts, but also of adultery, as he is a married man. So, should he admit that cheating on his wife was wrong, but then say the homosexual act was ok? He was raped at six years of age by a man....can anyone honestly say that this did not affect him at all, and that this is so obviously the reason for his "homosexual" attachments? Sex between any two people is also a connection of the spirit, and Ted had a homosexual experience which resulted in this homosexual attachment to his spirit, which wasn't manifested until he was in high school. He needs counseling to deal with the abuse issue, which will in turn help him understand where these "compulsions" came from HE WAS NOT BORN GAY. God doesn't create homosexuals, and then condemn them. Feeling same sex attraction isn't the sin, acting on the compulsion a drug addict, or alcoholic, or any other compulsion that drives people. Ted Haggard said he is much more sympathetic to the struggles of homosexuality, but he did not say it was ok, because the Bible CLEARLY states that it is an "abomination", which means an unnatural and yes, sinful act. Sorry, I didn't make the rules. God hates all sin, but loves all sinners. But we must admit our sin before we can be forgiven of it. Living an active homosexual, or heterosexual sexual lifestyle, outside the confines of marriage between a man and a woman is a sin according to the Bible. If you don't believe it, that's your perogative, but it's also the perogative of those who do believe the Bible to do so without so much hateful criticism from the gay community. Where is your tolerance of other's viewpoints? "All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God". ALL. Me, you, Ted Haggard. Ted is admitting his sins, and I respect him for that. May God continue to restore him and his family and use his experience to help set others with the same struggles free.

Barbara Novey   January 30th, 2009 2:42 am ET

Ted Haggard is trying to save face. He is a Homosexual who is trying to remain in the closet. He won't admit it because he is protecting his family and the Church he created. Preachers of these Mega Churches turn out to be HUGE hypocrites. Haggard has brainwashed his family and his congregation.

Ted built some strip mall church and preached against homosexuality and yet he went and picked up guys and did drugs (don't believe that he didn't snort / inhale). True hypocrite. Still keeping up an act. He just can't seem to tell his wife and kids. Maybe he will be able to keep up his act until his death bed.

Ted created New Life to make money. He says he has nothing. This would not bother a real man of God.

Dear Ted's Family: Your husband / Dad is Gay and he just can't bring himself to tell you. If he admitted it you might realize that the New Life Church he created might be seen as the money making organization that Ted created. Ted your still trying to hang on to a Church that you created for your own profit. You continue to lie in an attempt to cover up your real life.

Margaret Mary Price   January 30th, 2009 2:42 am ET

I'd like to hear him express awareness of and contrition for the fact that his primary damage besides the fact that he violated his marital and clerical vows and "had sex outside his marriage and that was "immoral" To express awareness that one of the serious issues here is that sexual contact between a pastor and someone in his church, even a volunteer is one in which there is a fiduciary trust. As a person of the cloth, there is a serious imbalance of power. The church volunteer was not a peer. Just like a therapist should not have sex with a client, a pastor should not have sex with someone whom he is acting as a pastor. This is not "an affair" and to name it so minimizes the fact that is is clergy abuse. There is no such thing as true consent when that is the relationship. Most churches at least recognize this – more more needs to be done. As an adult victim of clergy sexual exploitation I feel the word needs to get out that this was a violation of a sacred trust and that the potential harm inherent in crossing these boundaries is tantamount to spiritual and pscyhological and sexual abuse. It needs to be named. We get too caught up in the "juicy" aspect of gossip when we label it an affair. It can do lifelong damage to the victim

Scooter   January 30th, 2009 2:49 am ET

This may be a little late but seriously?? Ted haggard confessing his heterosexuality? Give me a break!!! If these HYPOCRITES would give it up already and fight for WHO they are instead of what they THINK people want to hear, I truly believe our World would be a much happier place.

Seymour Butts   January 30th, 2009 3:15 am ET

Once again the boob tube and Larry (is there a difference?) miss the boat. This was for ratings and titillation, nothing more. The topics of childhood abuse and/or homosexuality and the church were not discussed intelligently. I saw a banner that said when he was in 2nd grade, Haggard "had sex" with an adult male. Are you kidding me? How could Larry King not mention this? First of all, 7-year-olds don't have sex, they are raped. And did it not occur to King to ask Haggard if he or one of his therapists considered the possibility that his homosexual compulsions and destructive behavior are a reenactment of this trauma? It's a a common enough occurrence when trauma occurs at such a young age. And shame on CNN for that banner - the wording was terribly misleading. No one learned a thing from this show. And Haggard: by making media appearances, lurid confessions, quoting scripture and doing his therapy in front of millions, he's on the fast track to completely cracking up. Start your journey of healing on Oprah, that's really going to help you! I feel sorry for this man's kids – the younger ones, that is.

sara   January 30th, 2009 3:49 am ET

I want to hear him apologize for what he did, and not be sorry about people finding out. Also I would like to hear why the wife is still with him, because honestly she sounds like she is brainwashed! And I seriosly want him to answer the question why he thinks this kind of thing has been happening in religion since its beginning.

Barbara   January 30th, 2009 3:54 am ET

I think he has said everything that he needs to He is truly repentive
and while watching show i too believe everyone has a black side
we are all guilty of something and we as christians need to be able to walk in love when a person falls and lift that person up in prayer and just be there for that person not shun them. That is what i see inchurches I love ya brother or sister but let something happen you WILL BE TREATED LIKE AN OUTCAST SHAME ON US!

sophie   January 30th, 2009 3:58 am ET

We all have comppulsions; some of us have enough personal ethics to not act on them. Gay is Gay. His wife is an idiot to think that therapy is going to "cure" him. Gay is Gay. Move on and leave while she still can. The religion is a distraction. I don't buy his BS. Until he comes clean, really clean, it's all smoke and mirrors. He's a gay man.
This is not God's will. It's Haggard's will. How cares about this loser.
He's a liar and a loser.

ed ,vancouver canada   January 30th, 2009 4:36 am ET

Noah loaded the ark with all types of animals,all gay.
And it rained for forty days and forty nights.
After the rain the animals were free to roam the earth.
Since no species could reproduce itself,all animals including mankind perished or so it seemed.
In haste though,he forgot a couple.
Adam and Eve managed to get to a mountain,and preserved mankind.
They thanked god that sometimes being forgotten is a good thing.

ed ,vancouver canada   January 30th, 2009 5:20 am ET

And god's son said for whomever shall believe in me shall be the chosen ones.

And another god's son said the other son is a liar,when the entire world is ruled by my belief,i shall return and you will have a better life next time.If there are other believers,they are evil and you must kill them.
You must destroy them before they destroy you.Anyone but one of us is the infidel,the devil.Unfortunately I can not help because I must lead you.Not to worry,it's for a good cause.

And another of god's sons said wake in the dawn and just be glad you are alive and do the best that you can for all , although no one is without sin,just do the best you can. I and my father are watching and will not let you fail.Accept that I am the son and i died to forgive your sins.You will never go hungry,give without expectation from the heart and you will recieve ten fold. You will never perish,and will have everlasting life .Believe in me ,for i am the one.There will come a time when the world will be in peril and I will be the glasses for the blind to see.
You can not see the gravity holding you to the earth,but feel it's effect.
You can not see the heat from the sun but feel it's effect.
You can not see me,but I will answer your prayers and you will see the effect.
For I am the one.

Michael Osterman   January 30th, 2009 5:31 am ET

I would like to know what word of advice Ted would have for homophobic evangelical ministers who continue to spread hate and misinformation.

Berry   January 30th, 2009 5:31 am ET

ted is talking a lot about the pain, damage, shame he has to deal with now.
what about his surroundings, not only his family or his victims, but his former congregation, his friends, neighbours and collegues?

ted has to deal with this personal desaster, as he is the only one responsible for it.
has he any thought and compassion left for everyone else out there whom he deeply disappointed? they have to live on with his actions too.

udo   January 30th, 2009 5:39 am ET

ted, you dont need anything. you've humbled yourself enough and God is aware of your humility. I am highly encouraged. God's given u a another chance, don't blow it again. let him who has no sin be the first to cast a stone

ifechi mafiana   January 30th, 2009 5:52 am ET

Having been a gay guy which you preached against how do you feel telling people not to do the wrong thing?

Will from Australia   January 30th, 2009 5:55 am ET

Ted Haggard stills sits there as though he has not destroyed the lives of many of his followers as well as the people he violated. There is a fundamental problem with people like him being in position where they can influence others decisions.

How can any body support his recovery. Jesus is not a person, stop hiding behind religion you are lying to others and yourself.

P.S. Why is no one addressing the fact that religion is not an excuse to do/not do something or hide behind the truth???

DICK PENSIONEER ( seoul korea)   January 30th, 2009 5:56 am ET

The church is suppose to be a clinic for real patients who truly need emergency care or some form of cure , Pastor Ted needs some care now , i hope the church will rise to this challenge , this is not only about Pastor Ted but the church as a whole.

Robert F., Paris, France   January 30th, 2009 5:59 am ET

The search for redemption (on public tv no less! ) does nothing but add to the puritanical, evangelical stigma that is placed on being bisexuality or heaven forbid, homosexuality. It smacks of self hating hypocrisy and smugness. They are all living a lie to fit into the picture perfect american family.

Joe Barrett   January 30th, 2009 6:01 am ET

Ted mentions that the world is a mess, full of judgement and highmindedness etc. that he is a mess himself. Is it not his kind, bible thumping judgers who are responsible for that?

His advice to the suffering still seems to be God and the bible. He even advises a problemed phone-in to trust in god and read the scripture. Ten seconds later he tells us he needs a therapist himself to work it all out.

How can this guy still have the neck to advise poor smucks who phone in?

It seems to me that Gale is the real hero.

Chika Valentine   January 30th, 2009 6:15 am ET

My Name is Chika Valentine and am 28yrs Black Nigerian Gay though is not yet legalise here in Nigeria but i pray serious in years and time to come that Gay and other sexual Orientation in Nigeria will have thier life to live and also improve human right and abide on it .

As a Gay here in Nigeria, i watch on Tv this morning with the interview with The Pastor who has sexual intercourse with Male prostitute.

My question is simply what feeling motivate in him in making such step with the Male prostitute without minding his call as Man of God and whom many look up to.

I strongly believe with him when he talks about several sexual orientation like Bisexual, Homosexual, lesbian , Transgender and Hetrosexual. I love his answer about those who discriminate and it cause tears to roll down from my eyes when i remember what we Gay are passing through here in Nigeria.

I will like to one day in Life appear in your Interview and talk about Nigerians High rate of Discrimination on sexuality here becuase it is taking more than one can bear, they kill humiliate and discriminate Gay and Lesbians here which is too bad against Human Right and feelings.

Thank you Mr. Larry King
Chika Valentine
Lagos Nigeria

Stefan   January 30th, 2009 6:16 am ET

I was just appalled by the answer of Tedd Haggart's wife to the question what would she do if one of her sons came out to her as being gay. "They can talk to us and we would see WHAT WE CAN DO ABOUT IT". I am also shocked by Tedd Haggart's effort to combat homosexuality by going into therapy. You can't cure or treat homosexuality! It's innate and you don't chose to be gay! TO ALL WHO ARE READING THIS: WE DO NOT CHOSE TO BE GAY! Isn't it desirable to have a life partner and a family with kids? That's certainly more difficult when you are gay! Sleeping with a woman to have a family is also not fair to the woman and to the kids. You have to accept your sexuality and make the best out of your life! I would not like to be in Ted's situation. His homosexuality will follow him for the rest of his life and trying to fight it won't make it better. Accept your sexuality and live with it! God created you the way you are!

Mabi   January 30th, 2009 7:20 am ET

I watched Ted Haggard on your show and I felt other clergymen who have been involved in sexually incorrect relationships should learn to say sorry to those they have hurt.

Donald A. Wood, Sr   January 30th, 2009 7:50 am ET

I am an 81 year old great grandpa in law who watched your show Thursday evening with great interest; however, there was one very distracting element .

How about suggesting to your stage makeup staff that they encourage Mr. Haggard to tone down his stark black artificial hair coloring? No man (I am 99% bald) his age has natural hair of that color and it distracts from the sincerety of his comments. My late father, God bless his departed soul, was bald from the age of 18 and wore a full piece "rug" his whole life. Maybe Mr. Haggard is getting bald and wants to keep himself attractive to the younger male population. Just a thought.

Jack   January 30th, 2009 7:51 am ET

I would like phoney to say "goodbye" forever.

Judy   January 30th, 2009 7:54 am ET

How can Larry state that "the bible says homosexuality is a sin".
Homosexuality is never referenced in the bible. Perhaps Larry should consult with well-regarded theologians who do not live in caves.

Rich   January 30th, 2009 8:03 am ET

I have to say that I was disappointed in Larry last night. Where were all of the tough, eye-opening questions?? Ted, after some therapy, no longer has "compelling" urges?? Who's sexual urges aren't compelling at times?? That's the nature of it. And what about this "dark thoughts" crap? The only reason their "dark" is that Haggard is racked with guilt about his own sexuality because of a myth-filled, childish book written centuries ago by a bunch of ignorant, fearful desert wanderers who thought eating shellfish and disobedient children were also abominations and worthy of death. I think that if Jesus were on this Earth today, he would be appalled with this kind of "church" just like he was in his own day (if you believe scripture).

This man and his moronic wife are only interested in keeping their money and lifestyle, and who could blame them? I don't believe that Haggard was sexually molested when he was in the second grade like it said on the crawl page during the show last night. It was a thinly veiled attempt to maintain the negative stereotypes surrounding gay people, and it's extremely base, hypocritical, cynical and, I would argue, sinful. Perhaps, one day, all of these phony bible (no caps needed) thumpers will get the "due recompense for their error".

Rich   January 30th, 2009 8:26 am ET

And another thing. The sentiment brought up that his "flock" is so distraught over this is a testimony to the emotional/spiritual immaturity of the people in this culture. Why would someone else's personal/sex life have such an effect on other people's emotional state? Maybe these moronic followers have created an idol which violates the 10 commandments. Friggin' limp-chinned hypocrites.

Lynette A. -Alabama   January 30th, 2009 8:37 am ET

I can appreciate the strength and character of his wife. For she is stronger in this situation than I feel I could be. My question however is this...Would Mr. Haggen be apologizing today if the other guy had not "come out"? I am a member of a church that his faith spends a lot of time, money and energy discounting. (My faith does not have a paid clergy) I understand that we all have our struggles and the things in life that Our Heavenly Father gave us to overcome as our lot in life. Thant being said, I wonder how it made him feel to be passing around that plate, accepting the monies of his followers, living the high life while being one of the exact things that he preaches is wrong. Does he feel any remorse for that? Does he feel that he should compensate his church/faith for the monies he received? I do!

Alice Harrison of Broooksville Florida   January 30th, 2009 9:07 am ET

I commend Ted for being so vulnerable. Not to dismiss his past, having been out of the gay lifestyle for over 18 years now, it is and has been a long and tedious journey, but with God all things are possible.

Alice Harrison of Broooksville Florida   January 30th, 2009 9:26 am ET

I would like to add that having gone through the Love In Action Program in Tenn in 2002, it had a profound affect on me. Not only did I see the hell and torment men, women and children go through in rediscovering themselves in eyes of God, as being loved, created as perfect, in his image, that the love of God surpasses all of our sins, our past, and our future.

When Sin entered into this world through deceit, it created in man a desire to want the unholy. That is why Jesus came, to set the captive free, to liberate, to heal, to restore. My own life was a life of sexual deviance, perversion, and now, I am a new creation, made in His image and likeness, through Christ. He took my unhealthy desires away and replaced them with the desires of Christ.

I have worked with many men and women struggling in sexual addiction, it is the most horrendous form of torment. It is insatiable, most like heroin, it will take you to places you never thought possible.
And when you come to the end of yourself, hit the wall, and are destroyed emotionally ,physically, spiritually, then Jesus comes and picks you up, right where you are, in the slop of life and restores you to a place of dignity.

Yes you must take preventative measures to keep yourself clean, just like any other addict, and pls use the tools of 12 step with a good Christ Centered background, it will help.

Alice Harrison of Broooksville Florida   January 30th, 2009 9:39 am ET

To finish this debate, what most people don't realize is that we are all in our ways are deceitful. I am sure if most of looked into our own hearts, we would find flaws, lying, stealing, even down to our taxes, sin is sin. God does not commend it on any level. We all have a future, a past, and what God can do is bring healing to anyone who wants it.

After spending most of my childhood being sexually molested, even by a clergy member, but my love for God kept me alive. I had a long journey of healing as a human being, it came in waves. There is so much on TV/media, internet to fill our souls with trash, if we don't take the time to replace it with Godly things, then we will become what we eat. I don't think for a moment God intended us to struggle in such debasing issues.

It deeply saddens me when I see such a man of Ted's character to be put out there for the media to throw stones at, I do believe when the women who was caught in adultery, by the religeous men of the day, Jesus bent down and drew in the sand, they all left, she was standing alone with Jesus and received her forgiveness, and was told to go and sin no more. We all have that opportunity, take heed America, repent for the day is at hand, Jesus is coming back.

William Alvin Bower   January 30th, 2009 9:44 am ET

I once had a loyal and faithful dog. I could put a cookie on his nose, and he wouldn't eat it until I said "OK, go ahead!" Sometimes, though, the temptation was just too much for him, and he would eat the treat without permission. He always felt terrible when he broke my trust. I hated to see him suffer, so I changed, and just gave him the cookie. In Catholic school, the nuns talked about "the near occasions of sin", and how we should avoid getting into situations where the temptation might be too strong for us. I think Ted Haggard found himself in too many situations where the temptation was too much. He should just keep himself out of those situations. When we find a $20 bill on the sidewalk, we pick it up. It's not ours, but we put it in our wallet. Why? It's because the temptation is too great, and we know we can get away with it. So, I can't cast a stone at him. Bill Bower, Chapman, Kansas

Bret Olson   January 30th, 2009 9:58 am ET

Ok. This is my last post on this pathetic man. Let's summarize. Ted is Gay. Got it. All the Christians are forgiving him for his abuse of power and position and straying from his marriage. Fine. All the gays are infuriated for him claiming to be "cured" of his true nature. makes sense. Ted missed a chance to "evangelize for acceptance of being true to your self instead cowering behind the Bible and showing a total lack of character by denying his true sexuality. Pathetic.
Now all you Christians out there.......I don't hate you and I accept that you seriously believe what you say and what you read in the Bible. But, its just a book written by men. It was edited and edited to bring consolidation to Christianity during a time when it was a fractured religion for political purposes. Look it up its true. I admit that there are some good stories and good lessons to learn in the Bible, but like all historical fiction books, it takes creative license. I don't know of a single Christian who is going to put their kids to death for dishoniring their parents, or cheating on a spouse. etc.... Of course all the Christians are horrified when the Muslims do just that because their Bible " The Koran" tells them to do so. Maybe they just believe a little more passionately than the Christians do? People, the Bible wasn't beamed down from the heavens. It is just a book of stories written by a bunch of folks who were followers of Jesus and his teachings. Doesn't make the stories " the truth". Just stories. Same for the Torah, the Koran etc.... Why do you insist on interpreting stories from a book to shape your opinion? Can't you think for yourself? Use the brain that God gave you? Gays are gay because they are. Let them be. Same for blacks, hispanics, handicapped poeple,etc etc. If there is a God do you think it wll be more disappointed because you didn't believe some book written my mortal men or that you didn't listen to the heart and soul that guides your inner most feelings or use your brain to see thru hypocrisy and make a decision to do whats right because it makes sense.
Finally Larry, come on man. That was a weak interview. You totally let this guy off the hook. You wree harder on Sara Palin and the Repubs during your Obama love fest than you were on Ted. (and I voted for Barrack!)
In closing, Ted deserves another chance in life, but not on the pulpit. He is gay and in denial. His wife is lovely but also in denial. His kids seem nice but also in denial.
BTW, How scary was it to see all those followers in the big halls? Religious cults have been around for centuries and will be for many more. Sad but true.
Remember Christians... you don't have a monopoly on God, you can love without having religion, you can forgive without religion, you can have morality without religion. John Lennon said it best....Love is the answer.

Jude   January 30th, 2009 10:08 am ET

Ted Haggard is the perfect example that no one is "gay" is a choice and it is a behavior!! You might not choose who you find attractive, but you can choose whether to act on it or not. Just like an alcoholic, it is a day-by-day choice! With that said, I surely don't think anyone who wants to be gay should be mistreated for their choices. I also don't think we should make victims or "minorities" out of gays, or change marriage laws, etc. It's common sense that we ALL have civil rights....quit whining and quit trying to change the bible and/or the Constitution. God loves the sinner, not the sin....we all sin!!

Mike Lukowski   January 30th, 2009 10:16 am ET

It is interesting that the 2 therapists that Ted has had both told him that he is and was heterosexual. The latter therapist that Ted mentions on your show told Ted that he was something like "heterosexual with confusion" so completely eliminating the word homosexual. Are both of these therapists born-again? If Ted still admits homosexual feelings inside of him, are these therapists really helping him? It seems like they have their own agenda on how to "save" Ted.

It is like a case of the emperor's new clothes–the fear of admitting that Ted might be bisexual or even gay is too much to bear, so instead these therapists are finding ways to avoid the real feelings that Ted is having.

Jude   January 30th, 2009 10:19 am ET

I don't know what Bible you are in, but the Old and New Testaments BOTH refer to homosexuality. In the OT God destroyed Sodom and Gommorah for it. In the NT it is referred to several times, one as a punishment that God will give you over to your lusts and men will be with men, and women with women. It is not a pretty picture.

In a survey taken, something like 98% of gays admitted being molested by a significant other in their childhood, or some other sexual act. This includes Ellen De Generis, although she says that's not what caused her to be gay.......I don't believe that for a minute.

Though not all people who were molested claim to be gay, the one's that are don't like admitting that it was caused by being is easy to understand why, then it would be more like a mental problem than a "normal" way of life.

Alice Harrison of Broooksville Florida   January 30th, 2009 10:20 am ET

What I want Ted to say is that he will continue to seek God and be accountable on every level, regardless.

Eva   January 30th, 2009 10:47 am ET

Dear Larry,
I view LKL on CNNi @ noon Athens, Greece time every chance I get. Todays show was very interesting, your interview with Mr. Haggard. Reading many of the comments, a considerable amount of your Bloggers' Larry, are disillusioned, angry, judgemental & criticial with diverse opinions on this issue. Mine are questions about Mr.Haggard therapy & not comments.
I was wondering the type of therapist Mr. Haggard has employed, in analyzing his core: one who will help him on the road to emotional & psychological well being? Or is it with a therapist who believes thats homosexuality is a choice & or a disease & that Mr. Haggard can be cured?
Eva from Athens Greece

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Vynn   January 30th, 2009 10:51 am ET

Face it: Ted is GAY. Heterosexual men do NOT pay for sex with other men. They pay for sex with other women. That his wife is the ONLY woman he has had sex with, while having many male partners, tells the real story. Sorry Ted....conversion therapy is a fraud.

Rich   January 30th, 2009 10:53 am ET

The word "homosexuality" NEVER appears in the bible. "Men who lie with men..." does appear in the old and new testament, however. Sounds the same, doesn't it? Some bible scholars posit that this refers to male rape which was supposedly a common occurence in antiquity. Others ponder whether St Paul was just a "homophobe" or gay himself, maybe because he protested too much just like Ted. I don't have the answers to any of these questions. All I know is that I am gay and it is what it is. I love sex with certain men, although I am discriminating and probably more "chaste" than many of these literlist idiots.

Eating shellfish and unrluy children are condemned to death in leviticus. In deuteronomy, it says that if a groom discovers on his wedding night that his bride is not a virgin, he is to stone her to death. None of these passages are taken literally anymore, so it is clear that for the hypocrites, it is NOT about God's word, but about their own prejudice, ignorance and fear. I find it amusing that I often know more about the bible than the freaks who are so intent on using it against people like me. Alice and Jude, you are deluded..................

Sergi   January 30th, 2009 11:07 am ET

Ted Haggard is trying to be gray (color). The issue is black and white. Ask Tad Haggard whether he thinks gay relationship is bad or good. He knows the answer, but fails miserably to say it. He was dodging it on Oprah and Larry’s live. God clearly says in the Bible that homosexuality is sin, wrong, bad and inline with murder and stealing. He is a man pleaser. He values public opinion more then God and His word. God is your judge Mr. Haggard.

Rich   January 30th, 2009 11:15 am ET

Well, it is clear, then, that you are God, Sergi..............

Heinz Braun   January 30th, 2009 11:44 am ET

What I cannot believe about this whole situation and have felt this way for a very long time is "who is that religious group to judge a person? Now obviously Ted may have to change his message and not be so holier then thou. But look what this church has done to this man. Banished him from a state, what right do they have to do that? Said this man cannot preach again? Perhaps not in the episcopalian church but everyone needs to have a preacher. What happened to the church forgiving. If the church is not full of sinners, prostitutes, cheats, theives, adulterers, murderers, drug addicts, people who are struggling with many demons, then what good is the church? In my opinion that church is sitting on it's butts and say lets come to church on Sunday in our nice clean clothes, all prim and proper and after service go and do our own thing and come back next Sunday all prim and proper. Folks Jesus is not just for the people who think they have their lives in prospective, he wants the people the people that are fighting demons, and realize they are not perfect and allow him to take control of their lives and let him paint the masterpiece each and everyone one of us should be. In his image. TED get away from the hatred, guilt, shame and everything else people are dumping on you. Go back to Colorado and sell your house, move here to Little Rock Arkansas and I will help you set up a church. You are a motivational speaker, you and only you can make it right with god and not a group of pastors, not your wife only you. If you have come to terms with who you are and your wife and kids accept that then poo on the rest of the world. Who is to say they are right. I sincerely mean about giving you a place to preach in Little Rock. You are what the world needs people who have been there, done that. Get right with god whether that means you are homosexual, hetrosexual, bisexual or whatever and march on spreading his message. I commend your wife and children that have stayed with you for whatever their reasons are. It is between you and them. Stop trying to seek the forgiveness, or understanding of the main stream media, culture. It ain't going to happen. I believe Flip Wilson had it right and what we need is a church of what's happenin now. That is how you will reach the people of today.

Jessica Pacyga   January 30th, 2009 12:25 pm ET

When did it become alright to glorify a sexual predator with a drug problem? Just because someone admits to their sexual misconduct and their addictions does not mean we should put them on t.v. to be praised like they did something good.So he said sorry... SO WHAT!!! What about the families who trusted him? What about all the other men or little boys he hasen't admitted to being sexual with? This man is a liar, and he is not to be trusted. How embarrassing for the Haggards. How embarrassing for his wife, his children and his parents. Twenty years ago Ted would have been jailed, and his wife would have the courage and the conviction to leave his sorry butt. This is disgraceful. All the time we could be learning something about our great country, and we are giving all the limelight to a weirdo.
When can we start to expect great things from the people of our country?
What happened to the American people?

Carol and why I'm non-theist   January 30th, 2009 2:01 pm ET

I want to hear Teddy say that being gay, bi, straight is no sin. After all the LGBT community accepts straight people so why can't these 'church people'. If they claim that God loves everyone why are churches so devided on this simple issue.

The Haggards are smiling their way to the bank with all the publicity they are getting. Watch for books, movies and motivational siminars in the future to put more $$$ in their pockets.

Since standing behind the pulpit is such an ACT they just keep on acting and pretending that Teddy is not gay.

Why doen'st he just open a church for gays? It wouldn't be nearly as lucrative as what he's doing now.

Sarah   January 30th, 2009 2:35 pm ET

It's so sad to see Ted Haggard still using Jesus as his cover-up, and his skill with "christianese" to wallow in the lingo of "contriteness" before all. It is disingenuous for he and his wife to talk about their so called "journey" with smiles on their faces, when literally thousands of people are left in the wake of his false and surely hurtful rhetoric over many years of pastoring. His wife seems (or appears) a loving individual, but when it comes down to it (and she had to have weighed her options) seems to me that she probably just let rote teachings guide her, rather than her heart. The extent of this tragic saga is more than we see on the video clips and interviews; it's the history of his ministry leading up to this debacle. I think of all the years he preached with distain toward gays and the people he doesn't know or understand in the least. I perceive that all his years of study and seminary didn't seem to help him to know the person of Jesus,in the context of what he was really about. Posed with the question, he openly admits that he still doesn't have a clue of who he (himself) is! The truth is: that many, many gay and lesbian couples have long and devoted lives together and are exempliary people in their personal, business and community interactions. I would be happy not to hear anymore about his journey/life until he can really make a difference for people suffering with a depth of despair far beyond his perceived "mess" -{his words}. If he could reach-out to those (men, women & children) suffering with HIV / AIDS either here or abroad, I believe it would put his concerns in true perspective and bring something much more vital and important to the forefront for evangelicals (and anyone else interested). Along the way, he might surprise himself, and his family, by answering his own ultimate question.

I am Spartacus   January 30th, 2009 3:13 pm ET

Ah!! the Rapture of Denial! Watching Haggard nail himself to the Cross, while his wife hands him another rivet. Never underestimate the Martyrdom of Christians! & the power of a modern deadly drug dose from an addiction to self-flagellation caused by what I call “Compulsive Media Disorder” e.g. Anna Nicole Smith, Rush the Idiot, Nancy full of Grace & Blessed Britney. These folks, and many more, have all exhibited, on TV of course, spontaneous Stigmata.

Rarely do we get to see so vividly the ongoing results of that pesky psychological phenomenon known as “cognitive dissonance.” But I had no idea ego defense mechanisms could be so, well, biblical in proportion! And he has therapists? Who are they, Dr Phil, Oprah and Eckhart Toile? Is this what the End of Days is like? Larry King will bring it all to us Live!, reading his notes, anxious for the commercial break while Haggard implodes on cue. What a spectacle. I give Haggard a year at the most.

free   January 30th, 2009 4:00 pm ET

It is amazing that so many people think that GOD made them gay!since when does telling someone they are wrong about something make them a bigot or hater? if you were my child , i would tell you of your wrong ! I would love you and still stand on what is right. .... As a parent i would never lead or let my child be led down the wrong path . most of you know that homosexual behavior is morally wrong , yet and still you plan to hold on to it until the grave.... I say this with love for soul , which is the more greater value than your flesh... JESUS put it this way , what will it profit a man to gain the world and lose his SOUL...........please remember this GOD IS REAL AND SO IS THE DEVIL WHOM A LOT OF YOU IGNORE AS THOUGH he DOESN'T......

Rich   January 30th, 2009 4:40 pm ET


You, in your typically "christian", arrogant way, have assumed that we who disagree with you haven't even considered your point of view and how it would apply to our own lives. You are dead wrong about that for many of us. You are the one who is incapable of putting yourself in someone else's shoes. This might give us a spiritual leg up on people like you. The truth is not always black and white, and the spiritual path is fraught (sp?) with ambiguity. Maybe that's where God is found, in the uncertainty. Many other religious traditions seem to imply this and so does the bible. READ IT!!!!!!!!!!!

Rich   January 30th, 2009 5:07 pm ET

Thank you Sarah and Spartacus!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Rich   January 30th, 2009 5:24 pm ET

Worth repeating:

The word “homosexuality” NEVER appears in the bible. “Men who lie with men…” does appear in the old and new testament, however. Sounds the same, doesn’t it? Some bible scholars posit that this refers to male rape which was supposedly a common occurence in antiquity. Others ponder whether St Paul was just a “homophobe” or gay himself, maybe because he protested too much just like Ted. I don’t have the answers to any of these questions. All I know is that I am gay and it is what it is. I love sex with certain men, although I am discriminating and probably more “chaste” than many of these literlist idiots.

Eating shellfish and unrluy children are condemned to death in leviticus. In deuteronomy, it says that if a groom discovers on his wedding night that his bride is not a virgin, he is to stone her to death. None of these passages are taken literally anymore, so it is clear that for the hypocrites, it is NOT about God’s word, but about their own prejudice, ignorance and fear. I find it amusing that I often know more about the bible than the freaks who are so intent on using it against people like me. Alice and Jude, you are deluded………………

Jorge L.   January 30th, 2009 7:06 pm ET

What truly bothered me about last night's interview with Ted Haggard is the implication that homosexuality itself is something dark, a sin, a mental condition that requires therapy to try to get rid of it. Homosexuality, like heterosexuality is part of what a person is. That's it. A gay person doesn't choose to be gay just as a heterosexual person doesn't choose to be heterosexual.
As a gay man who loves Jesus as my Lord and Saviour I have struggled throughout most of my adult life with being gay and Christian. I have prayed so many times that if it is wrong to be gay, that the Lord should change me because He has the power to do that. I don't. I am still gay and I accept that. I hope that one day I will find a man who loves me, allows me to love him and that we will marry. Also, it is totally possible to be gay and love Jesus as Lord and Saviour and I know He loves me too.
For those of you who like verses from the Bible, here is one for you. It is John 3:16
"For God so loved the world that he gave His only begotten Son, that WHOEVER believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life."

I am Spartacus   January 30th, 2009 7:43 pm ET

Seymour Butts (author of “Under the Bleachers”?), Carol, Sarah, Rich: thanks for your comments.

To Free & the ilk: I thought I saw the Devil on Larry King last night sucking on sanctimonious spiritual smugness like a fat jawbreaker from hell. Oh wait, that was Ted.

Have you read any books other than the Bible? Aren't you tired of all your anger? Did you know it's possible to follow the Golden Rule & not believe in Sin, Original or otherwise? I live most of the year in a country that was not founded on the fear of burning in hell & it is wonderful.

And how has Ted's religion helped him so far? He's been tormented for years & has harmed others. He said he sought help in a roundabout way from other Christian ministers & was treated with revulsion. His own interpretation of Christianity has been destructive. He's obviously traumatized from the sexual assault suffered as a youngster & the only help he received, if any, was from his religion. And wow, look at the wonders that has done for him.

Free: Look up “judgmental” & “hypocrisy” in the dictionary. You said you would tell your children if they were wrong & you would not let them go down the wrong path. True, it doesn't make you a bigot if you tell them “it's wrong to lie to others” but it certainly does make you a “hater” if you say to them “you cannot be gay, you are wrong to have those feelings.” Giving a child basic moral lessons on decency is one thing (don't lie, cheat or steal), but thumping their heads with narrow interpretations of what they should become is another. By the way, they will be who they will be. You can't change their sexual orientation but you do have a lot of influence on how they will fit into the world. Witness Ted Haggard, O immortal pharisaic pious-in-the-sky!

One book does not hold all the answers, life is full of contradictions & surprises & the Bible is not a self-help manual, despite what you've been told. Being gay is part of the human condition, as normal as being not-gay. You can “stand all day on what is right” & turn rigid as a fencepost or you can go forth & seek that which you fear most so that soon ye shall fear not. Ah, men.

Try to define love & compassion without opening that book in your purse. Here's a starter: Tell your kids “You are a Human Being with a precious life to live. Try to do your best and be kind to others. No matter what mistakes you make, you are still perfect and my love will never falter. Whatever path you take, I will bend like a reed in the wind to reach you. I am listening.”

Your children will thank you.

Bill Stephens   January 30th, 2009 8:06 pm ET

Ted Haggard is a prime example of proving the Bible true when it says they call evil good and good evil. Larry King is a prime example of a man who has no spirititual insight whatsoever or he would have nailed Haggard in his lies. After thousands of wrong choices Haggard has no mind or heart left to make one right choice. The Bible calls this depravity.
Two depraved men on a talk show.
Yes, I know Ted personally, but never met Mr. King..

Thom Smith   January 30th, 2009 10:22 pm ET

Dear Ted, Coming out of the closet can be a painful process. The pain you are causing yourself, and others needs to be addressed. You need to come to terms with your sexuality. From my point of view, as a gay man who has worked in the community, you are who you are. A lot of people might be proud of you for telling the truth, rather than all of these "games" of trying convince others that you're less than who you really are. The drug abuse is also a way you are trying to avoid the truth. Your wife, and probably your children know the truth. So do you, time to come out my friend. God loves you for who you really are.

Arunabh Das   January 31st, 2009 2:28 am ET

Dear Ted Haggard

You rock!! Please keep having sex with young males and keep profiteering from movies and television appearances about your "sickness". You are an inspiration to America.

Rich   January 31st, 2009 11:30 am ET

Bill Stephens

Your beliefs are what they are, but using the bible to hide behind and present this transparent argument that it's God's word is really childish, not child-like. It's obvious that your stance has nothing to do with God's word and everything to do with YOUR personal revulsion, or whatever it is. Until you can honestly say that you truly believe that disobedient children should be put to death, and people who eat shellfish and non-virgins on their wedding night, your argument holds no water.

"New Life" church should really be called "New Death", although, unfortunately, there's really nothing new about it. I would argue that the true "culture of death" lies in places that claim to be otherwise....and many are fooled.

Elmer Gantry   February 1st, 2009 2:01 am ET

I'm back!

Debbie   February 1st, 2009 8:32 pm ET

Most men in this world cheer for two women but two men seems to upset them. To each is own but that is a double standard. If its wrong to some then all should be wrong. We will be judged anyway we choose however you can't have it one way. What he done was wrong to me but I also think two women are wrong. Maybe he is trully confused.

ronnie patrick   February 1st, 2009 8:41 pm ET

He has a God he needs to answer to. If you believe you only need to ask once believe and you are forgiven. I don't hold mistakes aganist anyone because it is none of my business for I have as we all have fallen short for the glory of God. There are things in my closet as there are things in all of us closets no one knows but God and we have been forgiven washed away to be no more. Same thing for us the same for the Rev. We must pray that he forgives himself and I think that is the problem he has not forgiven himself so now he is talking about it giving it more life after two years and publicly asking for forgiveness move on and let it go for God's got it.

Susana Beck   February 1st, 2009 9:09 pm ET

All of his lip flapping is just "showmanship ethics!"

Happygolucky   February 1st, 2009 9:11 pm ET

I want to hear Mr Haggard say that God cannot lie but that humans can. Humans can even lie to themselves. And that God loves all sinners even the mose vile ones. But that doesn't mean He loves their sin, just the sinner.

BOb Dellacona   February 1st, 2009 9:22 pm ET

I want him to say I'm gay. Period.
I can't believe Larry is letting him get away with this garbage implying gay sex is immorality. What is this 1952?

Men who have sex with men are gay. Regardless of how hot is marriage is. He's still gay. I want him to admit it.

And I want Larry to stop letting him get away with not admitting it.

Brenda   February 1st, 2009 9:22 pm ET

Does he believe that being gay is an abomination like the bible says it is and also does he believe that he and other gays will go to hell if they don't change??

Mike from Chicago   February 1st, 2009 9:24 pm ET


I want to hear him admit that he is at least a Bi sexual. I mean enough is enough all ready! Either do something or get off the airwaves. I believe everyone would agree....stick a fork in us because we're done.

Micah Wesley   February 1st, 2009 9:26 pm ET

Tim- I have been praying for you everyday. I saw the recent documentary on HBO and one thing I felt was missing was forgiveness. You never said anything about the most beautiful part of the cross. I want to know if you have repented and feel God's love and forgiveness that he shows us through the gospel?

William House   February 1st, 2009 9:27 pm ET

Haggard has been a big influence for many years. He has preached against homosexuality but all the while he was having sex with men. I just want Haggard to admit that homosexuality has nothing to do with religion at all. I want to hear him say that it is more political than it is religion. I want to hear him say that religion and law should be separate. He knew he was a public figure and should have never cross over into have in sex with another male.

Christine   February 1st, 2009 9:27 pm ET

I want to ask Ted Haggart if he believes the Bible is the inspired Word of God?

Romans 1:27 says "Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion.

It is perverse according to Gods word to be gay.

Are you ashamed in the presence of God with your condition?
Do you believe you have to qualify to go to Heaven?
Do you believe you will be judged by God for being a homosexual?
Do you belive there are going to be homosexuals in Heaven?
Do you plan to get back in the pulpit?
Do you feel remorse for all of your perverse acts?

Tim Bridwell   February 1st, 2009 9:28 pm ET

Ted Haggard, that is a bunch of crap you are saying. You and your family are floating down the River of Denial. Shame Shame Shame on you.

Paul Brissett (Jamaica)   February 1st, 2009 9:29 pm ET

I just joined the program so I don't know if this was asked already, but Mr. Hagger "What was going on in your mind while you where having this homosexual affair did you not think that you would be found out, how did you view yourself then while you where an active preacher as oppose to know"

Andrea From Louisiana   February 1st, 2009 9:29 pm ET

I respect Ted Haggert for sharing his struggle in life. As a daughter of a former Baptist preacher, I have grown up to witness the "god like" persona that the public places on ministers. The fact is that we are all human and we all make mistakes–no matter who you are. It takes a much bigger man to step forward and own his mistakes than to throw stones of judgement at others.

Jennifer   February 1st, 2009 9:29 pm ET

It seems like Ted Haggard is in serious denial of all the terrible things he as done. He continues to try to "smooth over" his past and doesn't deserve all the air time he has been recently getting. We shouldn't be questioning whether he is "gay" or not, but locking him up for being a sexual abuser. What Ted Haggard needs to say is that he is not the "victim" here, like he has been trying to portray. His wife and the young man that he did perverted acts with are the victims. I find it hard to believe that the people who go to his church have been "forgiving" to him. He needs to face up, be a man, and live with the guilt of his actions.

Jay   February 1st, 2009 9:30 pm ET

Can Ted Haggard explain why he feels it is ok for him or any person to have to struggle for the rest of their private life with their own sexuality?
Is this part of gods plan?

Christopher   February 1st, 2009 9:32 pm ET

Homosexuality is not a choice. It cannot be said enough. Therefore scriptures noting homosexuality as wrong are simply creations of bigots, nothing more.

Homosexuality is part of the human experience. It is documented and has been accepted at many times in our history. Any person that feels otherwise is nothing more than a bigot worthless to the human race. Absolutely worthless unless willing to change. But that goes for us all, we all mean nothing if we do not examine our world and make our own decisions. The Bible nor any other book or person is not without corruption.

Jay   February 1st, 2009 9:32 pm ET

I would like Ted Haggard to say that he is married to one of the most amazing and loving of women a husband can hope for.

Jimmie   February 1st, 2009 9:33 pm ET

If Ted is a heterosexual with complications or issues, does he then consider himself heterosexual by nature and that he has homosexual desired (not by nature), but due to something that happened to him in his childhood? This in comparison to someone who is gay by nature and has had nothing in their childhood happen to them. Thanks.

Pamela   February 1st, 2009 9:35 pm ET

I am a longtime agnostic with a healthy suspicion of Evangelicals, having lost several members of my family to them. And yet my heart goes out to Ted Haggard, if only for his optimism and his refusal to give up hope. Seems as if his "Christian" friends have a lot less Jesus in them than Gayle Haggard. Sexuality is mysterious and personal, and so is love, and so is God. I really liked the Pelosi documentary; it was compassionate and even handed. That's the way this agnositc feels about Ted, but as for his friends, no thanks.

Mary   February 1st, 2009 9:37 pm ET

i want him to say it's okay to be gay. Maybe he doesn't think he's gay. I think he's bi. But if he was, it would be okay.

I want him to say Jesus would never say the things about gay people that his church says. I haven't heard him speak about the awful things his church and other such churches say about gays. I think it's despicable – that they attach themselves to the teachings of Jesus.

Lee   February 1st, 2009 9:37 pm ET

This may be hard for many to understand but I have much respect for Mr. Haggard for coming forward like this. I am an openly gay man that was in a situation when I was younger but of legal age that was much like this. I worked for an important and influential older man of the community that wanted a sexual relationship with me that I did not want. He used his money and influence to try and coax me into a relationship with him. I was at a bad place in my life at that time (emotionally and financially) and could have been easily influenced but did not allow that to happen, I walked away from it. I could have exposed this man for fame and fortune but chose not to.

I feel that this man that exposed Ted Haggard did so for the fame and fortune no matter what he says. Thank you Mr. Haggard for coming forward with this and being an inspiration, I do not see you as a hipocrite. Thank you Mrs. Haggard for sticking with him.

Jay   February 1st, 2009 9:38 pm ET

I pose a question to Mr. Haggard about the "counseling advice" he has been receiving. Especially the terms like "heterosexual with homosexual issues", do you see these terms as mere semantics? What are the positions of these professionals concerning their views on homosexuality as a valid and healthy life style? Do you feel this causes conflicts in the impartiality of their diagnosis?

IRIS SMITH   February 1st, 2009 9:39 pm ET


CONNIE PACE   February 1st, 2009 9:40 pm ET

As a Christian, I have seen many times when we shoot our own wounded. The Bible clearly teaches that if one confesses their
sin and repents(turns away from it) he is forgiven. We need to pray for Mr. Haggard as our brother and all those who struggle with all sin.
Let those among us without sin cast the first stone...

Jay   February 1st, 2009 9:40 pm ET

Could you talk about why you wanted to use such dangerous drugs during your struggles when you never were introduced to them before? Was it self destructive impulses with yourself at the time?

Alli   February 1st, 2009 9:41 pm ET

I would like to know how Ted Haggard thinks he became gay? Was he born that way or was it a result of what happened to him when he was young?
Is he still opposed to gay rights?
Is he trying to "cure" his homosexuality?

*Ted, I think you are representing yourself very well. You're expressing your beliefs without being the stereotypical judgmental Christian. You are sorry and apologetic and best of all, honest. I commend you for how you've handled this whole situation. While I may disagree with your literal interpretation of the Bible, I agree with you that this scandal has ultimately made you a better person (as much as I can agree since I didn't know you before or now :-P). As a questioning, doubting, and wavering Christian, I want to thank you for restoring my belief in the Christian congregation, because what i question and doubt the most is the goodness of Christian people. So thank you and I hope everything works out for you and your family.

CALVIN   February 1st, 2009 9:42 pm ET


Christopher   February 1st, 2009 9:42 pm ET

The Bible is not the be all and end all. The Bible W-R-O-N-G about homosexuality because it is not a choice!!! Saying homosexuality is wrong is akin to calling an entire race wrong.

N L Stewart   February 1st, 2009 9:43 pm ET

We've heard Haggard's explanations as to his confusion as to his sexual preferences and drug use.

Now I'd like to hear him explain a more basic issue – his infidelity to his wife.

Micah Wesley   February 1st, 2009 9:48 pm ET

I watched the HBO documentary and I was shocked to not hear Tim say anything about the gospel. I want to hear Tim Haggard say that the only way he is forgiven and saved is by the blood of Jesus, the gospel.

Sue Xian   February 1st, 2009 9:48 pm ET

So, is homosexuality evil or not?

christopher davis   February 1st, 2009 9:49 pm ET

I hope Ted Haggard accepts the fact that he's gay and realizes it's okay Jesus accepts everyone and Jesus never even mentioned homosexuality in the gospels. Many Christians are judgemental and are being decieved and judging homosexuals is the real sin!!! Ted stop repressing your homosexual feelings that is unhealthy. Get a divorce live as a homosexual who loves God and love your family the same be real its okay!! Much love
Christopher Davis

Micah Wesley   February 1st, 2009 9:50 pm ET

I watched the HBO documentary and was shocked not to hear him say anything about the gospel. I want to hear Ted Haggard say the only way he is forgiven is by the blood of Jesus, the gospel.

Ann   February 1st, 2009 9:50 pm ET

Are you kidding! I think that they are both nuts! Hiding behind the word of God and then living another type of lifestle contrary to the word of God. This is such a joke ..they all end up making money making movies, wrtiing books, and getting on al kind os TV shows. They'll probably make more money from this scandal than to be leaders in a church!

Craig   February 1st, 2009 9:50 pm ET

Is this man a Preacher or a Politician. Can he answer a question already?

Stefana   February 1st, 2009 9:50 pm ET

I'd like to hear this man actually admit to himself and to his family that he is G-A-Y.

Dana Davis   February 1st, 2009 9:51 pm ET

I think Ted Haggard has said ALL that he needs to say. He has apologized to his family, he has Repented to God , HIS AUTHORITY, and he has asked forgiveness of those he has hurt. Moreover, he has the humility and appears to be very genuine about his desire to do encourage Ted and remember that humilty comes before honor and pride comes before the fall...Be Blessed!

Sue Ferguson   February 1st, 2009 9:51 pm ET

I was hesitant to watch this interview tonight but am glad that I have. Mr. Haggard has shown his heart tonight and, I believe, his sincere regrets for the pain he has caused so many people. As a Christian I also believe the Bible to be the Word of God and know that forgiveness is given to a truly repentant heart. I would like to ask Mr. Haggard if he would continue to teach God's Word regarding homosexuality if he were to become involved in the ministry again.

Adrian   February 1st, 2009 9:54 pm ET

I would like to hear him say that he is just gay! There is no such thing as being saved from being a homosexual. I am gay and my life is wonderful and I have never needed to try to hide it or marry a woman to try to suppress my lifestyle. He claims he still has these thoughts and lets face it he always will. the question is will he act on them, my guess is if he has in the past he will again. It's amazing the ones that point the finger and "preach" that it is wrong are the ones who are hiding something.

roshell   February 1st, 2009 9:54 pm ET

The bible teaches us not to be a fool. I can't understand why she continues to place her health at risk.

Sara May   February 1st, 2009 9:54 pm ET

I want to hear him get a revelation of the Truth. He told us just a little bit ago that he believes in taking everything to the Bible. Well, the Bible clearly states that homosexuality is an abomination to the Lord God. It says, "man shall not lay with another man.." He apparently changed his life around, and I'm glad, however, if he is going to label himself a "christian" he cannot deny God's truth. Denying the Lord's Word is denying Him, and the Bible says in Matthew 10:32-33 "Whosoever therefore shall confess me before men, him will I confess before my Father, which is in heaven. But whosoever shall deny me before men, him will I also deny before my Father which is in heaven." If he is taking the stand that he lives for everything in the Bible then he needs to start living it, instead of messing up the world's view of true christians.

Kei   February 1st, 2009 9:56 pm ET

I saw the initial interview with Oprah and the HBO documentary as well, I still have not heard him answer a single question directly. What i would like to hear is for him to say that although he wants to live a different life, there is nothing wrong with being gay.
I think he's just doing this so that he can start up a new church, I can't and will not forgive you until you say that there is nothing wrong with being gay.

Marianne   February 1st, 2009 9:56 pm ET

I would like for Mr. Haggard and his wife to explain how they can still call themselves Christian when they do not exemplify what they preach. They have forgotten Romans 1 and Leviticus 20:13 and please dont say that is the old law. God yes is a merciful and loving God but He is also all consuming fire. For him to wish to use his faith and the bible and the teachings of Jesus to condone his disgrace to the family of Christ is simply revolting. What he needs to do is repent and seek the Lord like he never truly seemed to have done from the start. The word of God cannot return void to Him but it is obvious that the path that Ted haggard began 20yrs ago during his ministry wasnt one that God ordained because it didnt fall on fertile soil. Yes as humans we fail daily but our humanity shouldnt be used as an excuse to deliberately sin. He should remember that the bible also says that "he who knows how to do the right thing and doesnt do it has already sinned". Quite frankly whoever believes the facade that The Haggard family is putting on should ask God for the spirit of discernment because it takes more than just pretty words to be able to assume a ministry after passing the name of Christ through the dirt.

Ed   February 1st, 2009 9:57 pm ET

As a minister I believe that Ted is right. The Bible tells us that God says we don't choose him, he chooses us. Maybe God has chosen Ted Haggard to clear the air concerning Christians and how the church places levels of God's hatred toward sin. God hates sin but, God loves the sinner. Keep your love for humanity Ted and may God bless you and your family. I know that after this storm, God will elevate you to an even higher level in him.

roshell   February 1st, 2009 9:58 pm ET

How are family and close friends coping with this ?

Jay   February 1st, 2009 9:58 pm ET

Have you written a book about your experiences? What do you think is the most important message your book would offer its readers?

Patrice Mcphee   February 1st, 2009 9:58 pm ET

The question is, are preachers perfect? Is some sin worst than others? My answer to both questions are abosolutley No! We need to stop catogorizing sins, and placing our value to them. He [the preacher] is not Yahweh [God] He is human just like everyone else. Who are we to judge or criticise? Lets take the beam out of our own eyes! He has apologized. He has been forgiven. When the women bought to Yahshua for adultery, at the end there was no one left standing. He that is without sin, let him cast the first stone.

I am not a gay person or a lesbian. Just my thoughts. Thanks

Lee   February 1st, 2009 9:58 pm ET

I'd like to know if the sex Ted had outside of his marriage was unprotected sex. If so, is he worried that he has exposed his wife to disease?

DENISE   February 1st, 2009 9:58 pm ET


Paul Brissett (Jamaica)   February 1st, 2009 10:00 pm ET

Ted Haggard

Do you think that this is one way that God is using you to reach out to people that think that homosexuality is not a sin.

Pastor John Mark Skinner   February 1st, 2009 10:00 pm ET


Brother I commend you for being open and honest at this point in the restoration process!

You and I met once at New Life. I Pastor, specifically dealing with those who suffer from various addictions (including struggles with sexual issues) under a mutual friend; PASTOR CRAIG SMITH IN FORT SMITH, ARKANSAS.

Tyrel & Mary Beth are still at CCF as Youth Pastors (planning for this year's DESPERATION trip, even as I'm writing this) and they've both grown greatly.

I would welcome the opportunity to visit with you via e-mail or telephone. I'd like to update you more on Craig, Tyrel and so on, but I'd also like to encourage you (and you, me) as you continue on. In so many ways your imperfections have already made you better able to reach a very needy part of our world...REAL PEOPLE!

As I listen to you honestly share your struggles (and Gayle as well) I hope you realize how badly the Body needs to understand how to evangelize and minister to people "WHERE THEY ARE" not where tradition has convinced them they should be.

Blessings in Christ,
Brother John Mark Skinner


judy   February 1st, 2009 10:01 pm ET

"Haggard says in 2nd grade an adult male had sex with him" Why do you have the runner? are you implying that his homosexuality is a result of this molestation? very irresponsible!!!

Stephanie   February 1st, 2009 10:02 pm ET

Thank you Pastor Ted for apologizing. I so miss you and Gayle. I did not get to say good bye. I forgive you. I am watching you on CNN. My heart is warming to see you and Gayle and Marcus. Thank you all for being so corageous.

ciara   February 1st, 2009 10:03 pm ET

I understand the Ted has apologize to his wife Gayle a million times but I would like to hear him say it again!

Arnold Joseph   February 1st, 2009 10:04 pm ET

Mr. Haggard needs to come to peace with himself and accept the fact that he is Bi-Sexual and always will be. No amount of counseling will change this. You may surpress your feelings but it's a medical fact that a person is born gay/and or Bi-Sexual and no amount of therapy will change the genetics you were born with.
Good Luck,
Arnold Joseoph

Elaine   February 1st, 2009 10:06 pm ET

I know that I am just a little late for the live broadcast but I wish that Larry King had pinned him down about the fact that his 'sin' was adultery, not homosexuality. He and his wife spoke as if homosexual behavior was his sin. As a Christian, I acknowledge that the Bible was written by human beings and although it is a wonderful guide book, it does reflect the fears of the authors.

Jan   February 1st, 2009 10:12 pm ET

Let he who has not sinned cast the first stone. I applaud Ted for being honest and seeking forgiveness. We're all human with many faults.

Debra West   February 1st, 2009 10:22 pm ET

The ruthlessness and mendacity with which Mr. Haggard is trying to rehabilitate himself in order to regain a seat at the table of his paying congregation is utterly transparent and beyond belief. The science of human sexuality does not reside in the providence of religious affiliation, but in the science of anatomical certainty – like blue eyes or hemophilia – and even Mr. Haggard's version of the truth cannot challenge it. There is nothing more cynical or cruel than to attempt to undermine the brave and sensitive struggle of people who own a difficult truth by trying to sell a self-serving version of the one you invent. If bi means: 1) being gay, and 2) having an agenda then Mr Haggard may have his category. I think I know what Jesus would do here: he would leave Mr. Haggard at the truck stop.

Marilyn Sehn   February 1st, 2009 10:37 pm ET

I would like to hear him say that he thinks that Gays and Lesians should have equal rights just like heterosexurals.

Marilyn Sehn   February 1st, 2009 10:38 pm ET

I would like to hear him say that he thinks that Gays and Lesbians should have equal rights just like heterosexurals.

Gerald Nickerson   February 1st, 2009 10:40 pm ET

I'm not so sure it's what I want to hear Ted Haggard say. I sense that much has been revealed about his ordeal of conscience and guilt and sin even on your own program. However, what are other sinners saying? What impact is this having on them? None of us can escape because all have sinned and come short of the glory of God. Who is willing to cast the first stone? Ted has confessed his guilt and I believe that he is dealing with the situation positively as he seeks not only outside counsel but the help of a gracious and understanding family that has stood by him in spite of the hurt and pain they have endured along with Ted. It hasn't been an easy road. The way of the transgressor is hard... who of hasn't discovered that? Be sure your sin will find you out ... and it does... most of us would admit to that. God disciplines those whom He loves... and He loves us in spite of our failures. I think that Ted is discovering first hand that God's grace is sufficient... and truly it is "Amazing Grace". We don't deserve it... none of us. If we are to be blameless and above reproach, then we need to confess us and come clean. We need to seek the Lord and draw upon His abundant mercy and forgiveness. There is victory in Jesus but the world, flesh and the devil will be our adversary until the day we die and leave it all behind. God bless Ted and Gayle and family as they seek healing and restoration and the forgiveness of those who have been hurt and defiled. May it be a lesson to all of us that sin is a burden and creates havoc and devastation in its wake.
But also that we have a great Savior and Redeemer in the person and work of Jesus Christ. I believe this is just one more of the signs of our times. The battles are intensifying as the hour of our Savior's return draws nigh. Satan is turning up the heat. Lord, help us to draw nigh unto You and to know the daily cleansing power of the Blood of the Lamb as we await Your return.

Renee   February 1st, 2009 10:54 pm ET

I watched the broadcast tonight, and am disgusted by the whole thing. Haggard himself, but mostly his wife, side-stepped most of the questions. I don't really see the point in them doing this interview.

Jeffery l Rumsey   February 1st, 2009 10:59 pm ET

I just want to say that the church is wrong. jesus said to the woman brought to him in adultery .said to them. let him who is without sin cast the first stone . and thay went away. now it seems to me that the church is casting alot of stones. that sounds like some of them need to repent

ed ,vancouver canada   February 1st, 2009 11:42 pm ET

If a percentage of people are born gay.there will always be gay people.However since gay people can not reproduce,it is against normality in the respect of a man and woman to reproduce the race.
If the entire world was gay it would become extinct.
An abnormality is still with nature,just like down's syndrome.
Do not say that religiously they are the same ,because part of religion deals with creation.Creation does not mean same sex equality.
Otherwise it would have been Adam and Adam.
Tolerating something is one thing,but now the hunted are becoming the hunters.
Marriage is still man and woman and the ability to have children.

James   February 2nd, 2009 12:22 am ET

"I am a homosexual, and I realize that now. I am sorry for any pain I have caused anyone in the past. Homosexuals should not be abused by the church, or anyone. Homosexuality is something people are born with, it can't be controlled or changed. People who speak against homosexuals are wrong."

Robin Hopper   February 2nd, 2009 12:22 am ET

I saw Pastor Haggar on Oprah and thought his wife was an absolute doll. I would like for him to comment about his love for her and what her Christian character has meant to him.

Dana Wasserman   February 2nd, 2009 12:23 am ET

Why can't Ted Haggard just admit that he is GAY?

Andrew Kucera   February 2nd, 2009 12:24 am ET

I would ask Ted to say that this is an eye opening experience for a lot of evangelicals and the world that we, as christians are as vulnerable as those that have been abused. That there is salvation from these stuggles and that certain churches have got to stop slamming the gay community and show love now more than ever~
This is a call to understanding and reconciliation...
Not more hate

John Morse   February 2nd, 2009 12:26 am ET

Honestly, I'd like to hear him say that, deep down, he hasn't changed in the slightest. Proclaiming that he's undergone some sort of rebirth–that he has atoned for his sins–is only an attempt to ignore the obvious: he still has "sexual thoughts about men". Does this make him gay? Maybe not. But maybe he can be a bit more forgiving, here. Maybe he can finally admit to the fact that one's sexuality is out of one's control. Just a thought.

Marcus   February 2nd, 2009 12:28 am ET

How can homosexuals be sinners? Didn't the Lord create us all in his image? If someone could "help" being gay, if it wasn't physiological, wouldn't they? Why would they put themselves through the riddicule caused by the average person's ignorance?

laday   February 2nd, 2009 12:30 am ET

My concern is that i am married to a christian guy that has had issues with molestation and some homosexual activiteis in the past. How can i tell, if he is still interested.

Laura Rose   February 2nd, 2009 12:31 am ET

I want to Larry to acknowledge and ask Ted about how he reconciles the fact that there are many faithful bible believing Christians who are openly gay and believe that God created us that way.

What does Ted do with the fact that people love and serve Jesus and are gay?

Rafael Macelan   February 2nd, 2009 12:42 am ET

How can a man that considers him self as a man of god can be able to have relations with a male prostitute and be married?
A priest or pastor should be an example to his comunity.
Congrats to mr. Haggard !
A couple more of pastors like that and it would make sence to make christianity illegal again.

Phil Hall   February 2nd, 2009 12:47 am ET

I am both happy and grateful that Ted Haggard, the evangelical leader of the New Life Church leader who eventually admitted to sexual immorality with a male escort, and to buying drugs from the same male escort has been rehabilitated. I would not want to have walked in his shoes over the past two and a quarter years. He resigned from his church after a voice mail with his voice asking the male escort for drugs was made public, and eventually, the church he had helped to found banished him not only from it, but also from their community—but not before requiring Haggard to undergo three weeks of intensive therapy supervised by four ministers, after which one of the ministers pronounced him “completely heterosexual.” (By the way, what does “completely heterosexual” even mean?)

Ted had confessed to his wife early in their marriage that he had homosexual feelings. One of his therapists (during the more long-term therapy he underwent following the scandal) described him as a “heterosexual with homosexual attachments.” And Ted stated that, while he still feels a sexual attraction to men, he no longer feels compelled to act on it.

One of the good things his very public struggle brought about is that sexuality is not always so clearly delineated—so “black and white.” Sexuality is far more complex than hetero-, homo-, bi-, metro- and a-. I suspect this has been the case since the beginning of time.

On some level, I admire that his wife, Gayle, chose to stay with him and try to work things out between them. Oftentimes, when a spouse or partner goes through some trying experience from which it seems a couple might never recover, they divorce or split up. Even Haggard’s children focused on trying to remain a family as they watched their father’s anguish. I expect redemption has new meaning for him now.

Oprah Winfrey had Haggard on her show on the day before a documentary about Haggard and his family trying to rebuild their lives after the scandal was to be shown on HBO. Oprah was both trying to understand his rehabilitation, and, at the same time—not exactly having him, or perhaps—his story.

The only thing that is difficult for me with his story is the “sound-byte-friendly” resolution, or the “spin” that Christians can put on an event when it suits them. Haggard asserts that, at his lowest moment of his life—as he was considering suicide, God came to him and said, “Now I can save you.” But save him from what? From committing suicide? From himself? From his scandal? From being hypocritical when denying it? From being heterosexual with homosexual attachments? All of the above?

I don’t know that I would pronounce myself “completely homosexual, ” though some of my friends might. I don’t think any of us is completely anything, other than a human being. But where I differ with Haggard and I side more with Oprah is that I believe that God—rather than save us from “ourselves” creates us in His/Her image, and all of who we are is good enough for God from the very beginning. I’m going to say that one more time: I believe that God—rather than save us from “ourselves” creates us in His/Her image, and all of who we are is good enough for God from the very beginning. Many, many churches prey on our vulnerability and instill in us a belief that we are born into “sin” and we’re going to eventually make a mess of—if not everything, a lot of it. If we buy into this, well—it helps keep many a church filled across the world. The God of the King James/Southern Baptist Church on my childhood in the late fifties was a vengeful God. Eventually God was gonna “whoop our asses but good!” But tonight, while watching a tennis match, I heard from the broadcasters that Serena Williams was helping to start a school in Kenya. This is an African-American athlete who grew up in the projects of Compton, California. She, who undoubtedly has struggled a lot of her life, thanks her God, Jehovah, after every opportunity and is using her position as a celebrity to help bring education to some less-fortunate African children in Kenya. That’s a shining example of the God I envision: a God of grace who breathes life into each of us with the wish of, “Okay, let’s see what you can do. Let’s see how many lives you can bless on your journey as you maximize the potential inside you. Ready, set—bless!”

When I say the following sentence, it’s not that I mean that Ted Haggard bears no responsibility for his actions, for clearly, he does—and he got consequences in spades. But, as a human being, Haggard, like so many (-sexual) others before and after him, was doing the best he could before and after the events that created the scandal. He was a vivid demonstration of what happens to a person when he can’t bring all of whom he is to the table. And I believe that, when God gave the life of His only Son for us—that’s when we were saved—that act of largesse, of supreme sacrifice was so that we can learn from it—and then, do better. Be better.

Latorial   February 2nd, 2009 12:48 am ET


I'd like to hear Mr. Haggard say whether or not he has friends in the ministry who are guilty of the same? Also, why do you think many of today's religious leaders are falling short, and what does it really say to followers of Christ.

Debbie Lucas   February 2nd, 2009 12:48 am ET

In the book of Leviticus the word says MAN kind shall NOT lay with MAN kind.

Betsy   February 2nd, 2009 12:48 am ET

Does Ted feel like his interpretation of the bible has changed? He used to preach intolerance, until karma caught up with him

Laura Rose   February 2nd, 2009 12:49 am ET

I think you need to have Gene Robinson, first gay Episocpal bishop on your show and ask him how he reconciles being a Christian and gay.

The term "homosexuality" as we know if did not exist in biblibal times.

The bible says nothing about committed same gender relationships.

Homosexuality in the bible refrerred to exploitivve relationships, not to committed same gender relationships. I am a Christian minister and happily married my partner this Summer after the CA Supreme Court voted to let me do so.
Please find a way to get alternative points of view about being a person of faith and being gay. There are teenagers and others who are full of self hate because of the views espoused by Ted Haggard and other preachers like him.

Jeremy Mumford   February 2nd, 2009 12:52 am ET

I want to hear Ted Haggard say the he will never preach his special form of hatred again. Anyone with religious beliefs must assume that God made us the way we are, therefore they must accept homosexuality is part of human nature and not against God's will. Hatred is a sin as well, maybe Mr. Haggard and his wife should read their bibles a little more closely instead of just picking out the parts that apply to their narrow and bigoted view of the world.

La Vonne   February 2nd, 2009 12:59 am ET

I would like Haggard to say that he is gay. He sould never be able to head any organization that has to do with christianity. I truly believe that he may have a chance for forgiveness from the Lord, but he must come clean. He must come clean with himself and his followers. Mr Haggard must tell the truth the way it is written in the bible (IF ANY MAN LYE WITH A MAN THE SAME AS HE WOULD A WOMAN THAT MAN IS AN ABOMINATION AND SHOULD BE PUT TO DEATH). You know what i mean what is written can you argue with that????

Joseph   February 2nd, 2009 1:02 am ET

I do care if someone is gay. I'd like to know who I'd be safe to approach to ask on a date.. Without fear of a broken nose.

e davis   February 2nd, 2009 1:06 am ET

I really would like Mr. Haggard to stop talking. I had watched a Feed The Children program prior to tuning in to Larry King and I was disgusted at the dept of the "me,me,me,me,me" conversation I was hearing from this man. Let me set the record straight – WE DO NOT CARE. I predict that Mr. Haggard has not had his last fling with a young man.

Maria   February 2nd, 2009 1:10 am ET

Ted Haggard lied to his congregation all these years...he got caught and now is trying to repair his image by dealing with his "Demons". When interviewed by Larry King, he said everyone has a dark side...he does not acknowledge that controlling this dark side is what makes you human. He would not have "come out of the closet" had he not been caught..

To add fuel to fire, I have noticed that when ministers or politcians get caught doing something illicit, they drag their wives, sometimes their children with them when interviewed by the press...adding to their humiliation and hurt. Why not spare them further hurt and humiliation? Why let them PRETEND that the issue is being resolved, and publicly declare that they still love them...Spare them. They are the ones that's suffering the most!!!

Veronica   February 2nd, 2009 1:16 am ET

After watching Ted Haggard's interview with Larry King, I have so much respect for his wife Gail. Her total support of her husband shows her as an epitome of Christ real follower. Not many womwn can do what she is doing. Many should learn from her and perhaps help save our world from un-necessary divorces from marital infidelity.

Jeanie Columbo   February 2nd, 2009 1:19 am ET

I think Gail Haggard is an amazing woman. S

ted funkhouser   February 2nd, 2009 1:24 am ET

I wish that Ted Haggard could say--–I am a homosexual and it is not a sin. It is not something I choose or something I learned. I cannot change it anyi more than a heterosexual can change his/her sexuality and decide to be straight.

Bobbi   February 2nd, 2009 1:26 am ET

I was suspicious of Ted Haggard until I saw him on LKL. I don't t like that he is trying to "cure" himself of his homosexuality, as if being gay is a diseased state wihich must be treated and corrected. And it's offensive that he and his fellow religious fundamentalists consider homosexuality to be sinful. However, after seeing the interview, it occurred to me that someone who is gay or lesbian adopts a lifestyle that's best for them. One person may fully embrace their homosexxuality, and challenge the bigots and their ugly views, Another may choose to share their sexual orientation with only a select group of people, and another may deny their orientation and lie to themselves and their families. This has got to be a very serious and difficult matter for any gay person, especially so for someone who is gay or bi and living a heterosexual lifestyle. When you have a wife and 5 children, and you have kept your homosexuality under wraps until you are exposed, it's not too hard to understand why you would want to hang on to what is meaningful in your life, The whole thing gets really twisted when you preach a religion that is intolerant and judgemental. Yes, it's a life of lies...but it's understandable considering we live in a society where homosexuals are treated as though they are immoral and depraved,. It's a disgrace. If that's how Haggard is coping with his difficult circumstances, then that is his decision to make. I do not believe he is doing any favors for the gay community. I think he is squandering a golden opportunity to stand up for the gay cause,, but is instead perpetuating ignorance and intolerance.

Nora   February 2nd, 2009 1:29 am ET

This is truly an epidemic. In El Paso, Texas, Similar situations are arising. People need to be aware to stop these men from abusing and assaulting other minors.

Bobbi   February 2nd, 2009 2:11 am ET

La Vonne,

Do you believe homosexuality is an abomination? And that homosexuals should be put to death? Are you even part of the human race? When you were quoting from your bible, you forgot to read the part about Jesus. Remember him...your lord and savior? The next time you want to judge someone for doing something you deem sinful, you might want to stop and ask yourself, What would Jesus do?

I think it's safe to assume that Jesus would not support the execution of homosexuals.

That bible should be taken away from you. You should move to Saudi Arabia, where homosexuals are beheaded and unwed mothers are stoned to death, Y

Dominic A. Rolla   February 2nd, 2009 2:30 am ET

I watched Ted Haggard & his clan's carefully scripted performance on Larry King Live and I found it ingenuine, comtemptable and despicable. His penitent, miserere, sackcloth-and-ashes posture was laughable. As the "preacherman" he enjoyed many years of good living and free lunches. It seems he is now planning some kind of comeback, since the only thing he truly regrets is getting caught and loosing his mighty cashcow. Throughout the interview he hid behind religious teachings...........his forte........... and paid a great disservice to the millions of happy, well-adjusted Gay people worldwide. I wonder if Mr. Haggard even realizes that his "sin" was not homosexuality but dishonesty.................the exact same dishonesty he exhibited during that entire interview.Any self-respecting person would understand that the charade is over and would never dream of showing back up in town selling the same bottle of snake-oil.

paula   February 2nd, 2009 3:22 am ET

Dear Larry and Pastor Haggard,

What I want to hear from Pastor Haggard is silence.
What I want to hear from the world who judges him so harshly, is silence.
What I want to hear from you is that you are moving on to more relevant matters like when is the economy going to be fixed?

get it?

Cody Charping   February 2nd, 2009 3:23 am ET

Ted is still hiding. He needs to come to a full disclosure. Good Job Ted, but I doubt this is the whole truth.

C silva   February 2nd, 2009 3:24 am ET

First i'd like to tell him that the world that is truly open does not mind f Ted is Gay we accept him whether he is straight or Gay.


Then we can accept him. Other wise we have a narcissist manipulating what's in the bible to suit whatever he wants it to be. They way he is talking is clearly of a person who cares more about holding power then being who he really is.

Shame that people still feel thy have to hd who they really are, it causes nothing but conflict inside and unneeded conflict in the world.

Sophia   February 2nd, 2009 3:28 am ET

I just want to say that I think Ted Haggard is a stand up Christian guy. I am a believer and I am heterosexual and every interview I've seen him in lately he seems genuine. I think you have to be a strong person and Christian to address your inner differences and weakness in front of the world. Not many of us can do that with just ourselves and immediate loved ones – let alone nationwide. I give him credit as a Christian because we all have a mirror to look into, luckily most of us get to keep the reflection as far away from the public eye as we would like it to be. He is a great example of being honest and accepting while still seeking God's guidance. Good luck Mr. Haggard.

B.L.   February 2nd, 2009 3:32 am ET

What was the Evangelical community's reaction as a whole?

Traci Harris   February 2nd, 2009 3:35 am ET

I wish he would say, " I'm a gay man. God made me to be attracted to other men. I hummbly accept that God didn't make a mistake." But honestly it doesn't matter what he says or believes, God still loves him.

daniel restrepo   February 2nd, 2009 3:54 am ET

does ted feel as though living by the bible kept him from finding a male life companion.?

James   February 2nd, 2009 4:03 am ET

I think this family is a fine example of the strength of the greatest institution God established – the family. "All have sinned and come short of the glory of God "- it is how we deal with our shortcomings that shows our real spiritual growth and strength.

james   February 2nd, 2009 4:07 am ET

I want Ted to say the truth. I want to hear him say that his homosexual tendencies are not just a fad or that he is just going to stuff them back in his head. We want to hear him say that this is who he is and face the truth to the american people so that society will look at being gay as not a choice but a genenic biological occurance.

Abie Boukai   February 2nd, 2009 4:36 am ET

It is quite humorous how they dubbed it "sexual immorality" when realistically, it should be termed to all as "hypocrisy."

Ted Haggard, I would respect and understand you, if you finally acknowledge that you are a homosexual and that it is not a sin. It is clearly not something that you choose, but rather a randomized, biological occurrence. I would respect you, if you stopped preaching hate against the gay community, and instead, preach a life of acceptance and love.

But then again you're just another puppet of hypocrisy. And for that, I do not respect you.

Sophie LIN   February 2nd, 2009 5:26 am ET

No Matter Ted Haggard is gay or straight or bi, he is a hypocrite. He should make a decision about his sexual id. and stick to it.

TGerard   February 2nd, 2009 5:35 am ET

Honestly, I think the humiliation that Mr. Haggard has to endure is punishment enough. Please don't get me wrong, its not the homosexuality or the drug use, but the trust that he establish with his congregation had been completely shattered and the product of a sham. The true victims in this entire situaiton are Mr. Haggard's family. I feel for them and pray that God will continue to give them the strength to endure this rocky period. I think that any payments rendered by the church to Mr. Haggard is fine. I wouldn't want his family to endure anymore than they already have. Afterall, in all his flaws he was a great public speaker who inspired, motivated, and brought many men and women to christ. We are all human, and judgement doesn't lay within our grasp. I genuinely hope that Mr. Haggard finds redemption and I hope that his family gets back on their feet.

Yris   February 2nd, 2009 5:41 am ET

Hi Larry, my husband and me admire your program. I´m really angry to hear how this man is so arrogant and look like "proud" to all you are talking about.
Lie beside the young man Grant and insist to masturbeting is not simple homosexuality is morbidity and sick; in the same as heterosexual force a young girl; is the work of a twisted mind!
This man isn´t religiuos at all!!

Martin Blissett   February 2nd, 2009 5:48 am ET

Ted Haggart is typical of most of these money making television preachers: "It's not about god or loving god and fellow human, it's about greed, ego and money. To cap it all he is making his way back by using the mass media. Has this man no shame, pride or integrity. How sad!! How pathetic!!

You have to be a serious low life to behave in this manner. Is that right, he was also taking drugs?

alex stone   February 2nd, 2009 5:50 am ET

Interesting interview, but i find it singularly hypocritical that people who have same sex orientation are villifed by the evangelicals more than any other group in the US.

As a heterosexual male who continues to seek an evolution beyond bigotry, i think Ted Haggard best represents the double standard that is prevalent in most religion. Evangelicals represent the....stormtroopers of the urge to 'christianise' as many as possible.

It all smacks of crocodile tears, and two sets of rules. One for the 'rest of us', and one for hypocrits like Mr. Haggard, who continue to preach love and forgiveness, patience and community in one hand, and seek to control other peoples lives and their own determination of happiness, through repressive legislation in the other.


E. LeM   February 2nd, 2009 5:50 am ET

I am sitting in Europe, watching Larry King and I am horrified as to what I am hearing. This man is sick and there is no forgiveness for what he has done.. He has taken his power as a preacher and used it in horrific ways. What would God have to say about a preacher molesting a person, buying drugs and using male prostitutes?

I cannot believe Mrs. Haggard stands behind her husband and supports him. What would God or the Bible have to say about that as well?? Its sick and wrong and both of Mr and Mrs Haggard are 100% hypocritical about their lives and their religion.

OLABISI   February 2nd, 2009 5:54 am ET


allen   February 2nd, 2009 5:57 am ET

i've watched and listened, would someone tell me what normal is.

Abhi   February 2nd, 2009 5:58 am ET

I would like Ted to admit that he is not BORN AGAIN.

Though he may read the bible and IS loved by God; by the word of God he is an unrepentant and unconverted church goer. For the bible says, whosoever is Born of God does not COMMIT sin (1 John 3 vs 9). Ted needs to repent and get saved! Jesus breaks the power of sin.

marcus flores from malta   February 2nd, 2009 5:59 am ET

let's be honest: being gay is not in and of itself wrong if we are not guilty of BRINGING this unnatural inclination on ourselves; but, having said that, gay sexual activity is as sinful and abhorrent as ILLICIT heterosexual sex OUTSIDE of the context of lifelong and committed unconditional love in marriage. However, we are all sinners. Who are we to parade and condemn others for whom we should pray and to whom we should always show forgiveness and compassion despite any misdeed.
Marcus Flores

lucianreign   February 2nd, 2009 6:03 am ET

Is homosexuality a sin?

Barry Hall   February 2nd, 2009 6:09 am ET

Yes, I care about homosexuals. I care for them too. Caring comes in the words forms of caring about and caring for, and genuinely considerate actions to follow.

I also care about the widening aggressive attempts to assimilate gayness into our mainstream culture and to villainize any use of the word sin in connection with sexual matters. Minimizing is one of the most common defense mechanisms in behavioral issues or for use as a win-lose tactic. Another common tactic too often imployed by some gays is to insist upon ridiculing or demoralizing those gays who want to approach their gayness as a sin issue. The needs and agendas of gays to mainstream their lifestyle has desensitized them to another issue accepted long ago and quite universally so, it is sin.

Gays who debunk the long-standing accepted use of the word sin, and ethics build upon a belief in avoiding sin, are surely more of a potential insult to an established culture than what gays may feel to be their insult from the culture. For sure, one implication of the teachings about sin is that sin complicates our lives including our relationships.

If individuals feel their lives are much less complicated by dealing with what they believe to be their sin, who are we to deny them that freedom by device, ridicule, or insult . Should they lose that freedom simply because they believe they are gay or have some homosexual issues?

Let Ted Haggard find his healing in his faith and his understanding of the Biblical teachings on sin. Agenda driven gays do not seem to appreciate his connecting his sexual issues with what he understands about sin and what he believes his sin has done to him and his family and friends.

I think Mr. Haggard is dealing maturely with his sexual issues. I commend him for getting counseling and for pressing forward with his life. I certainly believe some real heroes live in his family. His wife being at the top of my list. My prayers and goodwill are for him and his family.

kingsley anusiem   February 2nd, 2009 6:12 am ET

hating homosexualls to me amount to rasism but i do not want homosexullty to be legalised either

lucianreign   February 2nd, 2009 6:14 am ET

Maybe the better way is to do this:

Ask three questions.
Each require a YES/NO response.

Q1) Is blasphemy a sin? Yes or No.

Q2) Is murder a sin? Yes or No.

Q3) Is homosexuality a sin? Yes or No.

If there is a stumble or a but or a b.b.b...b. Now let it explain its complicated....

Then it is a sign that he is a still in a very confused theological position.

Ruth   February 2nd, 2009 6:14 am ET

I would like Ted Haggard to say He wil never go back to do such activity,once he was sincere to come out and confess and that he really means to stay clean and clear.One thing he should know is that, he is or was resposible for so many lives that were save while he was that preacher,so now it is also his responsoblity to make sure that most of these souls don't back slide because of his scandal,they looked up to him to grow spiritually.We all know no man is infallable,but that scandal was like falling from grace to grass.

Brenda   February 2nd, 2009 7:11 am ET

I would like to say a sincere "Thank you" to Mr. Haggard, for his willingness to face up to his own mistakes, to publicly admit his areas of weakness and failure, and to truly say "I'm sorry" to anyone who was hurt as a result of his actions. Certainly, most of us are not standing in line to talk about our most personal issues on national television, and it has got to be difficult! I respect his willingness to do this, and to actively seek restoration and healing, rather than to just run away and hide from the public eye for the rest of his life, once the issue was exposed. Also I applaud his wife, who obviously supports him faithfully and loves the person he is.

Perhaps, it may be helpful to remember how Jesus responded to the woman who had become involved in prostitution. The religious people of that time and culture wanted to stone and kill her! But Jesus said to them, "If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her." Of course, nobody could cast a single stone, because we are all human and therefore sinners, only able to be saved through the awesome love, mercy, and grace of God. After that, Jesus said to the woman, ". . . Has no one condemned you?" . . . "Then neither do I condemn you" . . . "Go now and leave you life of sin." (from John 8).

We are all human; we all have struggles. Maybe one person struggles with homosexuality, another with anger, and another with a self-righteous, judgmental spirit! We are ALL people in desperate need of a Saviour, although often we don't recognize our need until we truly hit bottom, wherever that may be. At the same time, that doesn't mean that we should say, "Okay, then, since we're all human, I will just continue to do whatever comes naturally to me" (whether that is judgmentalism, homosexuality, or anything else). Instead, if we turn to the Lord, confess our sins, and seek His help, He is so amazingly merciful, loving, and ready to forgive. I just can't describe how great and wonderful is the love which He is just waiting to pour out upon you as His precious child, if you come to Him. There is no situation too hard for the Lord; no heart too broken to heal; no sin too dark to forgive; no chain too strong to break!!!

Thank you again, Mr. and Mrs. Haggard, for your openness and willingness to speak out, and may the Lord bless you both in your journey as you seek to come ever closer to the heart of God. And may He also turn your time of difficulty into a beautiful story of restoration which helps others find the way to true freedom and peace, totally regardless of where they may be right now!

vidyaratha   February 2nd, 2009 8:12 am ET

why larry and oprah not ask ted and gayle whether they test for hiv or other STIs, if was black people you would hear about down low and all that crap..

Daniel Omolewa from Nigeria   February 2nd, 2009 8:20 am ET

Let him who has never committed a sin, throw the stone first. Those were the words of Jesus Christ to the people who were ready to castigate that prostitute whose life was bursted by Jesus. He surely knew the thoughts in their hearts and he also knew the ways of man – that the next thing is "Condemnation".

My feeling about Pastor Ted Haggard is that, he should only be sincere with himself and His God, once he has truly repented, God has forgiven him. its truly not so easy to be accepted back by everybody, but he should just move on in his relationship with the Lord. I truly emphatise with you, may God help you.

New Life Church members need to forgive their former Pastor, please stop condemning this man, there are several other people around who have this same orientation, who needs to be helped and healed.

Bobbi   February 2nd, 2009 12:55 pm ET

Ted Haggard is responsible for his own actions. That being said, the explanation for his prediciment can be found in every other post on this blog. The bigotry, ignorance, narrow-mindedness,, and self-righteousness expressed here is a snapshot of the real world. It's ugly out there. It takes a hell of a lot of courage to come up against this hate. And I can only imagine how painful and difficult it would be to acknowledge your homosexuality amongst a peer group who thinks you should burn in hell. Heck, he even thinks he should burn in hell.

Ted Haggard 's actions are not what's important here. He is the embodiment of our bitter, unenlightened and homophobic society.

I wish him peace.

"to thine own self be true"

Bobbi   February 2nd, 2009 1:32 pm ET


I am absolutely flabbergasted and stunned by your post.

You don't want homosexuality to be legalized?

Does that mean you think it is currently illegal to be gay?

Perhaps you do not live in the US, but live where homosexuality is illegal? If that's even possible...

I hope you only made a typo here. Otherwise, my advice to you is to run away from home, where you apparently been indoctrinated with ignorance.

Good luck Kingsley!

Bobbi   February 2nd, 2009 1:51 pm ET


I mispoke in my post. Looks like I'm the one who's ignorant. I'm sorry if I offended you.


PLEASE?   February 2nd, 2009 3:36 pm ET


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justsaying   February 2nd, 2009 4:21 pm ET

ask him to stop giving people a license to do what they do! people want to feel good about who they are and they want others to approve. if it is so right why do they need my appoval? i don't want to be a partner in crime to anyones wrong doing!!!!!

Bobbi   February 2nd, 2009 5:16 pm ET


I don't think people give a crap if YOUR "god" does not accept homosexuality.

He's YOUR "god".

Bobby   February 2nd, 2009 5:56 pm ET

I want to hear him say that he is a lying bigot who persecuted homosexuals to hide his own sexual identity. I want him to admit that he is a coward who hides behind the Bible and the "word of god." He is a spreader of hate and a disgraceful human being. People like him, people who spread hatred instead of acceptance, are why millions of Americans are denied basic human rights. He needs to run back into his cave and hide from the Christian community that finds him disgusting and the LGBT community that finds him abhorrent. I want to hear him admit to all of those things, but because he is a truly bad person, he never will.

Annie   February 2nd, 2009 8:09 pm ET

GOOD for Haggard! Good that he came out with the truth!
It is a hard and difficult challenge for any one person to reveal the truth of one's own private, dark, hidden secrets; and I believe all humans have concealed secret(s) at one time or another in their lives .

It appears that the past-acts committed by Mr. Haggard were mainly lead by "FEAR", which resulted in him "HIDING" his closely guarded, dark secrets. His fears only "FED" and perpetuated more alarming, stressful acts and/or thoughts in his life, as I'm sure every human being has experienced similar out comes who has allowed their life to be lead by fear. Besides, what human being doesn't have a dark secret in their life?

Final point is, challenge the fear by always telling the truth, even when I don't always practice what I preach! And that's my point.

Mariah from Texas   February 2nd, 2009 10:45 pm ET

In a way, I sort of feel sorry for Haggard. The man is a product of brainwashing Christianity. His whole life was a lie. This is what happens when you live a life trying to do what the "Bible" tells you to do. (Mind you, God did NOT write the bible, people did). Yes, Haggard lied to a bunch of people and bashed gays during his ministry, but for what reason? Because he was trying to live a "Holy life" and trying to appear to be perfect. This is a big wake up call that lets us know that we should live up to our own truth, not our parents, friends, or religions truth. If he could have lived a life free of religious "commandments" none of this would have happened. Maybe Christians should think twice about what they let their children learn in church. And a comment for the angry ex- follwers of his: YOU are not perfect either. And by you not forgiving Haggard for his "sins" you can't free yourself from your own. Remember that.

Alicha   February 2nd, 2009 11:29 pm ET

Homosexualality is not going away. Its Natures DIVINE way of controlling the human population. When religous leaders understand this they will stop using the bible to bash the gay community or condem adult entertainment or even stop teenage sex. From the moment you hit puberty to supress hormonal needs is as futile as trying to stop a storm, its governed by natures laws that will not submit to mans law. What we can do is understand what we are dealing with and seek to harmonize. Human kind is ready for the truth and God is sharing it with us threw science. . Organized religion will fall by its own self rightous lies as it has done more damage by promoting sepratism, hate,and fear then it has ever united the world.

justsaying   February 3rd, 2009 3:44 pm ET

bobbi, i guess we should accept any and everything that people proclaim to be! thugs, killers, robbers, you name it ! we should just go along with it because he or she wants us to thats just the way he was or she was born. (morals ) where do they apply???.

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VIRGINIA MAN   February 4th, 2009 11:20 am ET

what is openly gay? i'm a man when i come out of the house, and anyone who is not blind can see that fact.. i do know a woman when i see one. so i ask you, are people who say they are gay aliens from another planet ? you are a male or female. i don't think we can be both or in between.....i do believe being born one or the other defines which one GOD wanted us to be.. now whom you choose to lay with is another whole subject...

Rich   February 6th, 2009 11:27 am ET

The bible thumpers (again, no caps needed) on this blog are ridiculous. They wave their "faith" around like a banner and have no idea what they're talking about. Did any of you religious freaks know that there were originally 33 gospels? Did you know that these tests of the new testament were written at least 60 years post mortem and that the writers never even met Jesus?? Did you also know that this country was NOT founded on "christian" principles and that "In God We Trust" was not added to the dollar bill until 1948?? It is SECULAR values that have allowed us to make such progress. The hypocrisy of these idiots is astounding. They moralize about scientific advances like stem cell research until it benefits one of their toothless kin, and then it's a different story. It's a shame that in America, these kind of people are doing so much of the procreating and inflicting mental/emotional cripples on the rest of us. Stop acting like babies and lining the pockets of lying pastors/preachers just because you are afraid and spiritually lazy!

Again, the word "homosexual" never appears in any of the original manuscripts, and Jesus never says anything about "men who lie with men...". Get a grip!!!!!!!!

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